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skills

I’ve been working on a list of skills, mine and Ming’s.  And the traits we share to make positive change.  What do you think? Ming’s skills permaculture design garden / plant care, composting, sheet mulch  animal care: chickens, goats, bees  selling at Farmers Markets and craft fairs tracking and data entry Registered Nursing: hospital, hospice,… Read More »

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how I maintain my mental health on the road

Hello, I’ve been thinking about how I maintain my mental health on the road.  Maybe you could use these ideas also! These are some challenges of travel that I struggle with. access to food that’s ok for my body’s needs uncomfortable car swollen ankles so many different beds for my body to get used to… Read More »

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travel needs

Hello, I had some kind of autistic meltdown outside of a busy sandwich shop, somewhere in Oregon.  It involved me screaming at Ming, “You’re not allowed to do that to me,” and a few, “I can’t live like this,” for good measure.  The experience made me think about travel needs and how things can start… Read More »

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what I do every day

What I do every day changes, over the years.  I wanted to list some things for you. idiosyncratic things gratitude journal with Ming sit in the sun in the driveway, catching some rays watch an episode of Easy Spanish on youtube–this one is rather typical, but I like the part with the little kid  … Read More »

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how to be a good partner

I was on a social media site, and someone was asking for relationship advice.  She explained her situation with her fiance, and people responded telling her not to marry him and pointing out red flags.  It was intense to read.  A commenter posted this link to Relationship Skills: A Checklist, which is about how to… Read More »

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how to be alone

Hello, how are you?  A stranger on a social media group for fat health said they need to spend some hours in public by themselves, in a city away from home, and they’re nervous about it.  They asked for advice for this situation–how to be alone in public, as a fat person. Yes, it can… Read More »

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bucket list

Hello, I mentioned my bucket list in the Manzanar post.  Thought you might like to see.  Would you like to do any of these things with me? bucket list island trip another high tea with Ming return to Carrizozo, New Mexico taste saguaro fruit mushroom hunting sleep in treehouse somatic therapy hypnotism palm reading nude… Read More »

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attitude of gratitude

Hello, esteemed reader.  It’s been a lil bit since I gratitude journaled here.  But Ming and I have an attitude of gratitude–we gratitude journal together out loud every day, sometimes twice a day, often while we’re taking a walk. Here we go! fall I’m grateful for fall weather, being able to go outside whenever I… Read More »

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ways to emotionally nurture

Ming is so good at caring for me.  Best spouse ever!  He listens, reads all my writing, enjoys my art.  I love how he cleans the kitchen at night so I can cook delicious foods all day.  Zero guilt tripping, zero passive aggressive fuckery.  I’ve definitely been partnered with people who were manipulative and had… Read More »

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abuse

Here are some ways to say no to abuse.  Please feel free to use this language to explain a situation, break up, or ask for space. no I realize this relationship has become a way for me to distract myself from what I was put on Earth to do. That’s not appropriate. You’re not allowed… Read More »