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what I learned by cutting my hair

“How do you feel about your haircut?” my good friend asked me.  This post is about what I learned by cutting my hair. “I feel like my head belongs to me for the first time in my life,” I replied. Wow, I had no idea what that long hair was doing to me.  I thought… Read More »

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body guard

“Will you be my body guard?  Will you stand around and look tough?” I asked Ming. We were by the Willamette river at a popular exercise, dog walking, bike riding spot.  Right by the rose garden.  I was sitting on a bench by my darling–a huge bay laurel tree.  My pants legs were rolled up,… Read More »

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dysphoria

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I was talking to my friend about dysphoria.  I was confused because I heard the terms dysphoria and dysmorphic a lot, years ago, and get them mixed up.  Dysphoria vs dysmorphic? Also I was confused because my friend is the most beautiful woman in the world.  Her gender is… Read More »

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RIP toxic masculinity

“When is masculinity not toxic?” Ming asked.  He’d just read a fake headstone that says RIP toxic masculinity. Good question, dear.  We were taking a rain walk yesterday morning, passing by our house’s main garden.  Housemates made pretend headstones, some years back? One says RIP hatred.  One says RIP toxic masculinity.  I think another says… Read More »

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fashion

Hello, reader.  How’s life?  A good friend-housemate asked me about fashion.  He’s learning more how to sew.  He makes beautiful embroidery and quilts.  But now he wants to make clothes too. Oh, but what about gender?  He is a he/they trans enby person.  He doesn’t wanna wear a dress these days.  But maybe he wants… Read More »

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my mustache

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I would like to tell you about my mustache, gender, and how that whole experiment is going. gender What’s your gender?  I’ve wished for a long time that we could all have our own gender, and it didn’t need a name.  Or that we could do away with gender… Read More »

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genderfucking

Hello, reader.  How are you?  What do you think is beautiful?  Is fitting into a gender box important to your life and success?  I like genderfucking.  That’s when you play with gender intentionally and subversively.  We can do better than restrictive roles. A motivation for genderfucking is cultural change.  I like modeling that another way… Read More »

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story

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  My housemate was telling me a story in the kitchen.  We were cooking our last dinner together before they left our community. When someone’s telling me a story, I like to interrupt them.  I say–wait, wait.  Can I guess what’s going to happen? It’s a bad habit.  May be… Read More »

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virtue signaling

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I’m on a trip, not blogging much because my computer is half-broken.  Soon new tech will arrive.  Ming and I were talking about virtue signaling. Are you familiar with the concept?  Virtue signalling is when you do or say things to make sure everyone knows you’re good.  It can be… Read More »

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dating a fat person

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person.  Some background info will help you be respectful.  So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »