Hello, reader. How’re you doing? I’m thinking about how needs work in relationships. Over the decades I’ve been close to many people. partners best friends beloved penpals close friends chosen family Often I get closer and closer to someone until we hit our big issue. Sometimes we can recover from that, and sometimes we never do.… Read More »
There was a knock on the door, and I jumped up. “Who is it?” I asked loudly. There was no answer. My heart was pounding in my chest. “Who is it?” I repeated. Again there was no answer. I opened the curtain on our door to look out into the darkness. “Probably delivery,” Ming said.… Read More »
“Thank you for the 90 ways you’re patient with me,” I told Ming. I have been somewhat out of my mind lately. “You’re welcome,” Ming said. “What about me?” I asked. “Was I ever patient with you?” “I’ve lost count,” Ming said. dinner I was frying some veggie sausages as we had this conversation. Ming… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love Eugene. What a green place to live–I’ve decided I really like it and want to stay a while with Ming. This is our home for now. I love how Eugene changes me. Did I already tell you about the freedom I feel here to experience the full… Read More »
“Why did you make rice pudding?” my dear friend asked. They ask the best questions. They were heading to the land, and I thought I could make some gluten-free, vegan rice pudding they could bring with them for the Forestry Campers already there. “Well, I had this rice free from the pantry,” I said. “And… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Fiber jokes can be a safe way to get out excess craft energy and family pain. Thank you to Ming for keeping it real about fiber. My darling is always ready to joke with me. crochet “I’m going to wear the blue knitted hat,” Ming said. “Oh my god,”… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? I was reading about the various privileges like whiteness, ability, citizenship, cis-ness, religion. It surprises me when I see listed that marriage is a privilege. “Whoever said marriage is a privilege wasn’t married to you!” I said to Ming. Then we laughed and laughed and laughed. We fell over… Read More »
“Hey, dear. Should we let it be Christmas?” I asked Ming. It was two weeks ago, and I was writing at my desk. “Yeah,” Ming said. “Great,” I said. “What does that mean, to let it be Christmas?” Ming asked. “It means we get to listen to Christmas music mostly,” I said. “Oh, ok,” Ming… Read More »
“Me and Bunny are going to fuck you up,” I told Ming. That was my overture. I meant “fuck you up” like intoxicate you. Yes, I was offering to get Ming high, with Bunny on board. However, we don’t use any intoxicants in our family besides physical contact. So the fucking up offer was in… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? It’s time for seasonal cultural activity. Fall is my favorite. The transition into less sun and almost-daily rain is dramatic here in the Pacific Northwest. It’s time to do fall and winter holidays. The community where Ming and I live had an ofrenda for Dia de Los Muertos. I… Read More »