Hey, reader. How are you doing? My trans faerie friend is getting gender affirming surgery soon in Portland and needs some love. She doesn’t have support from her family of origin, and it’s going to be serious recovery. Will you chip in for gender affirming surgery? If you have funds to spare, her cashapp is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? My friend Ellie died night before last, and I’m sadly disoriented. She was my community member and a beloved trans elder. I can’t believe she’s no longer among the living. Ellie was a radical faerie, although she never went to the Sanctuary. She had faerie values and ways–she was… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love how apology transforms energy. This is part two to a post from last month called “what apology is for.” I’ve been thinking about magic words, like “thank you” and “I’m sorry.” Magic words play with trust and power, social concepts that I think about all day. Love… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you ever wear eye makeup? I want to tell you why I cry all the time. My chosen family member was putting on makeup for Halloween. It was for their costume–they were going as a girl. It’s funny because I tend to think of gender performance as costuming… Read More »
“Fuck yeah!” my chosen family member said. “I hope your beard grows so long you can braid it. I hope you can put flowers and bones in it. And teeth.” I laughed. “Wow!” I said, imagining my beard tinged with gray. Imagining the flowers, bones, and teeth woven in. “Whose teeth?” “I don’t know!” my… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? Ming’s been drawing these beautiful chalk things. I’ve been thinking about why I say I love you all the time. Yesterday I realized that some people might not understand. So allow me to explain. I say I love you all the time because I’m trying to be clear about… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you ever wonder why I cuddle Bunny? Let’s ponder that for a moment. climate change camp out conference Recently Ming and I went upstairs to Washington. Yes, that’s the state north of Oregon where we live these days. We went to a climate change camp out conference. Only… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you? I got to live another year–it’s pretty incredible. How much life can I pack into a year? A ton! Happy birthday, with much thanks to my mama for carrying, birthing, feeding, and raising me. It’s hard to continue without her, yet here we grow. Ming took this picture of me… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Have you sexted? Some find it risque or risky. Some might think it’s undignified. I want to tell you what I learned from sexting. bottomless well So much of sex is supposed to be cutely thrilling in a light hearted way. I’m sorry I’m not good at that. Sex… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m glad to be asked anywhere. I’m rarely invited to any gathering, to the point that being invited to a party or workshop is cause for celebration. I consider it carefully. Recently I was reading an acquaintance’s social media post about being nonbinary, assigned female at birth, and invited… Read More »