Dear one, Hurting other people is an inevitable part of life. People get hurt for all sorts of reasons. A lot of how others react to us, isn’t about us at all. I think about being hurt fairly, vs being hurt unfairly. Long ago I led a workshop on disability justice at the community where… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Can we talk about what violence feels like? Violence is scary; I feel fear when I face violence. I want to run away. But the creepy part is being stuck with violence, when it’s connected to my housing, medications, income, or anything I need. Violence is the opposite of… Read More »
“Feeling my feelings,” I could say in answer to anyone’s question of what I’m up to today. What are you doing this weekend? Do you have any plans for summer? What are you thinking for the holidays? Feeling my feelings is the answer to all of those questions and more. It takes almost all of… Read More »
I wrote an open letter to fairies. It explains a boundary for my emotional-spiritual health. It’s about how I can’t share physical contact casually. Just to clarify– I’m talking about any faeries. Radical faeries in the woods who don’t wear much clothes and celebrate pagan holidays. Faeries who bite. Faeries who speak on the wind,… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you how to deescalate Strawberry. If you ever are near me when I’m panicking, at the edge of panicking, over overwhelmed, “autistic meltdown,” or having some kind of anger attack… In some circumstances, it might be best for me to escalate. I might need to… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? Can I tell you what uncomfortable is like? For me, it’s like pain but a little bit less. Like pain that rumbles instead of stabbing. Uncomfortable is distressing. Uncomfortable is feeling wrong in my skin, or feeling like, “Hmm, I can do this for a short time. Then I gotta go.”… Read More »
Hello, dear reader. How are you doing? This morning some feelings were stirring inside me about relationships and needs. I was washing and chopping potatoes, cogitating hard. Everyone has needs in relationship, and I’m ok with that. It hurts when I’m shamed for what I need, or when people try to convince me that they… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I have a radical faerie friend Camellia who needs help around gender affirming surgery. Please consider contributing to this GoFundMe that I set up: Support Camellia’s Gender Affirming Surgery. https://gofund.me/00b9d42db Camellia is someone who I’ve known for a year and a half, who is warm, creative, curious, and full… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been writing about autistic relationships lately, and it made me realize that what I do when I’m alone affects my relationships greatly. This post is about how I’m bad at parallel play. list What do you do when you’re alone? I wouldn’t know– I’m not there. I assume… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Have you sexted? Some find it risque or risky. Some might think it’s undignified. I want to tell you what I learned from sexting. bottomless well So much of sex is supposed to be cutely thrilling in a light hearted way. I’m sorry I’m not good at that. Sex… Read More »