Who we let in and who we keep out is a big part of how we make safety. I poked a hole in a clove of garlic and hung it over our door on a yellow-orange thread, from the branch of bay leaves. It was to keep out vampires, but some other magic too. A… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you that I’ve been harmed by mandated reporting. It’s supposedly helpful to make us all safer. But it’s more of a “cover your ass” so no one gets sued. And it’s a way to disempower people who are have been kicked around enough already. I… Read More »
“Is it ok if I grab your breasts in public?” I asked Ming. “Yes,” he said. We were sitting on a bench in our community near the main garden. I was behind Ming, my tummy on his back, spooning him, holding onto his chest with my hands. My thighs gripped his butt. “It’s ok because… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s it going? A lot of people struggle with change–especially people with autism. Yes, people with autism have a reputation for seriously freaking out over the unexpected. But I’ve been thinking about why I love change. ossification Long ago when I first met Ming, he told me he didn’t want to ossify. “What… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I was talking to my friend about dysphoria. I was confused because I heard the terms dysphoria and dysmorphic a lot, years ago, and get them mixed up. Dysphoria vs dysmorphic? Also I was confused because my friend is the most beautiful woman in the world. Her gender is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? What do you think is beautiful? Is fitting into a gender box important to your life and success? I like genderfucking. That’s when you play with gender intentionally and subversively. We can do better than restrictive roles. A motivation for genderfucking is cultural change. I like modeling that another way… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s it going? I’ve been thinking about relationship a lot lately, and how to help someone not feel trapped. Trapped is one of the creepiest feelings. When I was a kid, I lived trapped in my family of origin. Then I was trapped in my first marriage in such a bad way. Feeling… Read More »
“Thank you for what you’ve done, to escape from prison,” I said to my housemate. We were at the dining room table, both eating dinner late. He had served himself up a big, beautiful plate of food: roasted veg, dumplings, and spinach salad. We had just been talking about food justice, how crappy food is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Are you friends with any TERFs? TERFs are trans-exclusionary radical feminists. That’s the acronym. In my experience they’re old lesbians who are cranky about gender. They might call transwomen “a man in a dress.” They feel that woman-ness is an exclusive club they suffered to be in, so they get… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’m thinking about what to do with freedom once we have it. A lot of people are miserable, working for pay or not. On a park-maintained path or off-roading. I’m happy to have freedom. I’m unfortunate to be disabled, but very fortunate to have a life without paid working. Freedom… Read More »