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something hurting me

Hello–how are you?  Something hurting me lately is being pathologized by people who don’t understand what I’m doing.  They have not seen someone do quite what I’m doing, and they misperceive it as some other thing they have seen and don’t like. It’s a way for them to center themselves as valid and Other me… Read More »

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balance in relationships is justice

Hello, how are you doing?  Life’s good in Oregon.  Been thinking about how balance in relationships is justice. So many people do work to change culture at large scale.  Then they neglect the interpersonal ways that we need to do justice at home too. Please love me right.  Please do justice in love. airtime One… Read More »

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out of gender

“We’re all out of gender.  So I’ll go to the store,” Ming said. “What?” I asked. “I’ll go to the store for gender.  And lettuce for the salad,” he said. “Why would you buy gender?” I asked.  “We have way too much gender around!  Let us run out!” “Ginger.  We’re out of ginger,” he said.… Read More »

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trikeslutting

Gmorning–how are you doing?  A beloved housemate asked me over dinner the other night: What is trikeslutting? I awkwardly explained to her: I live at the intersection of disability and sexuality.  Culture says disabled people and fat people aren’t supposed to be sexy or really even have a sexuality.  That’s about power and fear.  I… Read More »

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other cultures

“Other cultures are not failed attempts at being you,” is a quote I like.  Often I feel like a failed attempt at doing culture.  It could be an autism thing, or just having different values and skills.  Disability is isolating and hard in so many ways. Do you feel like a successful member of your… Read More »

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the ideal woman

Hola!  I’d like to tell you a story about a keychain depicting the ideal woman.  Gender power violence is something we’re asked to swallow every day. memory When I was a kid in high school, there was a boy in my journalism class.  He was white, rich, conservative, in AP classes, and considered very smart. … Read More »

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land back

Hello.  How are you doing?  Thinking about land back.  I’ve heard the phrase a lot lately.  Feeling the ideas deep inside me. Power is an important concept I think about all the time.  I see how power is central to this issue of land, Indigenous people, caring for Parent Earth, money, capitalism, and mainstream consumption… Read More »

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what happened

Hello, how you doing?  I’m ready to write about what happened.  I mean what happened when Ming and I tried to move in June and failed, which launched our four and a half months of homelessness. This tale is a bit long, so please make some tea or what have you and settle in for… Read More »

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pregnant frog empress holding hands with death

Hello, how are you doing?  Nearly finishing up my Friendship Artalong tarot month, I embroidered a pregnant frog empress holding hands with death.  Probably that’s not something you see every day. I started at a round breast.  Then the pregnant belly.  I looked online at pics of women sitting cross legged, getting ideas for the… Read More »

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urinals project

Hello, how are you doing?  We have a urinals project.  Here are some pics. pleading with Ming “Please, honey!  Don’t get arrested for taking pictures in a public restroom!  We have enough problems in our life.  Sex offender does not need to be one of them!” I cautioned Ming. Ming told me how the dynamic… Read More »