Hello, reader. How are you doing? Sometimes I make a social mistake. Oops, happens to the best of us. I’m still testing out my mouth and how to be a person among people. Communication is important in community. How we talk about disability affects how we’re perceived and treated. what work is My community member… Read More »
Hello, reader. Do you know how to argue? My good friend broke up with their partner. Listening to how it went toward the end, I wondered about the communication skills. “Did you never learn how to argue?” I asked. “We never argued,” my friend quietly said. “Wow,” I said. “I see how that would be… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? How do you feel when you need to use the bathroom at a grocery store, but there are code locks blocking your way? That happened to me recently. Wow, I was upset. As you know, I am disabled–depending on whether you know what to look for, my disabilities may… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? What do you remember about the year 2020? A small group ministry I’m part of had a meeting where 2020 was the topic. The discussion questions were so good, but I missed the meeting. So I wrote out my answers. I’d like to share a cleaned up version with… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Abled people need to step up. I made some memes about it. A friend is having a MRSA and needs help. He lives in beloved queer community in a rural area about two hours from here. MRSA (if you’re lucky enough not to know) is a contagious staph infection… Read More »
Yesterday an important radical art collective The Beehive Collective came to town to share art with us and storytelling. I’m so happy I was able to get my disabled ass there with Ming’s help. I couldn’t stay for the whole time. But it’s the next morning, and I’m still glowing with joy to have met… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’ve you been? Are you very entitled? The word has negative connotations. Too much entitlement is a bad thing. But timidity and self-effacing issues I have historically make me think I should work to be a little more entitled. Then I might be braver to speak up for what I need and also… Read More »
Hello, reader. Are you confident? I am becoming more so, as I’m less afraid of people and love myself more as a grown-ass adult. But I feel annoyed that I need to be confident in order to be taken seriously, especially in community. Being confident feels almost violent to me, especially when it’s loud; it… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you like disabled comedy? I hear comedy about race and fatness. But disabled comedy is my new favorite. I recently heard Tina Friml for the first time. The first performance I heard, I cried through the whole thing. Why did I cry? I found it moving; I relate… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? When I was getting close to a then-girlfriend a couple years ago, she brought up the idea of relationship smorgasbord. We could conceive of our relationship as many delicious dishes laid out before us, and we get to choose what we want. Correct! We don’t need to have close… Read More »