Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about what we tolerate. Some things I’ll no longer tolerate. It shifts as I continue to grow up. I’m getting ready to crone– done giving the titty to sad, lost babies in the wild. Some wounds, traumas, and bad behaviors are ok– some are not. I want… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Here are some ideas of how to get along in community. For me and maybe for you. say thank you When someone does something for me in community, including emotional labor, bringing me something I asked for, a ride, an idea that helped, food… I thank them at least… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I like land acknowledgement. Do you like it? I’m writing to you from a library in Astoria, Oregon. The people here are Clatsop. This is my second visit to Astoria, and I’m thrilled to be here with Ming. We came so I could worship the Columbia River. I like… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? I want to tell you about pre-reading scary emails. I have asked mostly Ming to do this for me, over the years. Yes, Ming has a language-related learning disability. But I give them a list of specific questions, and Ming will usually do great pre-reading scary emails for me. I want… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about more ways to say no. You know some people including autistic people struggle with social norms. And some people are anxious. My darling spouse Ming has a language-related learning disability. Sometimes word chunks and example sentences can help when we’re under stress. This is less of… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing these days? Thinking about why we pee… dream I dreamed last night of a former community member; he lives at an assisted living facility these days. He couldn’t talk anymore, but he was happy to see me and Ming. He passed through the dream quietly excited. Definitely he was… Read More »
Hey, reader. Are you radical? That word has bad connotation to some. But you know I do radical mental health, one of my main projects. Radical is a favorite concept and word. Likewise Ming is radical. We’re buddies on that. Luckily almost all of our values are shared: our relationship has such longevity partly for… Read More »
What happened when I waited thirty minutes– thank you for asking— is I looked at the time and did math to see what time I could come back. Standing up in my kitchen, I considered the request. Many media will tell me to do something, and mostly I won’t. But I obey you out of… Read More »
Hello, dear reader. How are you doing? This morning some feelings were stirring inside me about relationships and needs. I was washing and chopping potatoes, cogitating hard. Everyone has needs in relationship, and I’m ok with that. It hurts when I’m shamed for what I need, or when people try to convince me that they… Read More »
Dear sweetheart, I’m sorry if someone called you lazy. Asking for help is sacred. I want to be respectful and a safe person to ask for help. Also a safe person to say no to. The idea of being lazy doesn’t worry me too much because I’m disabled, and I opt out of capitalism productivity… Read More »