Hello, how are you doing? I attended a workshop about consensus. It was put on by the intentional community Snake Village and gave me delicious food for thought. Still digesting it. what it is Consensus is a decision making style that anarchists such as myself are supposed to do or at least have a good… Read More »
“Hey, dear,” I asked Ming. “When you look at a table like this, and all the things on the table, do you see it like…the edge of the table is the edge of a continent? And then you might move the things away from the table edge, and consider that moving them inland?” The idea… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about why I say thank you often. I’m a gratitude lady. It’s not a sense of obligation. It’s because I feel gratitude in my body. My body thrums with a thank you feeling. I gotta let it out. Sometimes I’ve said to a friend, “Thank you for being… Read More »
Oh hey, how are you doing? I heard this song by Bambu called Comrades, and I felt so touched and nostalgic. You should hear it! I knew a man long ago who said we were comrades. My heart broke. Wow–I thought we had a close personal connection. I really wanted to be his friend. He… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about content warnings as a way to help people navigate conversations and social connections. helpful Do you like content warnings? I find them very helpful. They help me know what I should / should not engage. They seem respectful. They’ve given me a useful heads up, about… Read More »
Hello–how are you? My friend and I were talking about DBT, and they reminded me how DBT has some cool acronyms. They like DEAR MAN. Yes, me too! Here is a nice handout describing it. https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php dialectical behavioral therapy Have you done DBT? Some people do it in the hospital. I did it outpatient for… Read More »
I’ve been working on a list of skills, mine and Ming’s. And the traits we share to make positive change. What do you think? Ming’s skills permaculture design garden / plant care, composting, sheet mulch animal care: chickens, goats, bees selling at Farmers Markets and craft fairs tracking and data entry Registered Nursing: hospital, hospice,… Read More »
“Hear what I mean, not what I say,” is something Ming has been telling me for our entire relationship. We’d have a disagreement, with lots of language flying and emotions in the air, and I would get confused, listening carefully to his words. “What do you mean, listen to what you mean? How do… Read More »
“Why are you sad?” Ming asked. We were pulled over by this off-roading area where people ride dirt bikes and dune buggies. But they were far away and not too loud. It was a good place to have an emotional breakdown. “I don’t know–am I sad?” I asked. I was crying with my whole body,… Read More »
Hey, I’ve been thinking about what vulnerable is. Maybe I use the word differently than other people. Ming asked me what I meant by vulnerable, during a conversation we were having about sex and feelings, and recently someone else asked me the same. Vulnerable is my whole life’s goal. It’s part of honesty, intimacy, and… Read More »