what about Ming?

Ming is the spouse of Laura-Marie.  They’ve been friends for more than 12 years.  He’s brilliant, beautiful, and kind with long hair and longer loyalty and patience.  He’s sixth generation Bay Area Chinese-American.  Helpfully, he’s a semi-retired Registered Nurse.

Disabled and cute, he inter-depends with Laura-Marie all day and all night.  They are lucky to have one another, along with Bunny.

Ming is a parent to two young adults.  He has narcolepsy and OCD, as well as a language-related learning disability.  He’s an artist who writes icons.  As for religion spirituality, he’s pagan-Jewish.  He enjoys geography, hiking, primitive skills, Disabled Resilience Permaculture.  Luckily, he has endurance being social in a way that Laura-Marie does not.  He climbed Mt Shasta years ago with a friend, ice ax, and crampons.


Ming is good at many things.

  • caring for chickens
  • caring for spouse
  • untying knots
  • insight
  • compassion
  • street medicine
  • caring for plants
  • deescalation trainings
  • enjoying feedback in a way most people do not

He’s a double-certified permaculturist.  He likes to eat many kinds of foods, but especially veg foods and squid.

Ming has nonbinary gender and uses he and they pronouns.  He has a bazillion friends all over the place, thanks to many projects, communities, and experiences.  He enjoys serving the hungry, meaningful anarchist work, and energizing fun.  “We’re activists–we should stay active!” he says.

One of his main life projects is trying to stay awake and stay helpful in ways that don’t deplete his resources.

He also spends a lot of time helping Laura-Marie with her projects, like zine making, art, going to nature, feeling emotions, and the Las Vegas Radical Mental Health Collective.  He’s become a great facilitator over the years and a good cook of simple foods.  Thank goodness he’s always changing and growing.


To learn more about Ming and narcolepsy, you can watch this Project Sleep interview.


Also, here’s a review on youtube of Ming’s narcolepsy zine With Intention.

You can contact Ming by email for any reason.  His other names are Richard Lai, Richard Ming Lai, and Ming Lai.  Please message him at  rkmlai at gmail.