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MC Candy Foot

breakfast ingredients “You want a grackle for breakfast?” I asked Ming.  A grackle was vocalizing in the courtyard. “Yeah!” he said. “Oh, honey.  You don’t eat birds.  The only animals you eat are sea creatures.” “Well, that’s good because they both start with a c.” “Uh–grackle doesn’t start with a c.  It starts with a… Read More »

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what I need from a doctor

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Trying to be responsible, I’m seeking medical care and dental care.  I’m trying a new Nurse Practitioner after a bad experience with the last one.  Today I’m thinking about what I need from a doctor. I’ve had decades of medical trauma.  Previously I’d preferred to be shot, over going… Read More »

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marriage is a privilege

Hey, reader.  How are you doing?  I was reading about the various privileges like whiteness, ability, citizenship, cis-ness, religion.  It surprises me when I see listed that marriage is a privilege. “Whoever said marriage is a privilege wasn’t married to you!” I said to Ming.  Then we laughed and laughed and laughed.  We fell over… Read More »

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asking for help

“Who’s good at asking for help?” I asked.  “I’ve never met anyone who’s good at asking for help.” It was book club yesterday, and my former housemate had just mentioned he’s not good at asking for help, as if most people are. I ask for help pretty often–from Ming just about every day.  But from… Read More »

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against diagnosis

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’m not really against diagnosis.  But sometimes I’m annoyed at how my friends seek diagnosis as validation. Why is the opinion of a doctor so important?  You’re a valid person, no matter what a doctor says or doesn’t say.  Please don’t give those gatekeeping enforcers more power than they… Read More »

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like a prayer

Hello, reader.  How’s it going?  How we view one another matters.  How I perceive someone feels sacred like a prayer. It’s like a prayer because I’m seeing God in you, and I’m talking to God about you also.  If you matter to me, I’m asking God to bless you, and bless our relating to be… Read More »

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perceiving is a creative process

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  The world is weird, and reality is full of surprises.  Sometimes what’s true needs space to emerge–it’s ok to make mistakes.  Perceiving is a creative process. art When we look at art, we can tell that perceiving is a creative process because look how differently we draw the same… Read More »

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disability is enforced poverty

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking how disability is enforced poverty.  It’s brutal, and I hate it.  I have SSDI and food stamps, and I’m asked to make do on very little. But also, there are great parts.  Disability is a great builder of compassion.  I love disabled people, and I’m happy… Read More »

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Justice for the Victims of Insurance Violence

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I made a new art: Justice for the Victims of Insurance Violence. It’s watercolor and marker on some thick fancy paper leftover from a zine project I did in August. Ming is proud of me for making this art.  Ming loves when I tell the truth–they support me emotionally,… Read More »

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how we talk about disability

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Sometimes I make a social mistake.  Oops, happens to the best of us.  I’m still testing out my mouth and how to be a person among people.  Communication is important in community.  How we talk about disability affects how we’re perceived and treated. what work is My community member… Read More »