“When is masculinity not toxic?” Ming asked. He’d just read a fake headstone that says RIP toxic masculinity. Good question, dear. We were taking a rain walk yesterday morning, passing by our house’s main garden. Housemates made pretend headstones, some years back? One says RIP hatred. One says RIP toxic masculinity. I think another says… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? A good friend-housemate asked me about fashion. He’s learning more how to sew. He makes beautiful embroidery and quilts. But now he wants to make clothes too. Oh, but what about gender? He is a he/they trans enby person. He doesn’t wanna wear a dress these days. But maybe he wants… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I would like to tell you about my mustache, gender, and how that whole experiment is going. gender What’s your gender? I’ve wished for a long time that we could all have our own gender, and it didn’t need a name. Or that we could do away with gender… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? What do you think is beautiful? Is fitting into a gender box important to your life and success? I like genderfucking. That’s when you play with gender intentionally and subversively. We can do better than restrictive roles. A motivation for genderfucking is cultural change. I like modeling that another way… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? My housemate was telling me a story in the kitchen. We were cooking our last dinner together before they left our community. When someone’s telling me a story, I like to interrupt them. I say–wait, wait. Can I guess what’s going to happen? It’s a bad habit. May be… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’m on a trip, not blogging much because my computer is half-broken. Soon new tech will arrive. Ming and I were talking about virtue signaling. Are you familiar with the concept? Virtue signalling is when you do or say things to make sure everyone knows you’re good. It can be… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person. Some background info will help you be respectful. So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »
“Wow!” I said to Ming. “Can you imagine coming out once?” Hey, reader. How are you? Have you come out, and if so, how many times? I can’t even count mine on my hands. I was reading little bios of the board of a local org, and I read about the years that two board… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve been thinking about what conflict is. This is related to what communication is. It came up recently when the house began to consider potential new housemates. Our potential new housemate asked how conflict is handled in the house–great question. Housemates Ming and I live with said conflict is low… Read More »
Power in relationships is troubling me. I think about power all day–systems, families, governments, how decisions are made in groups I’m a part of. I’m a design geek now. So I think about power in how buildings and spaces are made, and how objects are made. Power in relationships can be seen in tradition and… Read More »