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what is safe

Hello, I’ve been thinking about what is safe.  Do you feel safe?  What percentage of the time?  In your home, outside your home?  In your own body? Do you think you deserve to feel safe?  How about other people–do we?  Do you accept that what you need to feel safe might be different from what… Read More »

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direct action

I want to change culture, and direct action is part of my life.  I think about direct action of different kinds–symbolic, performative, solidarity.  Some acts of service can be direct action also. statement Serving food to hungry people is a real way to help, but it can also be a statement.  Food Not Bombs says… Read More »

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sigh

When I was a kid, sighing was a scary sound.  It was a sound my dad made when he was upset, and it meant someone else needed to fix his feelings real quick, or we would all be in trouble.  His sigh was a sign that we had a few seconds until things got violent.… Read More »

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feelings about adoption

I made this post adoption is not the solution.  I wanted to shed some light on the adoption struggle, the truth about adoption, and how lies about adoption fuel the anti-choice movement.  Feelings about adoption are strong, and of course it’s a complex subject. I was trying to add nuance to the pool of ideas,… Read More »

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what respect is

Hello, I was thinking about what respect is.  Meeting a potential community member, I wanted to ask if she respects all people, and what respect means to her.  Then I realized I should answer that question for myself! what respect is Some people think of respect as earned–if someone has expertise or authority.  I don’t… Read More »

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deep respect cub care jaguar

Hello, how are you doing?  I painted this deep respect cub care jaguar.  Thought you might like to see it. Deep respect cub care jaguar is craft paint on reclaimed product packaging card stock.  It’s based on a photo of a sculpture I saw online.  In the sculpture photo, I can see the Jaguar is… Read More »

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adoption is not the solution

This instagram post about how adoption is not the solution and the deep wounds adoption causes blew my mind.  Please take a look at what this adoptee has to say. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lisa Olivera (@_lisaolivera) Previously I’d believed adoption can be a beautiful, caring handoff with minimal pain. … Read More »

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needs

Ming and I were looking for a place to live that’s not in the desert.  That process helped me vision, long and hard.  I started thinking in a new way about what I need.  What are the basic needs, my minimum requirements? Long ago I made a list of what I would enjoy for my… Read More »

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spiritual bypassing

In yoga class on Wednesday, our teacher talked about spiritual bypassing.  It was at the beginning, and I had a big reaction.  I think our teacher was upset by violence in the news and didn’t want to pretend that collective grief and individual grief isn’t happening. She acknowledges the grief and pain, and she said… Read More »

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paranoia

Hello, do you experience paranoia?  The difference between imagining something and believing it, can be like the difference between my navy skirt and black skirt.  I stand in the bedroom staring at the clothing trying to differentiate, clueless.  I consider asking Ming, then decide it’s not that important, and wear it. Yes, I can imagine… Read More »