Hey, reader. Are you radical? That word has bad connotation to some. But you know I do radical mental health, one of my main projects. Radical is a favorite concept and word. Likewise Ming is radical. We’re buddies on that. Luckily almost all of our values are shared: our relationship has such longevity partly for… Read More »
What happened when I waited thirty minutes– thank you for asking— is I looked at the time and did math to see what time I could come back. Standing up in my kitchen, I considered the request. Many media will tell me to do something, and mostly I won’t. But I obey you out of… Read More »
Hello, dear reader. How are you doing? This morning some feelings were stirring inside me about relationships and needs. I was washing and chopping potatoes, cogitating hard. Everyone has needs in relationship, and I’m ok with that. It hurts when I’m shamed for what I need, or when people try to convince me that they… Read More »
Dear sweetheart, I’m sorry if someone called you lazy. Asking for help is sacred. I want to be respectful and a safe person to ask for help. Also a safe person to say no to. The idea of being lazy doesn’t worry me too much because I’m disabled, and I opt out of capitalism productivity… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I have a radical faerie friend Camellia who needs help around gender affirming surgery. Please consider contributing to this GoFundMe that I set up: Support Camellia’s Gender Affirming Surgery. https://gofund.me/00b9d42db Camellia is someone who I’ve known for a year and a half, who is warm, creative, curious, and full… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m a radical mental health person–being real about emotions and inner life is everything to me. Relatedly, addicts are my people. I think a lot about self-harm, substance use, addiction, and harm reduction. What am I doing that’s fucking up my life, and how can I do less of… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? My family has changed– we have new names I want to tell you. They are Quing Bun, Emperor Strawberry, and the Bun Tender. Emperor Strawberry is easy–that’s me. I’m tasty, sweet, flavorful, and red–crushable, fresh, fruity, from my homeland. Emperor energy has been my project for maybe a… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? My trans faerie friend is getting gender affirming surgery soon in Portland and needs some love. She doesn’t have support from her family of origin, and it’s going to be serious recovery. Will you chip in for gender affirming surgery? If you have funds to spare, her cashapp is… Read More »
Hello, reader–how you doing? Power in disabled relationships is something I think about every day. Recently I wrote about autistic relationships on my I Like Your Stims blog. It’s a huge topic, and I’m ready. I set out to talk about sensory-sensitive vs sensory-seeking autistic adults, but it turned into this whole other thing about… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you what apology is for. I have strong feelings about apology and have used it in ways some people have found strange. I’m writing this post as a letter to my dear one. magic words An apology is magic words, like “I love you” is… Read More »