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Bob Saget

Oh hey.  The internet told me that Bob Saget died.  I felt an emotional reaction that surprised me. “An actor died,” I told Ming. “Yeah,” he said. “Do you know who this Bob Saget is?” I asked. “No,” Ming said.  “I was just reading about him.” “He was on Full House,” I said.  “Did you… Read More »

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drumming procession

Hey, how are you doing?  At the Day of the Dead fest, this drumming procession thrilled me.  I smiled and stood up to dance as they passed.  The dudes in the front looked at me weird, like, “Who is this ecstatic, dancing fat woman?” which is just fine with me. I asked Ming to take… Read More »

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roses

I saw this yellow rose next to a pink one, by a church, and got excited.  Peace roses! My mom loved roses, and we grew some in the yard.  Her mom loved carnations. So my mom loved roses for herself and carnations for her mom.  Thanksgiving when she would put a flower on her mom’s… Read More »

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Tracye Ditmore

My therapist died suddenly, and I’m heartbroken.  Her name was Tracye Ditmore.  I found her online around six years ago.  She knew everything about my emotional life–she helped me get through so many things.  She was brilliant, and I can’t believe she’s dead. This is her picture from the internet. The therapist-client relationship is weird… Read More »

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clothes

A friend gave me trash bags full of her mom’s clothes, maybe a year ago, as her mom moved into assisted living.  Her mom’s clothes mostly fit me.  Ming and I sorted through countless jackets, shirts, pajamas, pants, dresses.  Some of the clothes were worn out and done.  Most we gave away, but some we… Read More »

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dia de los muertos

Happy dia de los muertos.  Ming was helping with a friend’s ofrendas, as you know.  And then I had the idea–what if I made an ofrenda?  Just a little one, with some of my art, and pics of my peeps? I was so excited, but then I was having a health issue and thought I… Read More »

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day of the dead

Like previous years, Ming is helping paint ofrendas in preparation for the Winchester cultural center Day of the Dead festivities.  He paints at our friend T’s house.  They will paint through November first–please get in touch, if you would like to help. Please note that it’s not a sober environment.  Alcohol is consumed by others,… Read More »

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Sister Megan

Sister Megan died a few days ago.  She was an important figure in my life, though we never met in person.  We spoke on the phone, and there were a few emails.  She was 91. She was a very dear nun activist, beloved by so many.  Ming knew her because she helped run Nevada Desert… Read More »

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September

September I’m crying because it’s September again, and I have to do it without my mama again.  I love September–it’s my birth month.  But doesn’t feel possible to live through again, without her. So here I am.  Feeling the pain–doing grief.  How do I make plans?  I keep learning, changing, and moving forward.  But sometimes… Read More »

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pistachio butter

I did something that was a really big deal.  There was this pistachio butter.  I bought it in Lompoc at a farmers market with Ming and my mom.  Back when she was well and could do stuff, around two and a half years ago. I ate almost none of the pistachio butter, and it sat… Read More »