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wound healing

Hello, reader.  How you doing?  There’s a sign that says “Wound Healing” near a local hospital in Springfield.  A place that specializes in healing wounds. Every time I see that sign, I imagine showing up to ask for help. “Please help me–I can’t heal these wounds on my own,” I say. So many times I’ve… Read More »

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death trauma

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Do you have death trauma? I notice three main paths. We can ignore death, like fools! We can get deep into it–we can become death dulas, plan out how we want our bodies composted, and make peace with death through religion and/or preparation. Or the choice of me and… Read More »

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blessing my knees

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Yesterday Ming helped me do a short ritual blessing my knees.  I want to tell you about it, in case your knees need blessing too. chakras I’ve thought a lot about chakras and where we hold energy in our bodies.  Often I’ve thought our feet, ankles, knees, and hips… Read More »

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poor choices

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Happy October.  How much do you enjoy your life?  Years ago, I used to think my life was crap, and I was crap.  I had an attitude like “I have nothing to lose.”  So I would make poor choices, including staying in relationship with abusive people.  But now I… Read More »

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my body is fat and beautiful

Hello, reader.  How are you doing? Are you fat like me?  How do you feel about your body?  My body is fat and beautiful.  I made a video that I thought you might enjoy.  Please share with anyone. I wrote and performed this pleasure testimony for a sermon my friends Nina and Ariel created for… Read More »

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co-regulating touch examples

Hey, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been stressed sometimes and at the edge of my capacity.  Last night I was toast but needed to attend house meeting.  I love touch as a way to relax, and Ming is so helpful.  Sometimes other friends are open to touch also, and I love to diversify.  So… Read More »

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dating a fat person

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person.  Some background info will help you be respectful.  So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »

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regulating vs healing

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I’ve been thinking about regulating vs healing.  Do you make a distinction? Is “regulating” part of your vocabulary?  Maybe regulating is a therapy word or seems clinical.  It makes the think of machines.  I’m not a machine.  But sometimes I see myself as a system that can get out of… Read More »

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brown rice

“Hey dear, I have some news for you,” I told Ming.  We were driving somewhere in town, and I was chowing down on a bowl of brown rice and kale for my breakfast.  “You did it.  I changed.  I prefer brown rice now.” A doctor back in Las Vegas told Ming to switch to brown… Read More »

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I’m gonna love her

My friend shared this song with me.  Wow, it’s my new theme song.  Thank you, friend.  It’s about one of my favorite topics: self-love.  Yes, let’s be kind to the person in the mirror.  Please give it a listen–I’m gonna love her. What brilliance.  I’m gonna love her too. It’s by Aria the Vocalist; Aria… Read More »