Hello, reader. How are you? Do you know what romantic means? I used to think it meant going to a fancy restaurant for dinner with candlelight, red roses, and getting married in a big puffy white dress. It involved money, See’s Candy, and a tone related to New Relationship Energy. None of that is for… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Do you like talking about race? I like talking about race for real. Ming and I talk about race often–it’s a normal topic for our day. Many people get angry, defensive, scared, uncomfortable, annoyed, irritable, mean, and otherwise hard to be around, talking about race. I know it can have… Read More »
Hello, how are you, reader? So much, I’m thinking about community lately. Ming and I are learning a lot in our home. We had a zoom dinner with a prospective new housemate, and he asked about how conflict is handled in the house. It brought up a lot of feelings for me, and I’ve been… Read More »
“Any stove that’s electric is not really a stove–it’s a glorified hot plate,” I said, pondering natural gas. “There–I said it. Fire is totally different for cooking, than a ridiculously hot coil of metal. Sorry. Cooking feels so different with a flame.” Ming and I were lying in bed. It was early in the morning,… Read More »
Power in relationships is troubling me. I think about power all day–systems, families, governments, how decisions are made in groups I’m a part of. I’m a design geek now. So I think about power in how buildings and spaces are made, and how objects are made. Power in relationships can be seen in tradition and… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I don’t have a ton of experience with tarot. But I’ve been doing it for a while now. I like to take it slow and learn about myself and my life through this cool lens. The seven of swords is classic about theft and deception. But it has also felt… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Have you ever identified as punk? I’ve been a zinester for a long time. Punk is part of that whole worldview. If no one else is making the media you need, make it yourself. There’s no need to wait for experts. What’s an expert anyway? You can become one. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Anxiety and pain are a bad combination, especially for insomnia. Lately my anxiety is high, and my pain is high. So I’m working hard to sleep. A housemate will ask me in the kitchen how I am, and I’ll often enthusiastically say, “I slept great last night!” It’s such an… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Last night I had anxiety. This morning I was extremely glad to wake up on the side of the living. It’s like–Wow. I made it to the light of day. Panic is possible in the daytime. But night can fuck me up. I was crying in bed before a stressful… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Are you friends with any TERFs? TERFs are trans-exclusionary radical feminists. That’s the acronym. In my experience they’re old lesbians who are cranky about gender. They might call transwomen “a man in a dress.” They feel that woman-ness is an exclusive club they suffered to be in, so they get… Read More »