Fuck exercise! I’m so sick of people framing my movement as exercise and praising me like I’m a three year old. I move for pleasure. My fatness is forever; I am unconditionally fat. No amount of movement will unfat me, thank God. I’m not moving my body to lose weight or do health on anyone… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about fatness, power, and dating for decades. Yes, since I was a kid– for about 40 years. A close friend who’s younger than me is learning about it more newly. That’s why I’m writing this post. privilege in dating Do you have thin privilege? Pretty privilege?… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I don’t think of myself as obese or overweight; I don’t use those words. Those words are painful for me. They hurt me. Thank you for not using obese or overweight around me, if you get the chance. I like fat. When I’m talking to someone who I think… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Are you fat like me? How do you feel about your body? My body is fat and beautiful. I made a video that I thought you might enjoy. Please share with anyone. I wrote and performed this pleasure testimony for a sermon my friends Nina and Ariel created for… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I was thinking about relationship styles, love as a skill we can strengthen, how I default to love, and what stresses me out about people. What stresses you out about people? Little of what comes naturally to me is within the range of normal friendship. I was talking to my… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person. Some background info will help you be respectful. So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? When I’m at a gathering over zoom or in person, I often hear adults mention how it’s so hard to make friends as an adult. Making friends is thought of as easy for kids. But I can’t relate to that. I was a quiet, different kid with autism who… Read More »
My friend shared this song with me. Wow, it’s my new theme song. Thank you, friend. It’s about one of my favorite topics: self-love. Yes, let’s be kind to the person in the mirror. Please give it a listen–I’m gonna love her. What brilliance. I’m gonna love her too. It’s by Aria the Vocalist; Aria… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Have you ever identified as punk? I’ve been a zinester for a long time. Punk is part of that whole worldview. If no one else is making the media you need, make it yourself. There’s no need to wait for experts. What’s an expert anyway? You can become one. … Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I have a lot of anxiety, including social anxiety. A weird thing about me is I worry about the past. But one of the worst anxieties for me is health anxiety. It’s tied into family pain and fear of death, which can be incapacitating. The way I frame my own experiences… Read More »