Hey, reader. How are you doing? Rejection is a gift. Thank you to everyone who has ever rejected me. I made this card about it. Rejection is a gift of release. Thank you for saying no. I’ll say yes to myself. It’s on a pink index card in raspberry extra fine sharpie and metallic orange… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? What’s your type? I have a thing for transmasc enby autistic artists–especially traumatized ones! Long haired Asians are pretty amazing and will turn my head. Ming ruined me long ago. Activist hippies I get mixed up with often, and zinesters are bomb. But long term, definitely– I have a… Read More »
Hello, reader–how you doing? When Ming and I were homeless the most recent time, that was the most stressful four months of my life. So grateful we got through that. I want to tell you the four sentences that saved my marriage. Here they are. Your needs are valid I care about your needs. I’m… Read More »
“This fancy rice is good,” I said. “So nice to eat something besides food bank rice.” Ming agreed. Don’t worry –I am still dumpster diving, and free is my favorite flavor. But the jasmine rice with such long grains felt like a fragrant treat, with salt and the fancy vegan butter. Willapa Bay We are… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you know where psychosis comes from? In my experience, it’s stress– something really bad is happening that’s out of our control, and the body is overwhelmed in a way that goes beyond. Sleep deprivation, stress, maybe too many things going wrong at once, and blammo. It’s more than… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? Ming and I are considering doing significant work at a community we love more than anything. There’s tons to do, so we need a plan to resist burnout. From previous communities we’ve lived in, we have experience. I wrote about burnout in community recently in regards to disability and power. Definitely,… Read More »
Dear one, Hurting other people is an inevitable part of life. People get hurt for all sorts of reasons. A lot of how others react to us, isn’t about us at all. I think about being hurt fairly, vs being hurt unfairly. Long ago I led a workshop on disability justice at the community where… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Can we talk about what violence feels like? Violence is scary; I feel fear when I face violence. I want to run away. But the creepy part is being stuck with violence, when it’s connected to my housing, medications, income, or anything I need. Violence is the opposite of… Read More »
“Feeling my feelings,” I could say in answer to anyone’s question of what I’m up to today. What are you doing this weekend? Do you have any plans for summer? What are you thinking for the holidays? Feeling my feelings is the answer to all of those questions and more. It takes almost all of… Read More »
I wrote an open letter to fairies. It explains a boundary for my emotional-spiritual health. It’s about how I can’t share physical contact casually. Just to clarify– I’m talking about any faeries. Radical faeries in the woods who don’t wear much clothes and celebrate pagan holidays. Faeries who bite. Faeries who speak on the wind,… Read More »