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Mother’s Day ritual

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I did a beautiful Mother’s Day ritual with Ming’s help.  This post is a bit late, but I wanted to show you pictures and tell you how it helped me. My ritual purpose was to honor the spirit of four mothers I love who have died. my own mom a… Read More »

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how beautiful Ming is

Just in case you forgot how beautiful Ming is, here’s a picture of him in bed.  He was sleeping good, and his armpit is nice.  His beautiful brown hand, his dark elbow, his smooth chest, his serious sleep expression as he moved through dream world.  You’re welcome. Feeling grateful for all he does and is. … Read More »

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chakras

“Is it ok with you, if your chakras are cleansed while we’re sleeping?” I asked Ming.  Yes, I’m into consent. We were going to bed.  Sometimes I like a white noise video like rainstorm, ocean waves, or singing bowls sound bath.  That way we have a better chance of not waking the other up, as… Read More »

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I’m gonna love her

My friend shared this song with me.  Wow, it’s my new theme song.  Thank you, friend.  It’s about one of my favorite topics: self-love.  Yes, let’s be kind to the person in the mirror.  Please give it a listen–I’m gonna love her. What brilliance.  I’m gonna love her too. It’s by Aria the Vocalist; Aria… Read More »

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what romantic means

Hello, reader.  How are you?  Do you know what romantic means?  I used to think it meant going to a fancy restaurant for dinner with candlelight, red roses, and getting married in a big puffy white dress.  It involved money, See’s Candy, and a tone related to New Relationship Energy.  None of that is for… Read More »

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how to recover from dehydration

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I’m well–enjoying my retirement.  But sometimes Ming gets dehydrated–it’s a problem for him and becomes my problem also.  Maybe his brain shrinks–maybe something else goes wonky inside of him.  But he needs to pay attention and wet himself.  No, not like peeing his pants.  Like getting his body to accept… Read More »

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talking about race

Hello, reader.  How are you?  Do you like talking about race?  I like talking about race for real.  Ming and I talk about race often–it’s a normal topic for our day.  Many people get angry, defensive, scared, uncomfortable, annoyed, irritable, mean, and otherwise hard to be around, talking about race.  I know it can have… Read More »

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what communication is

Hello, how are you, reader?  So much, I’m thinking about community lately.  Ming and I are learning a lot in our home.  We had a zoom dinner with a prospective new housemate, and he asked about how conflict is handled in the house.  It brought up a lot of feelings for me, and I’ve been… Read More »

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power in relationships

Power in relationships is troubling me.  I think about power all day–systems, families, governments, how decisions are made in groups I’m a part of. I’m a design geek now.  So I think about power in how buildings and spaces are made, and how objects are made.  Power in relationships can be seen in tradition and… Read More »

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courage

I saw a red candle at a special store, in the witchy area, and I wanted it.  The candle was designated for courage. I need more courage in my life–the courage to stick with difficult situations through hard times, being myself steadfastly, staying honest always, even when I’m scared.  When I’m scared, that’s the only… Read More »