Hello, reader. How are you doing? This post about how I avoid news started as a letter. My good friend sent out a mass email to her friends about how to make a difference in the current political climate, about 70 people cc’ed. I read her email and many replies until finally I felt like… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? I was reading about the various privileges like whiteness, ability, citizenship, cis-ness, religion. It surprises me when I see listed that marriage is a privilege. “Whoever said marriage is a privilege wasn’t married to you!” I said to Ming. Then we laughed and laughed and laughed. We fell over… Read More »
Hello, reader. Are you menstruating? How are you doing? I’m having the period from hell. So drained. Zero stars, would not menstruate again. You know, I’ve been having my period (off and on) since I was ten years old. That’s 38 years. Can I be done now? In a way I’m afraid of menopause. I’m… Read More »
Hello, reader. I’m ready to come out to you; I want you to know I’m transgender. I am not a man. Yet I’m not a woman. I’m nonbinary gender; this is an important part of who I am. I’ve mentioned being trans and having a queer trans spirituality in this blog. But today I want… Read More »
Hello, reader. Are you confident? I am becoming more so, as I’m less afraid of people and love myself more as a grown-ass adult. But I feel annoyed that I need to be confident in order to be taken seriously, especially in community. Being confident feels almost violent to me, especially when it’s loud; it… Read More »
“Is it ok if I grab your breasts in public?” I asked Ming. “Yes,” he said. We were sitting on a bench in our community near the main garden. I was behind Ming, my tummy on his back, spooning him, holding onto his chest with my hands. My thighs gripped his butt. “It’s ok because… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? How’s your gender these days? Do you feel empowered to be who you are, as more people are out as trans? I do! I feel binary gender break down a bit more, and I need that. Yes, there is danger from conservative people, and it hurts to see queers… Read More »
“This is hysterical,” I said, pointing to my face. It was toward the end of an argument with Ming, and we were in the kitchen. I finally took a break to pee then cook some breakfast. “I’m not saying you’re hysterical,” Ming said. “No–I know you’re not,” I replied. “I’m just saying this is what… Read More »
“How do you feel about your haircut?” my good friend asked me. This post is about what I learned by cutting my hair. “I feel like my head belongs to me for the first time in my life,” I replied. Wow, I had no idea what that long hair was doing to me. I thought… Read More »
“Will you be my body guard? Will you stand around and look tough?” I asked Ming. We were by the Willamette river at a popular exercise, dog walking, bike riding spot. Right by the rose garden. I was sitting on a bench by my darling–a huge bay laurel tree. My pants legs were rolled up,… Read More »