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girlfriend

Hello–how are you doing?  I was thinking about what a girlfriend is.  I realized I have some intense connotation for that word–maybe it’s a loaded word. So I decided to try unpacking my associations.  In my journal I listed them. The left column is more positive, with words like close, honored, and tender.  The right… Read More »

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consensus

Hello, how are you doing?  I attended a workshop about consensus.  It was put on by the intentional community Snake Village and gave me delicious food for thought.  Still digesting it. what it is Consensus is a decision making style that anarchists such as myself are supposed to do or at least have a good… Read More »

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something hurting me

Hello–how are you?  Something hurting me lately is being pathologized by people who don’t understand what I’m doing.  They have not seen someone do quite what I’m doing, and they misperceive it as some other thing they have seen and don’t like. It’s a way for them to center themselves as valid and Other me… Read More »

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crafts

In a Little Free Library some months ago, I found two cool books for kids.  I am a big kid, apparently.  One is about making friendship bracelets and other cord-ish things.  So colorful and pretty–I love it.  The other is crafts throughout the year. What are crafts?  I always thought crafts were arts that require… Read More »

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how Ming does power

“I respect you–I respect your process.  I respect your disabilities.  Yes, I respect your needs.  I respect how you do power,” I said to Ming.  He was packing us up so we could return home after a weekend at the Oregon coast. “Wow, yes.  I love how you do power,” I said, marveling.  I thought… Read More »

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power trip

Hello, this song Power Trip by Klassy matters to me a lot.  I thought you might enjoy it.  Usually music videos don’t make me cry.  Am I having PMS, or is this really sad?  How about both. It’s about kids in cages, ICE, immigration, safety, racism, love of family.  The system is on a power… Read More »

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balance in relationships is justice

Hello, how are you doing?  Life’s good in Oregon.  Been thinking about how balance in relationships is justice. So many people do work to change culture at large scale.  Then they neglect the interpersonal ways that we need to do justice at home too. Please love me right.  Please do justice in love. airtime One… Read More »

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trikeslutting

Gmorning–how are you doing?  A beloved housemate asked me over dinner the other night: What is trikeslutting? I awkwardly explained to her: I live at the intersection of disability and sexuality.  Culture says disabled people and fat people aren’t supposed to be sexy or really even have a sexuality.  That’s about power and fear.  I… Read More »

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throat chakra

Hello, how are you doing?  I was having some trouble with my throat chakra.  It can feel stuffed up. What words did I need to say, that I swallowed to keep fake peace for my survival?  When did I clam up, to protect myself or someone else?  What truths did I pretend did not exist,… Read More »

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I’m not too much–you’re not enough

I’m done being called too much by many people, feeling shame, and tiptoeing around that.  Trying to predict what will overwhelm others so I can contort myself into not doing it is bullshit.  Lately I’m trying not to accept the shame.  My way of reframing the situation is like: I’m not too much–you’re not enough.… Read More »