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prayer for Catholics

Ming and I visited a small mission, inland from San Diego in southern California.  In the church we saw some propaganda right by the door, about how Ming and I are not ok in the eyes of God.  It hurt, and I prayed this prayer for Catholics.  Please pray along with me. Prayer for Catholics… Read More »

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things we’re not supposed to talk about

“Hey, dear.  My asshole feels burning, sort of like I ate a hot chile.  Is that ok?” I asked Ming. “Yeah,” he said. “Only I didn’t eat a hot chile.  Maybe it’s from when I had diarrhea, previous night.  Did that ever happen to you?” I asked “Yeah,” he said. “Oh, but you always eat… Read More »

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bathrooms

Hello, how are you doing?  Ming and I are on a journey, searching for home.  I’m thinking about my needs lately, the true truth.  Not what I think I should need, but what I actually, for reaslsies need to feel safe in my home.  A big part of that is bathrooms. I was worried about… Read More »

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do you sing

“Do you sing?” my friend asked me. We were on his porch in the morning, and he had just sung a few songs for me to dance to at my request.  Down By the River, something like Give Me Jesus, and a Gate Gate Parasamgate. He spoke to me of many things: pottery his mom… Read More »

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feelings about adoption

I made this post adoption is not the solution.  I wanted to shed some light on the adoption struggle, the truth about adoption, and how lies about adoption fuel the anti-choice movement.  Feelings about adoption are strong, and of course it’s a complex subject. I was trying to add nuance to the pool of ideas,… Read More »

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public enemy

I love Public Enemy.  It took a long time–decades. content warning: mention of violence When I was young, I hated them.  I thought Public Enemy coarse, brutal, annoying, heavy handed–too much.  The cursing, the edginess–motivation from anger.  They seemed conceited, and I was like–why? Part of what I hated about them was Flavor Flav.  I… Read More »

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adoption is not the solution

This instagram post about how adoption is not the solution and the deep wounds adoption causes blew my mind.  Please take a look at what this adoptee has to say. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lisa Olivera (@_lisaolivera) Previously I’d believed adoption can be a beautiful, caring handoff with minimal pain. … Read More »

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spiritual bypassing

In yoga class on Wednesday, our teacher talked about spiritual bypassing.  It was at the beginning, and I had a big reaction.  I think our teacher was upset by violence in the news and didn’t want to pretend that collective grief and individual grief isn’t happening. She acknowledges the grief and pain, and she said… Read More »

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reaction to the sermon

Hello!  Can I tell you about reaction to the sermon I gave about radical mental health?  I’m happy to have spoken my truth as clearly as I can.  What happens from there is less in my control.  Marketing isn’t my strength. I’m glad I was able to give a sermon at all.  It’s better than… Read More »

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language

  “Hear what I mean, not what I say,” is something Ming has been telling me for our entire relationship.  We’d have a disagreement, with lots of language flying and emotions in the air, and I would get confused, listening carefully to his words. “What do you mean, listen to what you mean?  How do… Read More »