“How did I get so lucky, to find this love?” He was half-asleep, naked except for his chonies again, his hair so messy and beautiful. “Oh, you have ocd and narcolepsy. You were in the bargain bin!” I looked at his smiling mouth and closed eyes. We were laughing. I imagined the bargain bin at… Read More »
Hey, reader–what’s news? My good friend and I talked about the difference between codependence and interdependence. I loved thinking together about how to build interdependence. Love is a skill we can strengthen, though I don’t hear people talking about that much. Some of the self-help, therapy-type healing content I see around, like on instagram, includes… Read More »
“There are a lot of things I love about you,” I said to Ming. “But the one I’m thinking about right now is how when I see a pill you broke in half, I notice how you ignored the score line. That’s so damn charming.” We giggled. “Anarchist pill breaker,” I said. “You don’t need… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’ve you been? I’m going through intense emotions and transformation. I need downtime and rest; being around people is even harder than usual. My homegirl said, “Let me know how I can help.” So I’ve been thinking about how to help me. ideas list Bring me flowers, mint from your garden, rosemary, or… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? A good friend of mine for 30+ years, Jason Burton, is a comedian in Portland, Oregon. He spoke at a Moth performance in February. This video is great storytelling. The topic of the night was Love Hurts. I like how Jason talks about our shared high school years–I knew… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s it going? I wrote this poem I thought you might like called how to break up with someone. That’s quite a skill which…. how do we learn? I guess through movies, tv, witnessing domestic violence as children, maybe a country western song? How do we learn how to do anything? Mostly through… Read More »
Hello, reader friend. How are you doing? Here’s guidance when your kid is in the mental hospital. My soul-nourishing loved one had friends in this position. So she asked me for my thoughts, and I had a lot of emotions as I answered her. Some of my ideas might sound defensive, because of my own… Read More »
“How do you feel about your haircut?” my good friend asked me. This post is about what I learned by cutting my hair. “I feel like my head belongs to me for the first time in my life,” I replied. Wow, I had no idea what that long hair was doing to me. I thought… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you? I made a list for my friend of all the things she does that help me feel safe. I thought there were just a few things. But once I started working on the list, it got longer and longer. Wow–so many ways. But the list is particular to her. I… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to show you pictures from the rewedding. Sharing a buncha pics is a little daunting, but I don’t want to put it off and then never post them. I’d rather share right away. There were a few photographers–thank you to each. I set up a little altar… Read More »