Hello, reader. What’s shakin’? I’ve been living in community in Oregon for four months now. Before, Ming and I lived in community in Las Vegas for seven years. We lived for a month at a permaculture farm in Ojai, California over the summer. I thought people were doing community for reasons like mine. Wow, I… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I was asking Ming which of my needs he helps meet. That was a cool conversation. He told me some ideas that surprised me. One surprise was my need for someone safe to project onto. projection Ming is the person who taught me that so much of social interaction is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Looks like I never posted about recently roasting chiles at home. Here in Oregon we can roast chiles like champs. It’s not just for California and Nevada, I have learned! fire At our request, our housemate made a fire in the backyard. They’d had a long day at work. I… Read More »
“Are you making fun of my ways?” I asked Ming. “No,” he said. I had made some vegan, gluten-free lasagna for the house. It was a little bit dry, and I was concerned it would get drier. So I used the spatula to put water on the lasagna from the sink. I sprinkled the water… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I were talking about gender, as we often do. Ming was telling me an aspect of enbies I don’t always think of. He was telling me how there’s not a messed up team spirit like cis men have. Cis men are pro-men and like they have to… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I made a new needs list. what I want–in this house and generally to show up as my whole self give + receive respect my skills & gifts used – recognized -appreciated good investments emotionally spiritually – the amount that works for me to be included pleasure to try… Read More »
Dear reader, how are you? A friend and I were talking about their name and pronouns. Kindly, they asked about mine too. I wanted to share with you about my name and pronouns lately. They can change at any time. This post is partly an email I sent my caring friend. easier name I think… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? I’ve been thinking about what real kindness is. I’ve been pondering this for quite a while! But I got a new thought yesterday. My thought has four quadrants. words Ok, so this is what confused me. I thought kindness was word-kindness. If people talked nice to me–respectfully, directly, maybe praise, pausing… Read More »
Hello, reader! How are you? What’s growing in your inner garden? I’ve been thinking about what an apology is. conflict I had conflict with a friend. They apologized for not getting back to a text I sent when I really needed help. They explained why they didn’t reply, and I was like–ok, thanks for telling… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you today? I was thinking about hippies. A defining characteristic of hippies is holding hands in a circle. At the community where Ming and I live, we share house dinner four nights a week. The nicest tradition here is circling before dinner. Supposedly this community has no spiritual basis. But I… Read More »