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nurturing

Been thinking a lot about nurturing.  What I give, and why–who I choose to support emotionally. quiet For the first half of my life, my goal was to stay quiet and dodge harm.  I was different from the people around me in what I needed, and my differences were not understood and respected.  So my… Read More »

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the five things I need

Being able to have difficult conversations is something I need, in any close relationship.  I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, the five things I need, non-negotiable. the five things I need mutual respect Respect is like love, but less sparkly.  I need to be seen as pretty much equal to anyone I’m going to… Read More »

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apology, revolution, four pounds of beans in a tamale pot

The problem with telling people how I feel is they might believe they need to change their behavior. I want to be honest without being controlling. Is that possible? I apologize to people for when I did or said something I was afraid was hurtful, and some people have a big reaction to that. A… Read More »