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my problem with relationship anarchy

Hello, how are you doing?  I was thinking about my problem with relationship anarchy and wanted to explain. You’d think I would like it.  I love relationships, and I’m an anarchist.  But no–I am not a relationship anarchist.  I’ve had friends who do relationship anarchy, and I read a manifesto some years ago. freedom Freedom… Read More »

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hermitage

“That’s it,” I said.  “I can’t live among people any more.  I’m leaving for my hermitage.  There, no one will incorrectly wash my rice pot.” We were in bed in the morning, and I was complaining that the rice pot was dirty when I went downstairs to start amaranth cooking.  There was some gooey, gelatinous… Read More »

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how I wind down

Hello–how are you doing?  I led a skillshare for my house about disability justice and fat liberation.  It was emotional, vulnerable, a big deal, and at my worst time for energy–after dinner.  To complete the task, I needed to get wound up.  Afterward my friend asked me over txt how I wind down. Txting is… Read More »

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realistic

Being real and realistic about who I am and what I want is some of the hardest work I do every day. I like to take it another layer.  It’s fun to think I found the real truth, then find a deeper truth. how I get more realistic It’s mostly about getting more and more… Read More »

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three year death anniversary

Hello, how are you doing?  It was my mom’s three year death anniversary.  I felt a lot of feelings including grief.  What a hard day to get through.  Just keep breathing, eating, and survive. My good friend elsewhere expressed sympathy, then asked how I was coping.  This friend is very smart and musical, with a… Read More »

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inland

“Hey, dear,” I asked Ming.  “When you look at a table like this, and all the things on the table, do you see it like…the edge of the table is the edge of a continent?  And then you might move the things away from the table edge, and consider that moving them inland?” The idea… Read More »

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cycle breaker

Hello, how are you doing?  I was thinking of myself as a cycle breaker, while I was doing some writing the other day.  My writing was an internal family memo that I might turn into something later.  One of countless random googledocs that could become a zine or course or megapost. Or something I could… Read More »

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the most scary thing about love

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about what’s the most scary thing about love. trust This came up for me because I was talking to my new housemate the other day.  He was in the kitchen, and I was in the dining room.  We were sorting some foods, and when he mentioned a… Read More »

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how to make decisions about healthcare for sick pets

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about how to make decisions about healthcare for sick pets.  An acquaintance on social media had a sick cat and was asking. It’s an important question, and we figure these things out on our own, too often.  Folks responded with different opinions. social media Social media gets… Read More »

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olives

Oh hey, how are you doing?  Do you like olives?  I think olives are amazing.  I love their strong flavor with saltiness and fat.  I love the cultural practices around olives.  How they get rinsed, brined, and stuffed with various materials. Ming and I really like The Olive Pit in Corning, California.  Some of you… Read More »