Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you how I married myself on New Year’s Day. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. It changed me. At first I didn’t want to blog about it because I felt protective. How I married myself felt too sacredly important to share widely.… Read More »
“Today I choose myself,” I said, lighting the candle on my altar. “Whatever that means!” Hi, reader. How you doing? Are you trying to create change in your life? I’m trying to end addictive cycles of self-hate. The self-hate is related to relationship and where I get my self-worth. I’ve been working on this for… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to share this meditation for drop. I hope it can help a suffering person. Drop is a deep emotional low I wouldn’t wish on my worst frenemy. I experience drop after abundant physical contact, associated with New Relationship Energy. It’s thrilling how I get high from touch… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love energy work to keep myself happy and well in everyday life, and to heal old pain. Feels great to have multiple people who help me hold my stability. Recently I met an energy worker I trust here in Eugene. Their name is Ronin Quirke–their office is on… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about how to build capacity for stress in relationships. Have you done much work around this? I could call it “distress tolerance,” “emotional resiliency,” “emotional skills.” “Emotional availability” too. I’ve fallen in love with brilliant, creative people who I thought were available. But they had low capacity… Read More »
“I have too much energy in my head, most of the time,” I said. “When I make art, it helps get some of the energy out, and then I feel better.” It was circle time at the end of our free queer grief art therapy class. A transwoman seated to my left nodded like she… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? I’m tempted to say good morning because morning is my favorite time. The world seems so alive in the quiet pre-dawn. Anything is possible. I wrote this post for you called relationship attempts. False spring bloomed, and now it’s back to full-time Oregon rain. relationship attempts Last night I remembered… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Probably you already know I’m disabled and have some chronic health issues. It’s an honor to be alive. I’m grateful to have a body. I spend most of most days, caring for my health. I want to tell you that pho is medicine. Yes, one of the most delicious… Read More »
Hello, reader–how are you doing? I believe in Land Back. It’s one of the big ideas of my life these days, so I made this list-art about it. The art includes an idea I’ve been thinking about a lot lately, which is Starlight Back. healing What do you need to heal? I need clean water,… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s your soul? My last blog post about my gender these days as well as disability, do you remember it? There was a part where I was talking about how my queer trans spirituality keeps me safe and keeps me going. This post is addressing the friend I went on that life changing… Read More »