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slutty lesbians

“Maybe we should do a ritual to summon some slutty lesbians,” my housemate friend suggested.  We had been talking about Sappho.  My friend told me that Sappho was the original lesbian.  Yes, OG. I said something about Sappho being slutty, and how the lesbians I’ve known were not slutty.  They’ve been straight laced and tame.… Read More »

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inappropriate

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  This post may be inappropriate for some viewers.  Proceed with caution if you have an innocent mind.  Content warning: sex. tag team “Do you know what tag team means?” I asked Ming. We were lying in bed talking.  I’d just published the post on Noam Chomsky that mentions tag… Read More »

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my problem with relationship anarchy

Hello, how are you doing?  I was thinking about my problem with relationship anarchy and wanted to explain. You’d think I would like it.  I love relationships, and I’m an anarchist.  But no–I am not a relationship anarchist.  I’ve had friends who do relationship anarchy, and I read a manifesto some years ago. freedom Freedom… Read More »

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breakup advice

Hello, how are you doing?  A friend of mine is torn up, suffering, heartbroken about needing to break up.  She’s scared of hurting anyone and being the bad guy.  So I have breakup advice on my mind.  I would like to share with you too. Sex kindles such big feelings–deep needs and vulnerabilities.  Emotions are… Read More »

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something hurting me

Hello–how are you?  Something hurting me lately is being pathologized by people who don’t understand what I’m doing.  They have not seen someone do quite what I’m doing, and they misperceive it as some other thing they have seen and don’t like. It’s a way for them to center themselves as valid and Other me… Read More »

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this dyke

There’s a new song by Kimmortal–I love it.  It’s a sexy song called This Dyke. Wow!  I like the video.  But I adore the song by itself. The mood is so erotic and nice.  And I like the holy water.  Yes, sacred pleasure and connection with queer energy.  It’s healing. my femme Ming looks like… Read More »

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trikeslutting

Gmorning–how are you doing?  A beloved housemate asked me over dinner the other night: What is trikeslutting? I awkwardly explained to her: I live at the intersection of disability and sexuality.  Culture says disabled people and fat people aren’t supposed to be sexy or really even have a sexuality.  That’s about power and fear.  I… Read More »

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chemical castration

Hello, how are you doing?  I was thinking about mental health, psych meds, capitalism, power, and chemical castration.  I had an idea that feels important; I would like to tell you. what is chemical castration? I’ve heard “chemical castration” refer to the practice of destroying someone’s sex drive with medication because of harm they’ve done,… Read More »

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how I’m a slut

I was telling my friend how sluts are the best.  She did something she felt slutty about, and she thought that might be a bad thing.  My opinions started to sound like a blog post.  This is about how I’m a slut and what’s so great about us. Slut is what a woman is called… Read More »

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queerness is like a sparkle

I was talking to my friend about sexuality.  I told her how my queerness is like a sparkle. energy My queerness and sexuality are part of my energy, spirit, life force–part of my body and my entire being.  My sexuality is part of what moves me through the world.  So even if what I’m doing… Read More »