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polyamory

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Are you a monogamous person?  I see content on a social media website about polyamory.  People tell their dramatic relationship story for feedback.  It can stimulate a lot of thought, to ponder what I would do and read the comments. Usually I’m silent, but this morning I read someone’s… Read More »

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marriage is a privilege

Hey, reader.  How are you doing?  I was reading about the various privileges like whiteness, ability, citizenship, cis-ness, religion.  It surprises me when I see listed that marriage is a privilege. “Whoever said marriage is a privilege wasn’t married to you!” I said to Ming.  Then we laughed and laughed and laughed.  We fell over… Read More »

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what a friend is

Hello, reader.  How you doing?  I’ve been thinking about what a friend is. What distinguishes a friend from a partner?  Are the classifications even important? I’m wondering because I struggle with relationship: closeness and commitment, balance, whether my needs are ok.  Often I crave best friend relationships with more intimacy than usual friendship, which can… Read More »

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cute

“Hey honey, how did you get so cute?” I asked Ming. “Robbed a cutebank,” Ming said. “Oh! Should I rob a cutebank too?” I asked. “You already did,” he said. blues Haha! Good answer! We are super cute, but I am cooped up, so no one can see that but Ming.  My cuteness is under… Read More »

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I hate how white people love

I hate how white people love.  It’s so transactional and cautious.  White people love with an eye dropper.  There is your portion.  We would not want to spoil you with too much.   I hate how white people love the way they spice foods.  A flavor is too big a commitment.  Spices are dangerous because surprise… Read More »

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how to argue

Hello, reader.  Do you know how to argue?  My good friend broke up with their partner.  Listening to how it went toward the end, I wondered about the communication skills. “Did you never learn how to argue?” I asked. “We never argued,” my friend quietly said. “Wow,” I said.  “I see how that would be… Read More »

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what in love means

Howdy, reader.  How are you doing?  Do you know what in love means?  I was talking to my friend; I thought she never fell in love with her boyfriend, but he’s moving in with her soon.  Yes, I knew she loved him, but I never heard about an actual falling in love episode. Not to… Read More »

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if I wasn’t here

“What would you be doing, if I wasn’t here?” I asked Ming. “I’d probably be sleeping,” Ming said. “No, I don’t mean right this minute,” I said.  “I mean in general.” I was driving us home–Ming got really sleepy as we were leaving Dorris Ranch.  At Dorris Ranch we sat in a hazelnut orchard eating… Read More »

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how friends can nurture

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’m thinking how friends can nurture one another. I need support and help, but it’s hard to figure out what to ask for.  Today when I asked Spirit what I most need, Spirit said I need to be nurtured.  Yes, that’s true. I miss my mom.  Ming is very… Read More »

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more travel

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Last time I pulled tarot cards, I asked Spirit what Ming and I need.  My relationship with Ming is the most important relationship in my life.  So I pull cards asking how I can be kind to him and help him get what he needs.  Most recently I asked… Read More »