Dear friend, Thank you for encouraging me when I mentioned that I wanted to do a ritual, praying for the house. Thank you for supporting my spiritual life, which is the foundation of my wellness. And thank you for praying with me sometimes. I’m grateful you understand the prayer part of me, grateful we can… Read More »
“When is masculinity not toxic?” Ming asked. He’d just read a fake headstone that says RIP toxic masculinity. Good question, dear. We were taking a rain walk yesterday morning, passing by our house’s main garden. Housemates made pretend headstones, some years back? One says RIP hatred. One says RIP toxic masculinity. I think another says… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? A good friend-housemate asked me about fashion. He’s learning more how to sew. He makes beautiful embroidery and quilts. But now he wants to make clothes too. Oh, but what about gender? He is a he/they trans enby person. He doesn’t wanna wear a dress these days. But maybe he wants… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? My friend is becoming a certified fitness instructor. They asked me how to be inclusive of body types and abilities. Yes, fitness can push me out. I do Ample Movement yoga these days, which is respectful and healing. And I’ve had other good yoga experiences over the past 30… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Are you curious about activist relationships? I define activist as anyone who has a vision for a better world and works toward it. ask Ming “How would you define activist?” I asked Ming. “Motivated by a cause,” said Ming. “Someone who takes action, for a cause? I dunno–seems like there… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing today? I was thinking how I get attached to untrustworthy avoidant dudes who kick me. Some harder than others. It has to do with power. There are many ways to conceptualize this problem. How I tell the story to myself and frame the harm, influences what I do to… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve been thinking about shame. What is shame, and why do we feel it? Is it ever helpful? I see people feeling shame who don’t need it. The shame drains their energy like a hole in a bucket. Then the people who do great wrongs are not feeling shame. Hmm–why… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person. Some background info will help you be respectful. So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »
Power in relationships is troubling me. I think about power all day–systems, families, governments, how decisions are made in groups I’m a part of. I’m a design geek now. So I think about power in how buildings and spaces are made, and how objects are made. Power in relationships can be seen in tradition and… Read More »
Trauma as excuse is a problem I see all the time. I do radical mental health and encounter many, many crazy people–I love crazy people such as myself. Especially the brilliant, creative ones. How we talk about our traumas and use them socially affects everything. trauma as excuse I notice some people have a horrific… Read More »