“You look so cute! With your hat and bag, and the sun behind you!” she said to me, some random lady, possibly my age, talking to me from her car. “Thank you!” I said. My homegirl was parked on the street by her community garden, and she was pulling out so I could be her… Read More »
Hey, reader–what’s news? My good friend and I talked about the difference between codependence and interdependence. I loved thinking together about how to build interdependence. Love is a skill we can strengthen, though I don’t hear people talking about that much. Some of the self-help, therapy-type healing content I see around, like on instagram, includes… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about what holidays are for. We could say cultural transmission, something to do, because everyone else is. I like holidays to feel my connection to humanity–including my ancestors–which is meaningful. I need to feel the wheel of the year and the seasons. Also, holidays anchor me to… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I made statements about disability for a local church. I thought you might enjoy them. Ming’s is brief but 100% important ideas. I like when he says, “My worth is not determined by my ability to make money.” Being disabled allows him to do mutual aid work… Read More »
“There are a lot of things I love about you,” I said to Ming. “But the one I’m thinking about right now is how when I see a pill you broke in half, I notice how you ignored the score line. That’s so damn charming.” We giggled. “Anarchist pill breaker,” I said. “You don’t need… Read More »
This is a guest post from Ming–he wrote it as a gardening submission to the community newsletter where we live, but it was rejected. I love what Ming wrote, and I’m sorry it wasn’t wanted. I asked Ming if I could share it here, and he was happy. Hello from a new cohousing cooperative development… Read More »
“Hey, honey. What’s a word for when you’re anti-Zionist? Is there another word for that?” I asked Ming. We were talking on the phone. I was filling out a survey for the synagogue that Ming and I are members at. It was scary to answer some of the questions honestly, but that’s the whole point. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How’ve you been? I’m going through intense emotions and transformation. I need downtime and rest; being around people is even harder than usual. My homegirl said, “Let me know how I can help.” So I’ve been thinking about how to help me. ideas list Bring me flowers, mint from your garden, rosemary, or… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what abandonment is. Also… What’s commitment? What’s chosen family? How do we shift painful relationship dynamics into something happier? How do we take space / time off in fair ways? What’s most important in close relationships that culture might not give us names for?… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Happy year of the dragon. I made this art on a religious tract. Christians from the church across the street visited. They gave residents here gift bags that included a $35 Grocery Outlet gift card, some fruits, a hat, a tea towel, a potholder, a large print new testament,… Read More »