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what I need from a doctor

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Trying to be responsible, I’m seeking medical care and dental care.  I’m trying a new Nurse Practitioner after a bad experience with the last one.  Today I’m thinking about what I need from a doctor. I’ve had decades of medical trauma.  Previously I’d preferred to be shot, over going… Read More »

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mainstream medical care is eugenics

I was trying to figure out why medical care hurts so much.  There are many factors, such as a handover of power I’m supposed to do–I’m supposed to believe the doctor can handle the well-being of my body better than I can, which is incorrect.  There’s also trauma I carry from decades of medical harm. … Read More »

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fuck exercise

Fuck exercise!  I’m so sick of people framing my movement as exercise and praising me like I’m a three year old. I move for pleasure.  My fatness is forever; I am unconditionally fat.  No amount of movement will unfat me, thank God. I’m not moving my body to lose weight or do health on anyone… Read More »

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fatness, power, and dating

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about fatness, power, and dating for decades.  Yes, since I was a kid– for about 40 years. A close friend who’s younger than me is learning about it more newly.  That’s why I’m writing this post. privilege in dating Do you have thin privilege? Pretty privilege?… Read More »

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not obese or overweight

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?   I don’t think of myself as obese or overweight; I don’t use those words.  Those words are painful for me.  They hurt me. Thank you for not using obese or overweight around me, if you get the chance.  I like fat.  When I’m talking to someone who I think… Read More »

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my body is fat and beautiful

Hello, reader.  How are you doing? Are you fat like me?  How do you feel about your body?  My body is fat and beautiful.  I made a video that I thought you might enjoy.  Please share with anyone. I wrote and performed this pleasure testimony for a sermon my friends Nina and Ariel created for… Read More »

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default to love

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I was thinking about relationship styles, love as a skill we can strengthen, how I default to love, and what stresses me out about people.  What stresses you out about people? Little of what comes naturally to me is within the range of normal friendship.  I was talking to my… Read More »

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dating a fat person

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person.  Some background info will help you be respectful.  So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »

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making friends

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  When I’m at a gathering over zoom or in person, I often hear adults mention how it’s so hard to make friends as an adult.  Making friends is thought of as easy for kids. But I can’t relate to that.  I was a quiet, different kid with autism who… Read More »

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I’m gonna love her

My friend shared this song with me.  Wow, it’s my new theme song.  Thank you, friend.  It’s about one of my favorite topics: self-love.  Yes, let’s be kind to the person in the mirror.  Please give it a listen–I’m gonna love her. What brilliance.  I’m gonna love her too. It’s by Aria the Vocalist; Aria… Read More »