Hello, reader. How’ve you been? I think about AI in communication and modern war. I thought modern war would devolve to “our robots fight their robots.” Looks like I was incorrect– war is still killing living, breathing, bleeding people. Yikes. the 1990s AI has interested me since I was a teenager in the 1990s, studying… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’ve you been? I’ve been thinking about harm as intimacy for some time now–a few years. I don’t know a lot about trauma bonding, but maybe they’re related. When someone loves me but can’t get close to me for whatever reason–I set a boundary, or I’m pulled far away–they can get intimacy with… Read More »
“This is hysterical,” I said, pointing to my face. It was toward the end of an argument with Ming, and we were in the kitchen. I finally took a break to pee then cook some breakfast. “I’m not saying you’re hysterical,” Ming said. “No–I know you’re not,” I replied. “I’m just saying this is what… Read More »
“Yes, you should carry that bag that has your first aid stuff in it,” I said. Ming was about to leave on a hike with two elder friends. He was figuring out what to bring. “But it’s so heavy, it hurts your body to carry,” I continued. “That’s not good to hurt your body, in… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? A friend used the word infatuation to describe a feeling I had, or an experience–when a crush develops, and sexual desire charges a friendship. I don’t like the word infatuation because it feels demeaning. I’ve been thinking about how we talk about love and desire. what is love Love is… Read More »
Hey, reader. How’s it going. Do you like small talk? It has a bad reputation, especially among the neurodivergent. But I’m a freak among weirdos–I kind of like it. I enjoy subverting it. I’ve been thinking about what small talk is for. what small talk is for A good friend went on a silent Carmelite… Read More »
“What about jealousy?” I asked. “Does your partner do it with other people? How is that for you?” My good friend and I were at a park in Portland, visiting after some weeks apart. I felt curious about how their close nesting relationship is going. “I don’t have much jealousy–it’s more FOMO,” my friend answered. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I hope you’re happy and well and free from suffering. If you are not happy, well, and free from suffering, I hope you have tons of support. I’m thinking about support words. What words do you like to give others? What do you like to hear, when you need… Read More »
Gmorning, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about how to initiate touch. Touch is a big deal. We’re mammals– touch is central to our socializing. Can I give you a hug? get weird But people get weird about touch because of sex, feelings, boundaries, poor communication about intentions. Then it can feel complicated… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I thought of another driving game. This post comes from an email to a friend. Thank you for eavesdropping purposefully. I hope you learn a fun thing to do with conversation, possibly in a car. driving game I helped you learn Situation Game that day we went to the lake. … Read More »