Hello, reader. How’s your soul? My last blog post about my gender these days as well as disability, do you remember it? There was a part where I was talking about how my queer trans spirituality keeps me safe and keeps me going. This post is addressing the friend I went on that life changing… Read More »
“Do you think this mountain is our destiny?” I asked Ming. “No, I think bringing the energy of this mountain wherever we go is our destiny,” Ming said. I had pulled tarot cards to ask a few questions. When I asked Spirit if Ming and I had a destiny on this mountain, I got funny… Read More »
“You look so cute! With your hat and bag, and the sun behind you!” she said to me, some random lady, possibly my age, talking to me from her car. “Thank you!” I said. My homegirl was parked on the street by her community garden, and she was pulling out so I could be her… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’m on a trip, not blogging much because my computer is half-broken. Soon new tech will arrive. Ming and I were talking about virtue signaling. Are you familiar with the concept? Virtue signalling is when you do or say things to make sure everyone knows you’re good. It can be… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing today? I’m thinking about friendship stress after a valuable conversation I had with a housemate friend. how friendship feels How do you feel in friendship? Are your connections feeling supportive helpful real trustworthy safe enough Do you have what you need with other people? Are other people even worth… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve been thinking about shame. What is shame, and why do we feel it? Is it ever helpful? I see people feeling shame who don’t need it. The shame drains their energy like a hole in a bucket. Then the people who do great wrongs are not feeling shame. Hmm–why… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve been thinking about regulating vs healing. Do you make a distinction? Is “regulating” part of your vocabulary? Maybe regulating is a therapy word or seems clinical. It makes the think of machines. I’m not a machine. But sometimes I see myself as a system that can get out of… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you today? This is how I look inside when anyone calls Ming “sir.” We were at a Thai place we visit often. It’s next to the flower shop. The worker gave Ming the check and called him “sir.” It was yuck. Ming is not a man. Ming should wear his “he… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve heard how healing isn’t linear. But I was thinking how liberation isn’t linear either. It came up because I was in the kitchen with Ming, and he was wearing his glasses when his glasses were not helpful to him. His glasses don’t help him, for seeing up close. “Can… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I was thinking about a question my housemate-friend asked during the disability justice / fat liberation skillshare that I led for my community. I realized that confusing people helps. truck dudes It was the part about dudes yelling stuff at me from their trucks. I’m happily minding my own business, riding… Read More »