Hello, reader. How are you doing? There’s a sign on my fridge–I made it to be kinder to Ming and for my own health and well-being. It says “That’s just language, please move on!” I made this sign to improve arguments with Ming. Often when we argue, it has to do with something Ming said… Read More »
Disabled is not a bad word. I love disabled people. If I hear that someone I’m going to meet is disabled, I get excited like, “Yay, my people.” And I think of how to make sure that person is included and has what they need: venue, sensory, timing. How can we include their voice? I’ve… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? You know my darling Ming has narcolepsy, a sleep disorder. Everyone has been sleepy, but only some people have narcolepsy. I’m always thinking about being disabled in community, and how disabled people are understood and misunderstood, in our homes and out in the world. I want to help make… Read More »
Hello, reader–how are you doing? How do you navigate age difference? I had a lot of older friends when I was young. Now that I’m middle aged, I have a lot of younger friends. You know me–I see people as people. I’m not scared off by difference. In fact I seek it out. Difference is… Read More »
Power in relationships is troubling me. I think about power all day–systems, families, governments, how decisions are made in groups I’m a part of. I’m a design geek now. So I think about power in how buildings and spaces are made, and how objects are made. Power in relationships can be seen in tradition and… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I made a new needs list. what I want–in this house and generally to show up as my whole self give + receive respect my skills & gifts used – recognized -appreciated good investments emotionally spiritually – the amount that works for me to be included pleasure to try… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about “being with.” Ming and I do a lot of care for each other, including being with. game I was playing a game with friends, my second RPG ever, over zoom. I was a toad who had been given psychedelics by a kind witch. We were on… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about the part of love that’s giving people space–I’ve been thinking about boundaries as love. This idea is very important to me. You know how music is made of sounds, but there can be silence between bits of sound? The rests are so delicious. Or an… Read More »
Being real and realistic about who I am and what I want is some of the hardest work I do every day. I like to take it another layer. It’s fun to think I found the real truth, then find a deeper truth. how I get more realistic It’s mostly about getting more and more… Read More »
“I respect you–I respect your process. I respect your disabilities. Yes, I respect your needs. I respect how you do power,” I said to Ming. He was packing us up so we could return home after a weekend at the Oregon coast. “Wow, yes. I love how you do power,” I said, marveling. I thought… Read More »