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wonderful birthday

Wow, what a wonderful birthday.  The night before, the farmers at the farm that we’re living at blessed me with sacred gifts. Tiger’s eye beans, beautiful flowers, tea of tulsi and chamomile, and tucked inside, some eggs from the young hens that barely know what they’re doing. I set up an altar to pray with… Read More »

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music my mom liked

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about music my mom liked.  I’ve had a playlist of music I associate with my dad and his death for a long time.  When I feel my grief for my dad stuck inside me, I can hear these tunes and cry.  It’s helpful. But I finally started… Read More »

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codependency

Codependency is a concept to explain a relationship situation many lovers find ourselves in.  Loving men who are addicts–that’s the type of codependency I’m most familiar with, from seeing that in my family of origin and in my own life. I believe the whole concept of codependency exists to blame the victim, and I’ve seen… Read More »

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what to mourn

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about what to mourn.  Here’s a list of ideas if you need some alternatives to mourning what others are mourning.  I imagine a flower falling into a hole in the ground for each of these items listed. what to mourn Mourn your own childhood.  The good parts,… Read More »

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how I talk to myself in my head

Hello, how are you doing?  I would like to tell you how I talk to myself in my head.  When I’m suffering and losing hope, when I’m in need of comfort, and when I’m going to sleep, this is how I talk to myself in my head. Is sleeping really hard for you?  It’s one… Read More »

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how people talk shit about their kids

Hello, how are you doing?  It’s always bothered me, how people talk shit about their kids. cafe example Ming and I were at a cafe the other day, and I heard an adult stage whispering to another adult, “She’s very high strung.  I try to make her understand how to speak with me.  She’s like… Read More »

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how old I was when I learned about bodily autonomy

Recently I was asked an important question during a healing circle led by a friend.  My friend asked how old I was when I learned about bodily autonomy. Hmm, what a question.  I remember when I was a kid, my dad had bodily autonomy.  People were allowed to touch him only in certain ways, at… Read More »

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Punjabi restaurant gas station fantasy

Hello, my darling Ming has written a travel guest post for you: Punjabi restaurant gas station fantasy.  I hope you enjoy. from Ming So the Punjabi restaurant gas station rest stop had nothing but fried foods like fried chicken and french fries.  But there was a tiny little sign for samosas. We had the idea… Read More »

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art about my dad

Hello, I made some art about my dad.  I actually made it for my niece.  I was supposed to see her when Ming and I were in the area, and I was going to hand it to her. But then her coworker got covid, and she didn’t want to share a germ.  So she canceled. … Read More »

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travel needs

Hello, I had some kind of autistic meltdown outside of a busy sandwich shop, somewhere in Oregon.  It involved me screaming at Ming, “You’re not allowed to do that to me,” and a few, “I can’t live like this,” for good measure.  The experience made me think about travel needs and how things can start… Read More »