Disabled is not a bad word. I love disabled people. If I hear that someone I’m going to meet is disabled, I get excited like, “Yay, my people.” And I think of how to make sure that person is included and has what they need: venue, sensory, timing. How can we include their voice? I’ve… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love you–thank you for stopping by. I’m writing about meal planning today. Here’s some lovely red beans I made the other day. Somebody asked about it on social media, so meal planning is on my mind. It’s one of my favorite survival strategies. I use meal planning as… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I’ve been speaking up about everyday disability justice. What are the best ways to bring more everyday disability justice to the world? How can we change culture to help us all treat each other more equitably? The experiences Ming and I are having in our travel and search for home… Read More »
Imagine if the truth about our own bodies and needs was trusted. If we weren’t expected to hand over our power. If medical pathologizing wasn’t the only way to have our health needs seen as legitimate. I’ve been thinking about this for a long time, since a friend told me that people like me need… Read More »
“I decided something,” I told Ming. I washed a carrot and was chopping it on the cutting board, making breakfast. The carrot was going in my rice. “What?” he asked. “This rap I’ve been listening to is bothering me. I can’t do the gunshot sounds or people calling women bitches anymore. I’m done with it,”… Read More »
I want a wider range of behaviors and needs to be ok. I need respect for differences. For so long, I’ve policed my own self for the comfort of others, which I learned before age 2, I’m guessing. I needed to keep the people around me liking me, so I could keep getting my needs… Read More »