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Mele Martinez

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I heard an amazing lecture about food and culture.  The lecture was given just recently by my new hero Mele Martinez. It’s about food in Tucson.  Mele Martinez is amazing. Tucson Wow, I love Tuscon.  It’s in Arizona, and sometimes I wish I could live there.  In the winter,… Read More »

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how I got my art practice

“Letting go of body shame helped me lose art shame,” I told my friend.  They were asking how I got my art practice. Yes, I think body shame is at the root of all the shame that has kept me from doing what I need to do.  Healing my shame is a big deal–it frees… Read More »

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open letter to YouTube

This open letter to YouTube is asking for justice for poor and disabled people who have different sensory needs because of autism. Dear YouTube: Thank you for gathering so much music into one place.  I’ve used your website for many years, steadfast as friends went to spotify–even before then, as friends used Pandora.  I like… Read More »

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what I learned in Seattle

Hello, reader.  How are you doing today?  Are you snug in your home?  Ming and I are traveling.  I want to tell you what I learned in Seattle. travel Travel is letting in a lot of info.  I open the gate–nature, culture, people, freewayscapes, trying to eat well on the road, and all sorts of… Read More »

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cooking for community

  Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve changed so much, since Ming and I moved to Oregon last year.  Yay–I’m so grateful for everything I’ve learned.  A favorite way I’ve changed is I’ve become comfortable cooking for community. Food is love.  Many a baby is fed by the body of their own mama.  We… Read More »

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gender dr

“It’s ok if we can’t find it.  Gender was always optional, for me,” I told Ming.  We were looking for Gender Dr. Oregon coast Lately we’re housesitting on the Oregon coast–I mentioned it in a previous post.  Wow, how fortunate we are.  The air is clean, and the temperatures are easy.  I love the fog… Read More »

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story

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  My housemate was telling me a story in the kitchen.  We were cooking our last dinner together before they left our community. When someone’s telling me a story, I like to interrupt them.  I say–wait, wait.  Can I guess what’s going to happen? It’s a bad habit.  May be… Read More »

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dating a fat person

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person.  Some background info will help you be respectful.  So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »

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regulating vs healing

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I’ve been thinking about regulating vs healing.  Do you make a distinction? Is “regulating” part of your vocabulary?  Maybe regulating is a therapy word or seems clinical.  It makes the think of machines.  I’m not a machine.  But sometimes I see myself as a system that can get out of… Read More »

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nipple check

“Is this clothes ok?” I asked Ming.  Yes, my syntax can be idiosyncratic.  It was a nipple check. He looked at me.  He was standing in the doorway of our bedroom, getting dressed himself. “Yeah, looks great,” he said. “Can you see my nipples?” I asked.  The shirt is sheer.  I might have worn it… Read More »