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disability is about power

Disability is about power.  I have differences in my body and mind; I’m excluded from important aspects of life: social, cultural, financial. Of course everyone has strengths and weaknesses.  Small differences are tolerated, like being nearsighted and able to correct that with glasses. Big differences in mobility and how our senses work, not being able… Read More »

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how I like to be credited for my work

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I’m thinking about how I like to be credited for my work. My zines, blog posts, poems, and art are valuable.  Beyond money, the publishing industry, and the art world, what I create matters.  So it matters how you share. how I like to be credited for my work Most… Read More »

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why I avoid news

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  This post about how I avoid news started as a letter.  My good friend sent out a mass email to her friends about how to make a difference in the current political climate, about 70 people cc’ed.  I read her email and many replies until finally I felt like… Read More »

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sharing with you

Hello, reader!  How are you doing?  There are a few things I feel like sharing with you.  One is a tech funding project for a family I love. https://www.gofundme.com/f/nolans-tech-education My friends in a beautiful wooded area live a rural life doing permaculture.  They are respectful to Parent Earth, nurturing many animals and plants on their… Read More »

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how needs work in relationships

Hello, reader.  How’re you doing?  I’m thinking about how needs work in relationships.  Over the decades I’ve been close to many people. partners best friends beloved penpals close friends chosen family Often I get closer and closer to someone until we hit our big issue.  Sometimes we can recover from that, and sometimes we never do.… Read More »

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knock

There was a knock on the door, and I jumped up. “Who is it?” I asked loudly. There was no answer.  My heart was pounding in my chest. “Who is it?” I repeated. Again there was no answer.  I opened the curtain on our door to look out into the darkness. “Probably delivery,” Ming said.… Read More »

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patient

“Thank you for the 90 ways you’re patient with me,” I told Ming. I have been somewhat out of my mind lately. “You’re welcome,” Ming said. “What about me?” I asked. “Was I ever patient with you?” “I’ve lost count,” Ming said. dinner I was frying some veggie sausages as we had this conversation.  Ming… Read More »

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reactions

Hello, reader.  You know how stuff is happening all around us constantly?  I have some basic, obvious reactions.  But the truth is, I have ten reactions, and some of them are quiet.  If I have ten reactions, number nine and number ten might be tiny whispers. People say I have “delayed processing,” often the case… Read More »

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political embroidery

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I picked up this embroidery book in Russian? for free from the amazing local textile center.  I want to tell you a story involving political embroidery.  Please gather round and settle in for my tale. First I will tell you about the Eugene Textile Center.  It’s a place of… Read More »

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how Eugene changes me

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I love Eugene.  What a green place to live–I’ve decided I really like it and want to stay a while with Ming.  This is our home for now.  I love how Eugene changes me. Did I already tell you about the freedom I feel here to experience the full… Read More »