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what care looks like

A friend asked on facebook what care looks like as a verb.  I answered with lots of words and decided to write this essay about accountability to share with you. what care looks like Care looks like all of these. wanting to show up clarity follow thru consistency curiosity loose grip playfulness aftercare treating a… Read More »

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what I value in people

Hello, how are you doing?  Ming and I had a cool conversation about what I value in people, and what he values too.  Thought I’d share with you what we came up with.  How do your values compare? humanity I was feeling sad about people: humanity, cultures, societies, communication, relationships.  Feeling like 85% of people… Read More »

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what I do every day

What I do every day changes, over the years.  I wanted to list some things for you. idiosyncratic things gratitude journal with Ming sit in the sun in the driveway, catching some rays watch an episode of Easy Spanish on youtube–this one is rather typical, but I like the part with the little kid  … Read More »

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things I’ve learned lately

Would you like to know some things I’ve learned lately?  I would consider them conclusions.  I experience the world, have reactions, and sometimes it takes me a while to connect dots and decide meaning. These are things I’ve learned lately, the decisions. multiply worker time estimates times three When we were told the electrical work… Read More »

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my sensory needs

Hello!  This post is about my sensory needs.  Also I’d like to announce my new website: ilikeyourstims.com.  I started it last month, striving to meet the need for more autistic liberation, autistic resources for adults, and more varied voices speaking our disabled truths. When I look online for info about how to be kind to… Read More »

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refill my cup

I need a lot of self-care and do it all day, but community care is important too.  I’ve been thinking a lot about boundaries, reciprocal relationships, what I really need, and what being refilled looks like.  I’ve complained about feeling used in relationships and people not reciprocating, like in this post.  But how do I… Read More »

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autism plus crazy

It hurts that countless psychiatrists and other doctors never noticed my autism.  They definitely noticed my crazy, my “flat affect,” that I hear voices and have huge moods.  But I feel strongly that autism plus crazy is a whole other thing.  The combination deeply affects what’s best for us with medication, therapy, and all the… Read More »

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natural history museum

“I wanted to go to a museum today,” Ming said.  We were driving home from Govinda’s, and I was surprised. “Art museum?” I asked. “Natural history museum,” he said. “Oh!  You wanna go there?” I asked. I thought I needed to go in too, or Ming would only stay for 15 minutes.  He said no,… Read More »

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rest

Rest is sacred, one of the pillars of my wellness.  Is rest sacred to you?  Does is help you feel happy and able to continue?  That’s what it is for me.  Rest isn’t optional–being alone, sleep, just doing nothing. psychoactive substances I was at a Whole Foods, standing by the checkout.  I saw a display… Read More »

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raw applesauce

Hello, I have a deep fondness for hemp seeds.  They’re freaking delicious and give me good nutrition.  I like them on my oatmeal.  And I used to like them on yogurt, but I’m not tolerating yogurt so well lately.  So I decided to put hemp seeds on some raw applesauce. First I chose our oldest… Read More »