“How would you explain what magic is?” I asked Ming. We were driving home from the coast. What a good day we had. First we went to the library, where I wrote and cleared some ideas out of my head that had coalesced during the drive. Then we went for a walk. I was skeptical… Read More »
Hello, reader. I’m ready to come out to you; I want you to know I’m transgender. I am not a man. Yet I’m not a woman. I’m nonbinary gender; this is an important part of who I am. I’ve mentioned being trans and having a queer trans spirituality in this blog. But today I want… Read More »
“Is it ok if I grab your breasts in public?” I asked Ming. “Yes,” he said. We were sitting on a bench in our community near the main garden. I was behind Ming, my tummy on his back, spooning him, holding onto his chest with my hands. My thighs gripped his butt. “It’s ok because… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? A good friend-housemate asked me about fashion. He’s learning more how to sew. He makes beautiful embroidery and quilts. But now he wants to make clothes too. Oh, but what about gender? He is a he/they trans enby person. He doesn’t wanna wear a dress these days. But maybe he wants… Read More »
“Wow!” I said to Ming. “Can you imagine coming out once?” Hey, reader. How are you? Have you come out, and if so, how many times? I can’t even count mine on my hands. I was reading little bios of the board of a local org, and I read about the years that two board… Read More »
Just in case you forgot how beautiful Ming is, here’s a picture of him in bed. He was sleeping good, and his armpit is nice. His beautiful brown hand, his dark elbow, his smooth chest, his serious sleep expression as he moved through dream world. You’re welcome. Feeling grateful for all he does and is. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Are you friends with any TERFs? TERFs are trans-exclusionary radical feminists. That’s the acronym. In my experience they’re old lesbians who are cranky about gender. They might call transwomen “a man in a dress.” They feel that woman-ness is an exclusive club they suffered to be in, so they get… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? How’s your gender? A good friend told me they were curious how my thoughts have changed about gender over time. So I’ll try writing about it. gender over time When I was a kid, I went to church and school. The teacher would call us “boys and girls.” This was… Read More »
“Maybe we should do a ritual to summon some slutty lesbians,” my housemate friend suggested. We had been talking about Sappho. My friend told me that Sappho was the original lesbian. Yes, OG. I said something about Sappho being slutty, and how the lesbians I’ve known were not slutty. They’ve been straight laced and tame.… Read More »
“I’m here for the lesbians,” I told my dear housemate. “Imma head to the lesbian exhibit.” We had entered the museum, all six of us, and were greeted by a visibly queer worker who wore an anti-TERF button. They talked to me about museum admission rates, not mentioning the special SNAP rate. “Is there a… Read More »