Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love you–thank you for stopping by. I’m writing about meal planning today. Here’s some lovely red beans I made the other day. Somebody asked about it on social media, so meal planning is on my mind. It’s one of my favorite survival strategies. I use meal planning as… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve changed so much, since Ming and I moved to Oregon last year. Yay–I’m so grateful for everything I’ve learned. A favorite way I’ve changed is I’ve become comfortable cooking for community. Food is love. Many a baby is fed by the body of their own mama. We… Read More »
Hello–how are you? Something hurting me lately is being pathologized by people who don’t understand what I’m doing. They have not seen someone do quite what I’m doing, and they misperceive it as some other thing they have seen and don’t like. It’s a way for them to center themselves as valid and Other me… Read More »
Hello, I wrote something about mercy that felt important to me. It’s some truth I sent as a post-argument email. The ideas matter to me, and maybe it could enjoy a larger audience. Mercy = I don’t deserve your consideration. Please give it to me anyway. I’m a creature who makes mistakes. Please see my… Read More »
Hello, Ming and I are in California. We visited my aunt on her back porch. It was lovely. We hugged, drank tea, and enjoyed conversation. I was in a more energetic mood than usual, which was nice. Maybe I said slightly different things. I asked if my aunt would cut our hair. She said yes,… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I was talking to a new friend. Well, she is someone on a queer app who may become a friend or who may ghost me tomorrow. You know how dating-style apps can be. I stay curious and understand that for most, the investments are low. This new friend and I… Read More »
Hello, I’ve been thinking about how I maintain my mental health on the road. Maybe you could use these ideas also! These are some challenges of travel that I struggle with. access to food that’s ok for my body’s needs uncomfortable car swollen ankles so many different beds for my body to get used to… Read More »
A friend asked on facebook what care looks like as a verb. I answered with lots of words and decided to write this essay about accountability to share with you. what care looks like Care looks like all of these. wanting to show up clarity follow thru consistency curiosity loose grip playfulness aftercare treating a… Read More »
A friend told me I’m positive. I told him that I cultivate it. Positivity is part of how to be happy. I wasn’t born cheerfully looking on the bright side. My mom could be forced-positive, but my dad was cranky and bitingly negative much of the time. I endured harm as a child and teenager. … Read More »
I was lying in bed with Ming–he was sleeping. Suddenly, it hit me–a fat fantasy. Wow! I was so excited I almost woke Ming up. clinic for fat people What if there was a clinic for fat people. The clinic would specialize in the health of fat people, and be extra good at issues that… Read More »