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how to recover from an autistic meltdown

You know I do self-care all day, and I’m pretty amazing at being good to myself.  Ming supports me, and he is very kind to me.  But sometimes, very rarely, I lose my shit.  I wanted to write about how to recover from an autistic meltdown.  Here is my process for the most recent one.… Read More »

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animals

Hello, how are you doing?  We have been having some weird experiences with animals, lately.  Thought I’d tell you about it. tarot Of course, I’m an animal.  I’m doing the friendship artalong this month, and the theme is tarot.  I embroidered myself as the Fool, but myself as a Fool bison in a green dress. … Read More »

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what I’ve learned from this travel

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about what I’ve learned from this travel.  Normally in regular life I learn a lot, but it’s quiet home things.  This learning from a time of not having a home is more intense and quick. I can’t control the pace–life is just coming at me, and I… Read More »

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bathrooms

Hello, how are you doing?  Ming and I are on a journey, searching for home.  I’m thinking about my needs lately, the true truth.  Not what I think I should need, but what I actually, for reaslsies need to feel safe in my home.  A big part of that is bathrooms. I was worried about… Read More »

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travel needs

Hello, I had some kind of autistic meltdown outside of a busy sandwich shop, somewhere in Oregon.  It involved me screaming at Ming, “You’re not allowed to do that to me,” and a few, “I can’t live like this,” for good measure.  The experience made me think about travel needs and how things can start… Read More »

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what is safe

Hello, I’ve been thinking about what is safe.  Do you feel safe?  What percentage of the time?  In your home, outside your home?  In your own body? Do you think you deserve to feel safe?  How about other people–do we?  Do you accept that what you need to feel safe might be different from what… Read More »

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needs

Ming and I were looking for a place to live that’s not in the desert.  That process helped me vision, long and hard.  I started thinking in a new way about what I need.  What are the basic needs, my minimum requirements? Long ago I made a list of what I would enjoy for my… Read More »

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what I cried about during shavasana this week

Hello, I’ve been doing yoga once a week with Ample Movement.  I love it so much, I’m like–how did I survive without this?  My anxiety has gone down.  I feel stronger physically, and I feel supported emotionally / spiritually in doing my life’s work.  Wow, this weekly class is so good for my well-being. Then… Read More »

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how to be alone

Hello, how are you?  A stranger on a social media group for fat health said they need to spend some hours in public by themselves, in a city away from home, and they’re nervous about it.  They asked for advice for this situation–how to be alone in public, as a fat person. Yes, it can… Read More »

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sexual trauma and dentistry

Content warning: mention of sexual trauma and dentistry Hello, how are you doing?  I want to speak of sexual trauma and dentistry because it’s a great example of how people need different things, and bodies differ.  Shame is not a good motivator for all people, and my outlier needs didn’t come about from choices I… Read More »