Hello, reader friend. How you doing? I want to tell you how I stopped hating myself. It’s been a journey. Self-hate is an addictive process, and I’m not going to live there anymore. I’ve written about it before, but I have more ideas. If you’re in a place where you part time hate yourself, or… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about loving people where they’re at. Loving people where they’re at is my values. It reminds me of unconditional love. When I encounter any person, I’m encountering also their view of the world. I gravitate to unconventional views of reality. Queer, creative crazy people are my… Read More »
“You are coming back alive.” Ming spoke to the Jello and gently stirred. “You are returning from the void. You’re returning to life.” “I hear you playing God with your Jello over there,” I said to Ming. It was amazing, the gentleness that Ming spoke to the Jello with. Ming is a beneficent God. “It’s… Read More »
Help is sacred. I like help as part of reciprocal relationship. We can build trust by asking for help, accepting help from others, and being there for each other reliably and creatively. Not unsafe trust based on wishes, but broad trust based on experiences. Trust is a way to feel safe and create meaning. needs… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? I want to tell you about pre-reading scary emails. I have asked mostly Ming to do this for me, over the years. Yes, Ming has a language-related learning disability. But I give them a list of specific questions, and Ming will usually do great pre-reading scary emails for me. I want… Read More »
Dear one, Hurting other people is an inevitable part of life. People get hurt for all sorts of reasons. A lot of how others react to us, isn’t about us at all. I think about being hurt fairly, vs being hurt unfairly. Long ago I led a workshop on disability justice at the community where… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? I saw a video about some displaced Mexican people embroidering maps. It’s beautiful and sad. The Spanish as spoken in the video is comprehensible to me. The video is short but made me think a lot. I’m thinking about home maps art vs craft memories history who we preserve history… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Did you know Ming is the social one, and I’m the hidden home art witch? Ming goes out all the time without me, so people are asking about me. My preference is to stay home and cook, write, draw and paint, and talk to my dear ones over txt… Read More »
“It’s not pointless suffering,” I told Ming. “It’s part of a process.” Ming and I were on a trip to the Astoria area so I could worship the Columbia River, rest by the beach, and go to my favorite beeswax magical candle shop. Wow, what a trip. We also got delicious water from a forest… Read More »
“Is your lox open?” I asked Ming. “Locks?” Ming asked. “Lox!” I said. Ming was in the bathroom, and I sat down on the bed to talk. “Lox like the fish. If your lox was open, I would suggest we bring them with us. And the rice cakes,” I said. We were packing for a… Read More »