Hey, reader–what’s news? My good friend and I talked about the difference between codependence and interdependence. I loved thinking together about how to build interdependence. Love is a skill we can strengthen, though I don’t hear people talking about that much. Some of the self-help, therapy-type healing content I see around, like on instagram, includes… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what abandonment is. Also… What’s commitment? What’s chosen family? How do we shift painful relationship dynamics into something happier? How do we take space / time off in fair ways? What’s most important in close relationships that culture might not give us names for?… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s it going? I wrote this poem I thought you might like called how to break up with someone. That’s quite a skill which…. how do we learn? I guess through movies, tv, witnessing domestic violence as children, maybe a country western song? How do we learn how to do anything? Mostly through… Read More »
Hello, reader friend. How are you doing? Here’s guidance when your kid is in the mental hospital. My soul-nourishing loved one had friends in this position. So she asked me for my thoughts, and I had a lot of emotions as I answered her. Some of my ideas might sound defensive, because of my own… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you? I made a list for my friend of all the things she does that help me feel safe. I thought there were just a few things. But once I started working on the list, it got longer and longer. Wow–so many ways. But the list is particular to her. I… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to show you pictures from the rewedding. Sharing a buncha pics is a little daunting, but I don’t want to put it off and then never post them. I’d rather share right away. There were a few photographers–thank you to each. I set up a little altar… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you what I secretly do when Ming is not around. It’s so edgy! At night, when Ming is out and I’m home, which is very rare, I give myself a treat: I turn off all the lights. My treat is darkness. seed Do you like… Read More »
“It’s Spam Risk,” I said. “Should I answer?” “No,” Ming said. We were driving in town, on our way to a crappy chain pharmacy for a covidvax booster. “Yeah, I have to be pretty lonely to answer Spam Risk,” I said. It reminded me of a poem I wrote about loneliness some years ago, around… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what we call each other. Wow–I’ve been thinking about that for a long time. mama You know my mom called me Marie. It was the only thing it made sense for her to call me, real name wise. If she called me Laura, I was… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I heard an amazing lecture about food and culture. The lecture was given just recently by my new hero Mele Martinez. It’s about food in Tucson. Mele Martinez is amazing. Tucson Wow, I love Tuscon. It’s in Arizona, and sometimes I wish I could live there. In the winter,… Read More »