Trauma as excuse is a problem I see all the time. I do radical mental health and encounter many, many crazy people–I love crazy people such as myself. Especially the brilliant, creative ones. How we talk about our traumas and use them socially affects everything. trauma as excuse I notice some people have a horrific… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about the part of love that’s giving people space–I’ve been thinking about boundaries as love. This idea is very important to me. You know how music is made of sounds, but there can be silence between bits of sound? The rests are so delicious. Or an… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing, reader? I wrote that post about relationship anarchy the other day and worked hard to state my problem with it. I came up with a few ideas: relationship anarchy doesn’t recognize my family. It’s used as an excuse not to be there for people. It’s another hierarchy. But somehow I missed… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I was thinking about a question my housemate-friend asked during the disability justice / fat liberation skillshare that I led for my community. I realized that confusing people helps. truck dudes It was the part about dudes yelling stuff at me from their trucks. I’m happily minding my own business, riding… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? This is about my favorite aftercare. I went to the dentist, which is traumatic at the best of times. I’d cracked a tooth. How in the hell did I crack a tooth? I blame pistachios. Lately pistachios were my favorite food. Yes, they are delicious. But hmm, you’re not supposed to… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I was thinking about my problem with relationship anarchy and wanted to explain. You’d think I would like it. I love relationships, and I’m an anarchist. But no–I am not a relationship anarchist. I’ve had friends who do relationship anarchy, and I read a manifesto some years ago. freedom Freedom… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I was thinking of myself as a cycle breaker, while I was doing some writing the other day. My writing was an internal family memo that I might turn into something later. One of countless random googledocs that could become a zine or course or megapost. Or something I could… Read More »
Hello, I can’t be around people for very long each day. Being social is hard for me. I have social differences and sensory differences of autism which wear me out fast. Always I’ve blamed myself for this and put it on me for being a messed up person. It wasn’t until yesterday that I realized… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about content warnings as a way to help people navigate conversations and social connections. helpful Do you like content warnings? I find them very helpful. They help me know what I should / should not engage. They seem respectful. They’ve given me a useful heads up, about… Read More »
Hola! I’d like to tell you a story about a keychain depicting the ideal woman. Gender power violence is something we’re asked to swallow every day. memory When I was a kid in high school, there was a boy in my journalism class. He was white, rich, conservative, in AP classes, and considered very smart. … Read More »