Hello, reader–how you doing? Power in disabled relationships is something I think about every day. Recently I wrote about autistic relationships on my I Like Your Stims blog. It’s a huge topic, and I’m ready. I set out to talk about sensory-sensitive vs sensory-seeking autistic adults, but it turned into this whole other thing about… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been writing about autistic relationships lately, and it made me realize that what I do when I’m alone affects my relationships greatly. This post is about how I’m bad at parallel play. list What do you do when you’re alone? I wouldn’t know– I’m not there. I assume… Read More »
Hey, reader. How you doing? Self-hate is an addictive process, and I’m trying to quit. I made myself a necklace with amethyst because I heard amethyst is good for addiction. Please keep me in your prayers for making choices that are in alignment with who I am. The necklace has a rainbow aspect. I’ve received… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to share this meditation for drop. I hope it can help a suffering person. Drop is a deep emotional low I wouldn’t wish on my worst frenemy. I experience drop after abundant physical contact, associated with New Relationship Energy. It’s thrilling how I get high from touch… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about how to build capacity for stress in relationships. Have you done much work around this? I could call it “distress tolerance,” “emotional resiliency,” “emotional skills.” “Emotional availability” too. I’ve fallen in love with brilliant, creative people who I thought were available. But they had low capacity… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you what apology is for. I have strong feelings about apology and have used it in ways some people have found strange. I’m writing this post as a letter to my dear one. magic words An apology is magic words, like “I love you” is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I prefer being lovers. Being friends, I have to leave so much of myself at the door. I have to keep my clothes on. Sexuality is not supposed to arrive–sex is mostly not welcome. I want to be all of me. I need places and people who let me… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I wrote a prayer I’m praying every day. I made a new desktop collage, something like a vision board, so I see it every day. On the left it has the fat folks tarot card that inspired my dream to embody Emperor energy. The ram has a serious look. … Read More »
Hey, reader. What’s shaking your leaves? I’ve been thinking about relationship lately–I wanted to tell you that love is everywhere. When I started riding trike, I learned how Las Vegas neighbors waving to me every morning from their porch while they smoked weed could be love. My mom had just died, and I wasn’t sure… Read More »
Hello, reader–how are you doing? Do you know how to pull away in relationship? It’s a skill. Especially in love, I tend to be all or nothing. Moderation is not my gift. So as an adult, I’m learning how to pull away when I get too close, give too much, and commit in ways that… Read More »