Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love how apology transforms energy. This is part two to a post from last month called “what apology is for.” I’ve been thinking about magic words, like “thank you” and “I’m sorry.” Magic words play with trust and power, social concepts that I think about all day. Love… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? I’ve been thinking about how to reduce conflict in relationships. My last two intimate relationships besides Ming were destroyed by conflict. Well, that’s one way of looking at things. (More about that later.) I was brainstorming ways to reduce conflict in relationships, because that’s the kind of Virgo I am. Problems… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I prefer being lovers. Being friends, I have to leave so much of myself at the door. I have to keep my clothes on. Sexuality is not supposed to arrive–sex is mostly not welcome. I want to be all of me. I need places and people who let me… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Someone I’ve loved for a long time asked me how to write more. He sees me as prolific, and it’s true. I make a lot of zines–it’s been 36 years– and I used to blog here every day. Now I have multiple websites, write a monthly column for a… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? There’s a Bible verse I like–it’s in Proverbs. I remember it from when I was a kid. Recently I read it because a community member where Ming and I live has the Proverbs verse as her email sig file. “I really like this Bible verse,” I told Ming and… Read More »
I was eating pho with Ming the other day. Someone who seemed houseless was drinking a soda at the table closest to the door. They had a black trash bag of materials and a nervous look. I wondered if the soda was a gift, if the workers had given it to them? They started to… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you how to do anything. Yes, I can do anything. Or at least I can do something…! I thought you should know how to do anything as well. I’ll tell you stepwise. gather information Yes, it’s like preparing the soil. What do you need to… Read More »
Yesterday we held the first fat transqueer disabled dance. It was a beautiful day for unconditional love. All bodies are valid bodies, and I’m compelled to co-create a space where all bodies belong. I’m happy to dance in the revolution. When I scheduled the fat transqueer disabled dance, I didn’t know there was a huge… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’m thinking about how I like to be credited for my work. My zines, blog posts, poems, and art are valuable. Beyond money, the publishing industry, and the art world, what I create matters. So it matters how you share. how I like to be credited for my work Most… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? The world is weird, and reality is full of surprises. Sometimes what’s true needs space to emerge–it’s ok to make mistakes. Perceiving is a creative process. art When we look at art, we can tell that perceiving is a creative process because look how differently we draw the same… Read More »