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realistic

Being real and realistic about who I am and what I want is some of the hardest work I do every day. I like to take it another layer.  It’s fun to think I found the real truth, then find a deeper truth. how I get more realistic It’s mostly about getting more and more… Read More »

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consensus

Hello, how are you doing?  I attended a workshop about consensus.  It was put on by the intentional community Snake Village and gave me delicious food for thought.  Still digesting it. what it is Consensus is a decision making style that anarchists such as myself are supposed to do or at least have a good… Read More »

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three year death anniversary

Hello, how are you doing?  It was my mom’s three year death anniversary.  I felt a lot of feelings including grief.  What a hard day to get through.  Just keep breathing, eating, and survive. My good friend elsewhere expressed sympathy, then asked how I was coping.  This friend is very smart and musical, with a… Read More »

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divest

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about breaking up.  My good friend is about to break up with a partner.  It’s been a long time coming.  I did that divorce ritual with my housemate a couple weeks ago, when she quit her job.  Breaking up is a weird extreme thing to do.  I… Read More »

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active and passive safety

Hello.  I was talking to my elder housemate friend about safety.  He’d mentioned safety can contribute to laziness.  I disagreed, as I see safety as a vibrant, living thing if it’s going to be actually safe for anyone.  Sort of like nonviolence.  That sparked a fun conversation.  My friend suggested I write about active and… Read More »

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a lot to feel

“When you look at someone’s life and see things that they can’t see, sometimes that can hurt a lot,” I said.  “I’m not sure why.” This morning I was crying. “What’s wrong?” Ming asked, half asleep. “Not sure anything’s wrong,” I said.  Death, loss, miscommunication, vulnerability, time, fear, the fragility of bodies.  “There’s just a… Read More »

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balance in relationships is justice

Hello, how are you doing?  Life’s good in Oregon.  Been thinking about how balance in relationships is justice. So many people do work to change culture at large scale.  Then they neglect the interpersonal ways that we need to do justice at home too. Please love me right.  Please do justice in love. airtime One… Read More »

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I’m not too much–you’re not enough

I’m done being called too much by many people, feeling shame, and tiptoeing around that.  Trying to predict what will overwhelm others so I can contort myself into not doing it is bullshit.  Lately I’m trying not to accept the shame.  My way of reframing the situation is like: I’m not too much–you’re not enough.… Read More »

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chemical castration

Hello, how are you doing?  I was thinking about mental health, psych meds, capitalism, power, and chemical castration.  I had an idea that feels important; I would like to tell you. what is chemical castration? I’ve heard “chemical castration” refer to the practice of destroying someone’s sex drive with medication because of harm they’ve done,… Read More »

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unbalanced power in relationships

Hello.  How have you been?  I’m thinking about unbalanced power in relationships.  I was on instagram and saw a post by a therapist I like Nedra Glover Tawwab.  She is so smart and direct.  I don’t always agree with her ideas.  But she gives me such tasty food for thought. People talk crap about social… Read More »