Hello, reader. How are you doing? My favorite song lately is Man In the Sky. I thought you should hear it, if you haven’t already. It’s by my dreamy missing / deceased pretend girlfriend Connie Converse. It’s an old-timey song from before I was born. I like it because it’s about falling in love with… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you ever wear eye makeup? I want to tell you why I cry all the time. My chosen family member was putting on makeup for Halloween. It was for their costume–they were going as a girl. It’s funny because I tend to think of gender performance as costuming… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing these days? I picked a sacred squash from the garden of someone I love. My dear one told me the frost would come, so take. Kabocha is my favorite. I didn’t have a knife, but it popped off the vine for me. Thank you, Parent Earth. And thank you… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Did you ever have a Jewish spouse who loves marshmallows and other gelatin-containing dessert treats that are not kosher for Passover? Or kosher at any time? There are vegan alternatives. Nonetheless, I want to tell you a better way to make jello. Ok, so if you didn’t know, jello… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to share this meditation for drop. I hope it can help a suffering person. Drop is a deep emotional low I wouldn’t wish on my worst frenemy. I experience drop after abundant physical contact, associated with New Relationship Energy. It’s thrilling how I get high from touch… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love energy work to keep myself happy and well in everyday life, and to heal old pain. Feels great to have multiple people who help me hold my stability. Recently I met an energy worker I trust here in Eugene. Their name is Ronin Quirke–their office is on… Read More »
Hello, reader. Respectfully, I greet you and ask–how are you doing? Do you need any tips for zine making? I hope so, because that’s what I’m giving today. Maybe every day, I’m giving zine. trans rural elders conference I was at the trans rural elders conference, and I agreed to help facilitate zine making during… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about how to build capacity for stress in relationships. Have you done much work around this? I could call it “distress tolerance,” “emotional resiliency,” “emotional skills.” “Emotional availability” too. I’ve fallen in love with brilliant, creative people who I thought were available. But they had low capacity… Read More »
“Fuck yeah!” my chosen family member said. “I hope your beard grows so long you can braid it. I hope you can put flowers and bones in it. And teeth.” I laughed. “Wow!” I said, imagining my beard tinged with gray. Imagining the flowers, bones, and teeth woven in. “Whose teeth?” “I don’t know!” my… Read More »
“I have too much energy in my head, most of the time,” I said. “When I make art, it helps get some of the energy out, and then I feel better.” It was circle time at the end of our free queer grief art therapy class. A transwoman seated to my left nodded like she… Read More »