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my mustache

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I would like to tell you about my mustache, gender, and how that whole experiment is going. gender What’s your gender?  I’ve wished for a long time that we could all have our own gender, and it didn’t need a name.  Or that we could do away with gender… Read More »

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what I learned in Seattle

Hello, reader.  How are you doing today?  Are you snug in your home?  Ming and I are traveling.  I want to tell you what I learned in Seattle. travel Travel is letting in a lot of info.  I open the gate–nature, culture, people, freewayscapes, trying to eat well on the road, and all sorts of… Read More »

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the difference between support and enabling

“What’s the difference between support and enabling?” Ming asked me. “It’s support when your therapist likes it, and it’s enabling when your therapist doesn’t like it,” I said. Ming laughed–he liked that distinction. “It’s support when you’re helping people do ‘good’ things, like exercise and go to the doctor and talk about their feelings.  It’s… Read More »

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how to be inclusive of body types and abilities

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  My friend is becoming a certified fitness instructor.  They asked me how to be inclusive of body types and abilities. Yes, fitness can push me out.  I do Ample Movement yoga these days, which is respectful and healing.  And I’ve had other good yoga experiences over the past 30… Read More »

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support words

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I hope you’re happy and well and free from suffering.  If you are not happy, well, and free from suffering, I hope you have tons of support.  I’m thinking about support words. What words do you like to give others?  What do you like to hear, when you need… Read More »

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basic needs for close relationship

  Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about my basic needs for close relationship. Ming and I have lived in Kalapuya land for almost a year now.  I’m getting to know this biome and this town, and we’re forming alliances.  I need to be close to people who treat me in ways… Read More »

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genderfucking

Hello, reader.  How are you?  What do you think is beautiful?  Is fitting into a gender box important to your life and success?  I like genderfucking.  That’s when you play with gender intentionally and subversively.  We can do better than restrictive roles. A motivation for genderfucking is cultural change.  I like modeling that another way… Read More »

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story

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  My housemate was telling me a story in the kitchen.  We were cooking our last dinner together before they left our community. When someone’s telling me a story, I like to interrupt them.  I say–wait, wait.  Can I guess what’s going to happen? It’s a bad habit.  May be… Read More »

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activist relationships

Hello, reader.  How are you?  Are you curious about activist relationships?  I define activist as anyone who has a vision for a better world and works toward it. ask Ming “How would you define activist?” I asked Ming. “Motivated by a cause,” said Ming.  “Someone who takes action, for a cause?  I dunno–seems like there… Read More »

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pain and power

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Did you read my post about pain, a while back?  It includes a list poem.  I enjoyed thinking about my pain and cataloging it.  Afterward I remembered many pains that didn’t make it to the list.  And there’s something else I wanted to tell you about introception.  Also pain… Read More »