Hey, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I have a new thing we say to each other for comfort. You are capable, strong, and powerful beyond measure. However, I love you, and nothing will stop me from taking care of you. You are brilliant and have no need of my protection. However, I love… Read More »
Hey, dear reader. How are you doing? Recently I’ve been extra-upset about people. Perhaps you’ve noticed. Well, great news! As of yesterday, I accept human nature. Partly it was thanks to my rabbi. Last walk she told me, “People don’t know what we want.” We were walking through the neighborhood near shul, sampling fruit off… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Are you fortunate to have a loving partner you interdepend with? I’m thinking about how to help your partner before a medical procedure. Disabled people endure this a lot, and as we age. Even if you are helping friends, not partners, these tips might help. Autistic people, traumatized people,… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s life? I was instructed to write a personal bill of rights, for a queer class on boundaries and self-defense. I didn’t think about it too much, listing what felt important to me in that moment. Then I returned to write a few more, and again returned to write a few more… What… Read More »
Hi, reader. How are you doing? My good friend was having some everyday health issues, so I offered allergy and inflammation advice. She said yes– yay consent! So I’m writing a post; others might benefit as well. This is what I do for my own allergy and inflammation. brush my teeth Long ago I heard… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? I miss my mom so bad. Last night I was thinking about her death in ways I don’t usually let myself. Then I clung to Ming as they slept. This morning I’m crying because no one ever loved me like that, but her– that deep welcome. I was wanted.… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s it going? Do you like clowns? When I see a clown, I back up. I’m not afraid of spiders, snakes, or scorpions– actually I worship those animals. But I am scared of clowns. Yet Ming and I have a new game, which is the clown game. listy This is the clown game:… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? What’s your type? I have a thing for transmasc enby autistic artists–especially traumatized ones! Long haired Asians are pretty amazing and will turn my head. Ming ruined me long ago. Activist hippies I get mixed up with often, and zinesters are bomb. But long term, definitely– I have a… Read More »
Hello, reader–how you doing? When Ming and I were homeless the most recent time, that was the most stressful four months of my life. So grateful we got through that. I want to tell you the four sentences that saved my marriage. Here they are. Your needs are valid I care about your needs. I’m… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about consent and power. Also consent and autism, and consent in families. Consent is sacred. I’m always learning how to be respectful, including better ways to ask hear real answers have boundaries understand norms and social rules know myself spend enough time alone to clear others’ energy… Read More »