breakfast ingredients “You want a grackle for breakfast?” I asked Ming. A grackle was vocalizing in the courtyard. “Yeah!” he said. “Oh, honey. You don’t eat birds. The only animals you eat are sea creatures.” “Well, that’s good because they both start with a c.” “Uh–grackle doesn’t start with a c. It starts with a… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I made statements about disability for a local church. I thought you might enjoy them. Ming’s is brief but 100% important ideas. I like when he says, “My worth is not determined by my ability to make money.” Being disabled allows him to do mutual aid work… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what abandonment is. Also… What’s commitment? What’s chosen family? How do we shift painful relationship dynamics into something happier? How do we take space / time off in fair ways? What’s most important in close relationships that culture might not give us names for?… Read More »
Hello, reader friend. How are you doing? Here’s guidance when your kid is in the mental hospital. My soul-nourishing loved one had friends in this position. So she asked me for my thoughts, and I had a lot of emotions as I answered her. Some of my ideas might sound defensive, because of my own… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I like to go to a special place by some elk to express grief, rage, and any feelings that have been too long stuck in my body. So glad I know how to yell. elk Last year I was upset about an emotional situation. My suffering was tied in… Read More »
Trauma-informed physical therapy could help many people. I tried PT at a local place with great reviews and struggled to the point that I stopped going. It was easy to identify that the physical therapist touched me in ways that were supposed to reassure me, but just made me more anxious. I worked up the… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? I had an intense dream this morning about an alien and a mystery solved. Not a bad dream, but it woke me up with severe emotion. backstory I would like to tell you my intense dream, but it needs some backstory. In real, non-dream life, about six or eight… Read More »
How I know what I need is confusing. Do you have a problem with that, reader? Do you know what you need? I told my therapist the other day: I know what I need about four years after the fact. Many things I think I need, when I really need the opposite. Or I will… Read More »
“Do you know what a spiky skills profile is?” I asked Ming. We were in the kitchen in the early morning. He was helping hold a cauliflower as I meticulously broke off large florets, rinsed them in the sink, cut off the yuckie parts, re-rinsed the florets, and tossed them into a pyrex. “No,” Ming… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? What cards are you pulling lately? Sometimes when I ask Spirit what I need, I pull four of cups. Then I’m like–what are you talking about, Spirit? I need disappointment? Yes, maybe I need to face that I’m not getting what I need. Four of cups is about not… Read More »