Hello, reader. How are you? What do you think is beautiful? Is fitting into a gender box important to your life and success? I like genderfucking. That’s when you play with gender intentionally and subversively. We can do better than restrictive roles. A motivation for genderfucking is cultural change. I like modeling that another way… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s it going? I’ve been thinking about relationship a lot lately, and how to help someone not feel trapped. Trapped is one of the creepiest feelings. When I was a kid, I lived trapped in my family of origin. Then I was trapped in my first marriage in such a bad way. Feeling… Read More »
“Thank you for what you’ve done, to escape from prison,” I said to my housemate. We were at the dining room table, both eating dinner late. He had served himself up a big, beautiful plate of food: roasted veg, dumplings, and spinach salad. We had just been talking about food justice, how crappy food is… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? Are you friends with any TERFs? TERFs are trans-exclusionary radical feminists. That’s the acronym. In my experience they’re old lesbians who are cranky about gender. They might call transwomen “a man in a dress.” They feel that woman-ness is an exclusive club they suffered to be in, so they get… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’m thinking about what to do with freedom once we have it. A lot of people are miserable, working for pay or not. On a park-maintained path or off-roading. I’m happy to have freedom. I’m unfortunate to be disabled, but very fortunate to have a life without paid working. Freedom… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? How’s your gender? A good friend told me they were curious how my thoughts have changed about gender over time. So I’ll try writing about it. gender over time When I was a kid, I went to church and school. The teacher would call us “boys and girls.” This was… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve embarked on a year of being kind to my body. I always want to be kind to my body, but this year is extra. A long struggle is coming to a close, something I haven’t talked about at all on his blog or in a zine. The struggle was… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you? I’ve heard how healing isn’t linear. But I was thinking how liberation isn’t linear either. It came up because I was in the kitchen with Ming, and he was wearing his glasses when his glasses were not helpful to him. His glasses don’t help him, for seeing up close. “Can… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’ve been thinking more about what disables me. My community member friend wrote a long, helpful comment on that recent post. He said the issue isn’t really capitalism. deeper Yes, I agree–there’s something deeper than capitalism itself that disables me. It drives the dysfunction that’s hurting me and in… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing, reader? I wrote that post about relationship anarchy the other day and worked hard to state my problem with it. I came up with a few ideas: relationship anarchy doesn’t recognize my family. It’s used as an excuse not to be there for people. It’s another hierarchy. But somehow I missed… Read More »