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love

The friend who visits from Florida asked if he could bring anything from that tropical place.  I asked for the love of a manatee, the smell of a mango flower, the lost tooth of a shark, a seed from a nutritious tree, and a thimbleful of water from the fountain of youth. As far as… Read More »

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dinner fantasy

“Please tell me your dinner fantasy,” I told Ming. “Ok, dinner fantasy.  So there’s this table.  And Bunny is at one end of it.  He has a napkin tucked around his neck.  And then there’s you, at the other end of the table, with a fork…” “Where’s you!?” I asked. “At the other end of… Read More »

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loss

loss I lost the friendship of one of my closest friends.  The loss shakes my life.  He’s the friend I talked to the most, besides Ming.  We txted a few times a day, and pics to each other.  We had a weekly phone call, shared projects, co-worked sometimes.  I told him everything–there’s almost nothing I… Read More »

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the five things I need

Being able to have difficult conversations is something I need, in any close relationship.  I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, the five things I need, non-negotiable. the five things I need mutual respect Respect is like love, but less sparkly.  I need to be seen as pretty much equal to anyone I’m going to… Read More »

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my hero

My sweetie took me to Boulder City, which I always want to go to.  They have the Hoover Dam there.  We went originally for the Dam Short Film Festival. You know I don’t like movies.  But it was a sweet community outing.  I sat outside while they watched the movies.  I sat on a bench… Read More »

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apology, revolution, four pounds of beans in a tamale pot

The problem with telling people how I feel is they might believe they need to change their behavior. I want to be honest without being controlling. Is that possible? I apologize to people for when I did or said something I was afraid was hurtful, and some people have a big reaction to that. A… Read More »