Oh hey–how are you doing? Ming and I were driving down the road the other day. “How much does that water cost?” he asked me. We were passing by a Watermill that was not our usual Watermill. Watermill is a kiosk in parking lots of Las Vegas where people get water that’s been through reverse… Read More »
When I saw the NAMI table at the SWANfest, I started daydreaming about taunting NAMI. Taunting NAMI is a fantasy more than a reality. But NAMI represents the powerful standard belief that the system is good, and we just have to try harder to adapt ourselves to it. Normal is desirable and within reach, if… Read More »
My friend Ariel is an artist and very crafty. She likes to do month-long stitch challenges. We had the idea we could make our own for November! November friendship artalong. I wanted to try a stitch challenge for November, but I didn’t want to do a pilgrim hat or stuffing or whathaveyou. So yeah, we… Read More »
We went to this free event put on by the South-Asian Women’s Alliance of Nevada. It was called Festival of Lights, and I thought it would be a bunch of middle aged Indian women doing Diwali. Happy Diwali. But I was wrong. The women were mostly younger, and it was way more than Indian people. … Read More »
Oh hey, we stopped by the goddess temple and ran into a friend. We talked to her and her dogs. Then we continued northwest on the 95 to Mercury and visited the culvert tunnels. These tunnels for a long time have been a special place for art by activists. I like to go there and… Read More »
Hey, I’ve been thinking about what vulnerable is. Maybe I use the word differently than other people. Ming asked me what I meant by vulnerable, during a conversation we were having about sex and feelings, and recently someone else asked me the same. Vulnerable is my whole life’s goal. It’s part of honesty, intimacy, and… Read More »
There’s this amazing music I’ve been listening to lately. It’s by Rural Internet–the album is called escape room. My favorite song is “I am not brave.” I’m only three songs deep into the album, but I keep listening to them over and over, these past few weeks. I played them for Ming as we drove… Read More »
Respect was a huge struggle at the beginning of me and Ming’s relationship. I need to feel respected in order to feel safe enough to be close to someone and do relationship. Ming has issues with language, and the respect was secret inside him. He needed to learn how to express it so I could… Read More »
Like previous years, Ming is helping paint ofrendas in preparation for the Winchester cultural center Day of the Dead festivities. He paints at our friend T’s house. They will paint through November first–please get in touch, if you would like to help. Please note that it’s not a sober environment. Alcohol is consumed by others,… Read More »
Hey, I would like to express a preference to you. It’s that you don’t use heavy to mean bad. I don’t want to be language policey, but it hurts me. Thanks for considering. Heavy can be really good, like me. This is my body–I love my body, and if you don’t, that’s ok. But please… Read More »