Hello, reader. You know how stuff is happening all around us constantly? I have some basic, obvious reactions. But the truth is, I have ten reactions, and some of them are quiet. If I have ten reactions, number nine and number ten might be tiny whispers. People say I have “delayed processing,” often the case… Read More »
It’s beautiful, and it’s how I want to live, but it’s scary to be vulnerable to other people. My heart’s open so wide. I need to be vulnerable because that’s part of love and why I’m on earth. But afterward, I’m insecure. Was that ok? Did it really happen? Did it matter to the other… Read More »
Hello, reader! How are you? Do you have pain and / or reduced functionality of your body? Lately I’m problem solving physical therapy. I have a very hard time inhabiting and moving my body in an intentional way, especially around people I don’t know well. Right now I’m on my third physical therapist, and all… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I made four memes about emotional pain in relationship due to being misunderstood. Somewhat the pain is from living in community with autism. Somewhat just about my experience trying to be friends. Some people think I’m a good friend. With people I like and trust, I care, reach out, follow… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what abandonment is. Also… What’s commitment? What’s chosen family? How do we shift painful relationship dynamics into something happier? How do we take space / time off in fair ways? What’s most important in close relationships that culture might not give us names for?… Read More »
“Hey, dear,” I said to Ming. “Do you ever get the feeling your system updated, and you have to re-teach your computer all the stuff you added to your dictionary?” I was at my desk in the early morning, agonizing at my chromebook. “No,” Ming said. “Yeah, I have to re-teach it like ‘zine’ is… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s it going. Do you like small talk? It has a bad reputation, especially among the neurodivergent. But I’m a freak among weirdos–I kind of like it. I enjoy subverting it. I’ve been thinking about what small talk is for. what small talk is for A good friend went on a silent Carmelite… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? A good friend-housemate asked me about fashion. He’s learning more how to sew. He makes beautiful embroidery and quilts. But now he wants to make clothes too. Oh, but what about gender? He is a he/they trans enby person. He doesn’t wanna wear a dress these days. But maybe he wants… Read More »
This open letter to YouTube is asking for justice for poor and disabled people who have different sensory needs because of autism. Dear YouTube: Thank you for gathering so much music into one place. I’ve used your website for many years, steadfast as friends went to spotify–even before then, as friends used Pandora. I like… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? My friend is becoming a certified fitness instructor. They asked me how to be inclusive of body types and abilities. Yes, fitness can push me out. I do Ample Movement yoga these days, which is respectful and healing. And I’ve had other good yoga experiences over the past 30… Read More »