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codependency

Codependency is a concept to explain a relationship situation many lovers find ourselves in.  Loving men who are addicts–that’s the type of codependency I’m most familiar with, from seeing that in my family of origin and in my own life. I believe the whole concept of codependency exists to blame the victim, and I’ve seen… Read More »

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all I ask of you

Oh hey, how are you doing?  I was thinking about a song.  When I was a teenager, there was a famous musical Phantom of the Opera.  It was dramatic and creepy about love, including All I Ask of You, a romantic, soaring love declaration song. My dear aunt bought me a ticket to Phantom of… Read More »

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how I talk to myself in my head

Hello, how are you doing?  I would like to tell you how I talk to myself in my head.  When I’m suffering and losing hope, when I’m in need of comfort, and when I’m going to sleep, this is how I talk to myself in my head. Is sleeping really hard for you?  It’s one… Read More »

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prayer for Catholics

Ming and I visited a small mission, inland from San Diego in southern California.  In the church we saw some propaganda right by the door, about how Ming and I are not ok in the eyes of God.  It hurt, and I prayed this prayer for Catholics.  Please pray along with me. Prayer for Catholics… Read More »

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what I meant about Bill Cosby

A while back Ming asked what I meant about Bill Cosby in a post called psychedelics.  I mentioned him when I was talking about self-sufficiency, racism, and justice. Years ago I associated Bill Cosby with conservative Black people.  He said some things like “Pull up your pants” telling Black young people to work hard, as… Read More »

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feel so different

When I was a kid, the Sinead O’Connor album I Do Not Want What I Haven’t Got was the first cd I ever bought.  I’m pretty sure it was the first cd.  I’d bought a few tapes and records.  But I heard Nothing Compares 2 U on the radio, loved its haunting stark truths about… Read More »

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I Am Not (Just) Pro-Choice

Hello, thought you might enjoy Thorn Coyle’s essay today, I Am Not (Just) Pro-Choice. https://www.thorncoyle.com/post/i-m-not-just-pro-choice I have been enjoying Thorn Coyle’s ideas for a long time.  Especially a song about direct action at the test site called Present from 1998. clinics I’ve never done clinic defense, but I’ve encountered the violent religious people outside of… Read More »

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psychedelics

I watched this video on how psychedelics work.  Or that was the title to pull me in–it was about much more than that.  How they work was only a small part of it. I had some questions afterward. Why are these speakers all men-appearing? Isn’t lumpen about class, not lack of imagination?  (I had to… Read More »

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things that changed

Here are some things that changed about me.  Most are small–some are huge. meats When I was a kid, I ate meat all the time.  That was normal in my family.  I liked bacon and tri-tip; I come from a BBQ town.  The cattlepeople would roast meats. Most meats I was not that into.  Ham… Read More »

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how I resist patriarchy and white supremacy

In a mad maps workshop the other day, I was asked how I resist patriarchy and white supremacy.  It’s a big question, and I started writing a list of answers in my journal. We moved on to other parts of the workshop, and I was still making the list.  Felt delicious to be real about.… Read More »