Hey, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I have a new thing we say to each other for comfort. You are capable, strong, and powerful beyond measure. However, I love you, and nothing will stop me from taking care of you. You are brilliant and have no need of my protection. However, I love… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Are you fortunate to have a loving partner you interdepend with? I’m thinking about how to help your partner before a medical procedure. Disabled people endure this a lot, and as we age. Even if you are helping friends, not partners, these tips might help. Autistic people, traumatized people,… Read More »
“I don’t know how big a baseball is,” Ming said, setting the bowl of rice before me. I looked into the bowl. “That’s definitely between golfball and baseball,” I told Ming. I had asked for a baseball amount of rice. “Softball?” Ming asked. “Softballs are waaaayyy bigger than baseballs,” I said. “Thank you!” ways to… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s life? I was instructed to write a personal bill of rights, for a queer class on boundaries and self-defense. I didn’t think about it too much, listing what felt important to me in that moment. Then I returned to write a few more, and again returned to write a few more… What… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’ve you been? Ming and I were on an intense trip north–densely packed action and too much driving. Heading back to Eugene, going south on the 5 somewhere near Salem, I was in the passenger seat and offered to toast a vegan marshmallow for Ming. The experience helped me understand: I’m a chaos… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? Happy new moon. Today there was an eclipse, and friends who follow astrological events say it’s intense. I have advice for the eclipse. Some people say if you can’t see it from where you are, it doesn’t affect you. But eclipse energy is a big deal, even if the… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? Rejection is a gift. Thank you to everyone who has ever rejected me. I made this card about it. Rejection is a gift of release. Thank you for saying no. I’ll say yes to myself. It’s on a pink index card in raspberry extra fine sharpie and metallic orange… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? What’s your type? I have a thing for transmasc enby autistic artists–especially traumatized ones! Long haired Asians are pretty amazing and will turn my head. Ming ruined me long ago. Activist hippies I get mixed up with often, and zinesters are bomb. But long term, definitely– I have a… Read More »
Hello, reader–how you doing? When Ming and I were homeless the most recent time, that was the most stressful four months of my life. So grateful we got through that. I want to tell you the four sentences that saved my marriage. Here they are. Your needs are valid I care about your needs. I’m… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about consent and power. Also consent and autism, and consent in families. Consent is sacred. I’m always learning how to be respectful, including better ways to ask hear real answers have boundaries understand norms and social rules know myself spend enough time alone to clear others’ energy… Read More »