Hey, reader. How’s life? I was instructed to write a personal bill of rights, for a queer class on boundaries and self-defense. I didn’t think about it too much, listing what felt important to me in that moment. Then I returned to write a few more, and again returned to write a few more… What… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? A good friend in town is a hypnotherapist. Recently I learned more about what she does, and I’d like to tell you about it. She works online and in person to help people transform. If you could use help with inner work and transformation, please contact her. Hypnotherapy is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking about loving people where they’re at. Loving people where they’re at is my values. It reminds me of unconditional love. When I encounter any person, I’m encountering also their view of the world. I gravitate to unconventional views of reality. Queer, creative crazy people are my… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? I saw a video about some displaced Mexican people embroidering maps. It’s beautiful and sad. The Spanish as spoken in the video is comprehensible to me. The video is short but made me think a lot. I’m thinking about home maps art vs craft memories history who we preserve history… Read More »
Who we let in and who we keep out is a big part of how we make safety. I poked a hole in a clove of garlic and hung it over our door on a yellow-orange thread, from the branch of bay leaves. It was to keep out vampires, but some other magic too. A… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you that I’ve been harmed by mandated reporting. It’s supposedly helpful to make us all safer. But it’s more of a “cover your ass” so no one gets sued. And it’s a way to disempower people who are have been kicked around enough already. I… Read More »
“Is it ok if I grab your breasts in public?” I asked Ming. “Yes,” he said. We were sitting on a bench in our community near the main garden. I was behind Ming, my tummy on his back, spooning him, holding onto his chest with my hands. My thighs gripped his butt. “It’s ok because… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s it going? A lot of people struggle with change–especially people with autism. Yes, people with autism have a reputation for seriously freaking out over the unexpected. But I’ve been thinking about why I love change. ossification Long ago when I first met Ming, he told me he didn’t want to ossify. “What… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I was talking to my friend about dysphoria. I was confused because I heard the terms dysphoria and dysmorphic a lot, years ago, and get them mixed up. Dysphoria vs dysmorphic? Also I was confused because my friend is the most beautiful woman in the world. Her gender is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? What do you think is beautiful? Is fitting into a gender box important to your life and success? I like genderfucking. That’s when you play with gender intentionally and subversively. We can do better than restrictive roles. A motivation for genderfucking is cultural change. I like modeling that another way… Read More »