Hello, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I were talking about gender, as we often do. Ming was telling me an aspect of enbies I don’t always think of. He was telling me how there’s not a messed up team spirit like cis men have. Cis men are pro-men and like they have to… Read More »
Dear reader, how are you? A friend and I were talking about their name and pronouns. Kindly, they asked about mine too. I wanted to share with you about my name and pronouns lately. They can change at any time. This post is partly an email I sent my caring friend. easier name I think… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Often I feel like the earth that creates the resource. A man sees my raw richness and takes it. I’m not understood as the intelligence–what I create is misread as accidental and without skill. I feel colonized. art This happens to people with less power a lot. I’ve seen… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you today? I’ve been thinking about empathy disability. I keep blogging about that disability justice fat liberation skillshare I led for my community, here in Kalapuya land. The skillshare meant a lot to me and stirred up big thoughts and feelings. I was so vulnerable to people I know so newly.… Read More »
Trauma as excuse is a problem I see all the time. I do radical mental health and encounter many, many crazy people–I love crazy people such as myself. Especially the brilliant, creative ones. How we talk about our traumas and use them socially affects everything. trauma as excuse I notice some people have a horrific… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Hopefully I have a tasty idea for you today. I’ve been thinking about expectations. Many people–especially women–are condemned for having expectations. That’s me. *Laura-Marie raises hand* I’ve been multi-criticized for having expectations over the years, mostly by men who were getting a lot from me, while they gave back… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I was thinking about a question my housemate-friend asked during the disability justice / fat liberation skillshare that I led for my community. I realized that confusing people helps. truck dudes It was the part about dudes yelling stuff at me from their trucks. I’m happily minding my own business, riding… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I was thinking about what a girlfriend is. I realized I have some intense connotation for that word–maybe it’s a loaded word. So I decided to try unpacking my associations. In my journal I listed them. The left column is more positive, with words like close, honored, and tender. The right… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about breaking up. My good friend is about to break up with a partner. It’s been a long time coming. I did that divorce ritual with my housemate a couple weeks ago, when she quit her job. Breaking up is a weird extreme thing to do. I… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I had a realization yesterday. It was that saying I love you to men is almost always a bad idea. Wow, I thought if I felt love or was doing love, I was supposed to say it. Clarity is usually an important thing, right? Wrong! Saying I love you to… Read More »