Hello, reader. How are you doing? What do you remember about the year 2020? A small group ministry I’m part of had a meeting where 2020 was the topic. The discussion questions were so good, but I missed the meeting. So I wrote out my answers. I’d like to share a cleaned up version with… Read More »
I used to think I earned worth by helping others. Now I know my worth is unconditional. I still enjoy helping others. But I exist for myself. It’s a great time to raise my standards in relationships. Yes, my chosen family member helped me see it was time. They noticed me giving and giving in… Read More »
“Are my clothes appropriate?” I asked Ming. They looked at me. We were about to go out to the farmers market. “Yes,” they said. “Good,” I replied. “I figure it’s October now. So all clothes are appropriate. I just pretend I’m going to a Halloween costume party, if someone thinks it’s not appropriate.” Ming and… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Here are some funny conversations lately. needs “I want to go to the desert–I need the desert,” I told Ming. “But at the same time, I never want to be in the desert again.” We were driving near McKenzie River for some nature time, near the place we picked… Read More »
This sample day plan meme is not entirely accurate. I message loved ones in the morning also, and I don’t tend plants every day. Often I go out to visit with a friend or attend an event. Sunning is only possible on sunny days. But this meme gives you an idea. This is how I… Read More »
“What would you be doing, if I wasn’t here?” I asked Ming. “I’d probably be sleeping,” Ming said. “No, I don’t mean right this minute,” I said. “I mean in general.” I was driving us home–Ming got really sleepy as we were leaving Dorris Ranch. At Dorris Ranch we sat in a hazelnut orchard eating… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? When I was getting close to a then-girlfriend a couple years ago, she brought up the idea of relationship smorgasbord. We could conceive of our relationship as many delicious dishes laid out before us, and we get to choose what we want. Correct! We don’t need to have close… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? The other day when I was on that road trip with my good friend, we talked about how jewelry works. Of course it could just be pretty or show some sparkle. It could express class, values, interests, or aesthetic. But my main thought about how jewelry works concerns energy.… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I have a problem with slipping into the previous relationship, after deciding on a change. Do you have that problem? My good friend told me they had changed things with their ex. “Then you have done the thing,” I said. “You are like a god now.” I looked at… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’ve you been? I’ve been thinking about harm as intimacy for some time now–a few years. I don’t know a lot about trauma bonding, but maybe they’re related. When someone loves me but can’t get close to me for whatever reason–I set a boundary, or I’m pulled far away–they can get intimacy with… Read More »