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empathy disability

Hello, reader.  How are you today?  I’ve been thinking about empathy disability. I keep blogging about that disability justice fat liberation skillshare I led for my community, here in Kalapuya land.  The skillshare meant a lot to me and stirred up big thoughts and feelings.  I was so vulnerable to people I know so newly.… Read More »

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trauma as excuse

Trauma as excuse is a problem I see all the time.  I do radical mental health and encounter many, many crazy people–I love crazy people such as myself.  Especially the brilliant, creative ones.  How we talk about our traumas and use them socially affects everything. trauma as excuse I notice some people have a horrific… Read More »

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all the people

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I had a strong feeling the other morning that I’d met all the people I could handle by the time I was 14 years old.  I can’t believe how many people are in my mind, heart, and life. It was a strong–Aaaaahhhh!  Enough already!  Yes, a big stop sign… Read More »

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nurturing energy

Hello, reader.  How are you?  What’s on your mind?  I was thinking about nurturing energy. I used to wonder why I’m so damn nurturing.  Yes, big tit energy, every day.  I’ve extended a ton of care and am quick to invest in the well-being of others.  Any ideas? kid theory One idea I had before… Read More »

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what disables me

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking more about what disables me.  My community member friend wrote a long, helpful comment on that recent post.  He said the issue isn’t really capitalism. deeper Yes, I agree–there’s something deeper than capitalism itself that disables me.  It drives the dysfunction that’s hurting me and in… Read More »

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expectations

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Hopefully I have a tasty idea for you today.  I’ve been thinking about expectations. Many people–especially women–are condemned for having expectations. That’s me. *Laura-Marie raises hand* I’ve been multi-criticized for having expectations over the years, mostly by men who were getting a lot from me, while they gave back… Read More »

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comfort

Hello, reader.  I’m very in need of comfort.  I would kiss my own head, if I could.  Or that tender zygomatic arch place.  My forehead, but not in the middle–kind of by my right eye. The world can be brutal.  People especially can be brutal.  I’m sorry I spoke up and risked being misunderstood.  My… Read More »

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slutty lesbians

“Maybe we should do a ritual to summon some slutty lesbians,” my housemate friend suggested.  We had been talking about Sappho.  My friend told me that Sappho was the original lesbian.  Yes, OG. I said something about Sappho being slutty, and how the lesbians I’ve known were not slutty.  They’ve been straight laced and tame.… Read More »

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my favorite plants

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  A housemate asked me what my favorite plants are.  They had mentioned the rhododendrons are blooming, and I admitted that I am not too keen on rhododendrons. “What plants do you like?” my housemate asked.  We were on a walk, nearing home.  I didn’t have much time to answer.… Read More »

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boundaries as love

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about the part of love that’s giving people space–I’ve been thinking about boundaries as love.  This idea is very important to me. You know how music is made of sounds, but there can be silence between bits of sound?  The rests are so delicious.  Or an… Read More »