“You look so cute! With your hat and bag, and the sun behind you!” she said to me, some random lady, possibly my age, talking to me from her car. “Thank you!” I said. My homegirl was parked on the street by her community garden, and she was pulling out so I could be her… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about what holidays are for. We could say cultural transmission, something to do, because everyone else is. I like holidays to feel my connection to humanity–including my ancestors–which is meaningful. I need to feel the wheel of the year and the seasons. Also, holidays anchor me to… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what abandonment is. Also… What’s commitment? What’s chosen family? How do we shift painful relationship dynamics into something happier? How do we take space / time off in fair ways? What’s most important in close relationships that culture might not give us names for?… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been sad that my lower back, ass, and thighs are in so much pain lately. They are carrying so much trauma–that whole area. So large and solid physically: sacred. I wish my ass was a source of safety. It’s like my ass missed its destiny, which is depressing. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? I’m thinking about how to self-harm. I do it more often than I’d like. Some ways are better than others! cake My homegirl told me about a meme where a mental health pro asks clients instead of “Have you self-harmed lately?” another question: “Have you checked to see if you’re… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s it going? I wrote this poem I thought you might like called how to break up with someone. That’s quite a skill which…. how do we learn? I guess through movies, tv, witnessing domestic violence as children, maybe a country western song? How do we learn how to do anything? Mostly through… Read More »
Hello, reader friend. How are you doing? Here’s guidance when your kid is in the mental hospital. My soul-nourishing loved one had friends in this position. So she asked me for my thoughts, and I had a lot of emotions as I answered her. Some of my ideas might sound defensive, because of my own… Read More »
“This is hysterical,” I said, pointing to my face. It was toward the end of an argument with Ming, and we were in the kitchen. I finally took a break to pee then cook some breakfast. “I’m not saying you’re hysterical,” Ming said. “No–I know you’re not,” I replied. “I’m just saying this is what… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I like to go to a special place by some elk to express grief, rage, and any feelings that have been too long stuck in my body. So glad I know how to yell. elk Last year I was upset about an emotional situation. My suffering was tied in… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about how to honor jealousy. Jealousy is so painful, yet we get shamed for it. Let’s find ways we can support each other in all our hard feelings. How do you like to be treated when you feel jealous? I like patience, kindness, compassion, and chill curiosity. … Read More »