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how to pull away

Hello, reader–how are you doing?  Do you know how to pull away in relationship?  It’s a skill. Especially in love, I tend to be all or nothing.  Moderation is not my gift.  So as an adult, I’m learning how to pull away when I get too close, give too much, and commit in ways that… Read More »

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mini bios

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Do you know who I am?  I want to share these mini bios. Long ago, I used to change my one sentence bio on a social media site regularly.  They felt like small poems, concentrated and often funny.  So I started harvesting them into a document some years ago.… Read More »

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how to plan

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Recently I sat down with Ming at an Indian food restaurant in Junction City, and we talked about how to plan. I’m a big time planner–might be a Virgo thing?  Oh no, it’s probably my flavor of autism.  I can see a long way down the chain of cause… Read More »

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how to improve foods

Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m writing to you about how to improve foods. I notice many people have an all-or-nothing attitude about foods. But we can often improve them by customizing them. We don’t need to accept foods as is. condiments Ketchup is a thing. If your food is boring, you can add… Read More »

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how friends can nurture

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’m thinking how friends can nurture one another. I need support and help, but it’s hard to figure out what to ask for.  Today when I asked Spirit what I most need, Spirit said I need to be nurtured.  Yes, that’s true. I miss my mom.  Ming is very… Read More »

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first aid kits

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Ming and I have been thinking about first aid kits.  Ming is a street medic and former nurse.  He’s also worked safety for events like breast cancer and AIDS rides.  Ming knows a thing or two about health, safety, and first aid kits materials. Ming loves materials.  The tarot… Read More »

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relationship smorgasbord

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  When I was getting close to a then-girlfriend a couple years ago, she brought up the idea of relationship smorgasbord.  We could conceive of our relationship as many delicious dishes laid out before us, and we get to choose what we want. Correct!  We don’t need to have close… Read More »

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communities in Eugene, Oregon

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Do you like your home?  I love all the intentional communities in Eugene, Oregon. Eugene is a hippie capital of the world, and community is the dream.  May this post become a resource to anyone looking for home with others. Living in community is a powerful way to change… Read More »

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reasons to live

Hello, reader.  How are you today?  I want to show you some reasons to live. I create this list for a specific friend.  But maybe it could be useful to you also. reasons to live hugs dogs soaking in a hot tub stars tacos strange dreams pizza helping someone skiing music friendship the desert storytelling… Read More »

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my pain

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  My housemate friend asked me about my pain. Yes, it’s a big topic.  I love myself unconditionally, and I understand deep in my bones that all bodies are valid bodies. My pain might be like yours, or it might be different.  But I wrote a list poem, and I… Read More »