Hey, reader–what’s news? My good friend and I talked about the difference between codependence and interdependence. I loved thinking together about how to build interdependence. Love is a skill we can strengthen, though I don’t hear people talking about that much. Some of the self-help, therapy-type healing content I see around, like on instagram, includes… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’ve you been? I’m going through intense emotions and transformation. I need downtime and rest; being around people is even harder than usual. My homegirl said, “Let me know how I can help.” So I’ve been thinking about how to help me. ideas list Bring me flowers, mint from your garden, rosemary, or… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what abandonment is. Also… What’s commitment? What’s chosen family? How do we shift painful relationship dynamics into something happier? How do we take space / time off in fair ways? What’s most important in close relationships that culture might not give us names for?… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? I’m thinking about how to self-harm. I do it more often than I’d like. Some ways are better than others! cake My homegirl told me about a meme where a mental health pro asks clients instead of “Have you self-harmed lately?” another question: “Have you checked to see if you’re… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I like to go to a special place by some elk to express grief, rage, and any feelings that have been too long stuck in my body. So glad I know how to yell. elk Last year I was upset about an emotional situation. My suffering was tied in… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about how to honor jealousy. Jealousy is so painful, yet we get shamed for it. Let’s find ways we can support each other in all our hard feelings. How do you like to be treated when you feel jealous? I like patience, kindness, compassion, and chill curiosity. … Read More »
“How do you feel about your haircut?” my good friend asked me. This post is about what I learned by cutting my hair. “I feel like my head belongs to me for the first time in my life,” I replied. Wow, I had no idea what that long hair was doing to me. I thought… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love friends who are extremely upset about genocide and climate change. Yes, these are very disturbing things happening. They’re both great violence, like mass imprisonment, racism, all war. I could cry myself to sleep and dedicate much energy to opposing genocide or climate change. But I have no… Read More »
Trauma-informed physical therapy could help many people. I tried PT at a local place with great reviews and struggled to the point that I stopped going. It was easy to identify that the physical therapist touched me in ways that were supposed to reassure me, but just made me more anxious. I worked up the… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you ever use any form of cannabis? I get really scared sometimes (anxiety diagnosis), and I resist pharmaceutical drugs. So it was almost inevitable, I would pick up CBD one day. Cannabis drug interactions are important to know about, for the safety of all people. I want to… Read More »