Help is sacred. I like help as part of reciprocal relationship. We can build trust by asking for help, accepting help from others, and being there for each other reliably and creatively. Not unsafe trust based on wishes, but broad trust based on experiences. Trust is a way to feel safe and create meaning. needs… Read More »
Dear one, Hurting other people is an inevitable part of life. People get hurt for all sorts of reasons. A lot of how others react to us, isn’t about us at all. I think about being hurt fairly, vs being hurt unfairly. Long ago I led a workshop on disability justice at the community where… Read More »
Letting people go is a way I maintain happy relationships. Maybe it’s counter-intuitive. But letting people go is a way I emphasize someone’s freedom and release them from old contracts. I love consent. Consent is sacred. I want to respect everyone’s freedom. But sometimes I get confused and think someone owes me something. Sorry about… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? After marrying myself I finally belong to myself. My personal power is glowing inside like a beautiful light. Finally I understand that I’m worthy and deserve to protect my energy and reserve energy for myself. Now my behaviors need to catch up. I’m learning how to say no. I’m… Read More »
I wrote an open letter to fairies. It explains a boundary for my emotional-spiritual health. It’s about how I can’t share physical contact casually. Just to clarify– I’m talking about any faeries. Radical faeries in the woods who don’t wear much clothes and celebrate pagan holidays. Faeries who bite. Faeries who speak on the wind,… Read More »
What happened when I waited thirty minutes– thank you for asking— is I looked at the time and did math to see what time I could come back. Standing up in my kitchen, I considered the request. Many media will tell me to do something, and mostly I won’t. But I obey you out of… Read More »
Hello, dear reader. How are you doing? This morning some feelings were stirring inside me about relationships and needs. I was washing and chopping potatoes, cogitating hard. Everyone has needs in relationship, and I’m ok with that. It hurts when I’m shamed for what I need, or when people try to convince me that they… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Could you describe what a crush is? I thought these loppers were bolt cutters for a second and had a brief crush on them– how embarrassing! Ming took this picture at our friend’s house as we helped her pack up to move. I think a crush is when we… Read More »
Hello, reader–how you doing? Power in disabled relationships is something I think about every day. Recently I wrote about autistic relationships on my I Like Your Stims blog. It’s a huge topic, and I’m ready. I set out to talk about sensory-sensitive vs sensory-seeking autistic adults, but it turned into this whole other thing about… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been writing about autistic relationships lately, and it made me realize that what I do when I’m alone affects my relationships greatly. This post is about how I’m bad at parallel play. list What do you do when you’re alone? I wouldn’t know– I’m not there. I assume… Read More »