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jealousy

“What about jealousy?” I asked.  “Does your partner do it with other people?  How is that for you?” My good friend and I were at a park in Portland, visiting after some weeks apart.  I felt curious about how their close nesting relationship is going. “I don’t have much jealousy–it’s more FOMO,” my friend answered. … Read More »

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how I developed faith

Hello, reader–how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about how I developed faith.  Not according to any particular religion.  Just faith that I’m ok and I can trust the universe, Parent Earth, and my ancestors to hold me. Faith is the deep well-being that makes possible all the good I do for myself and others. … Read More »

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in common

Hello, reader.  How’s tricks?  I was trying to make the fat morning, but my mind wandered down a path that was not conducive to sleep.  I thought about someone I loved who said some silly things to me.  Yes, arguing with people in my head is too often a pastime!  This person told me they… Read More »

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drugs in cheese

“What kept the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles together?” Ming asked our good friend.  I think it’s Splinter, but also drugs in cheese. We were at temple for Shabbat service, talking quietly as folx in kippot entered the room. “Wasn’t it a rat?  Splinter,” our friend replied. “Yeah, that’s what I said,” Ming replied.  I was… Read More »

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the difference between support and enabling

“What’s the difference between support and enabling?” Ming asked me. “It’s support when your therapist likes it, and it’s enabling when your therapist doesn’t like it,” I said. Ming laughed–he liked that distinction. “It’s support when you’re helping people do ‘good’ things, like exercise and go to the doctor and talk about their feelings.  It’s… Read More »

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what really happened on our trip

Hello, reader.  How are you?  Ming and I were house sitting recently for ten days at the coast.  Friends have asked, “How was it?”  This is what really happened on our trip. what really happened on our trip I slept eight hours almost every night of our trip.  Being just me and Ming, my ambient… Read More »

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narcan

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I cleaned out my cartoon bag.  I found what I could jettison, to make room for narcan. what’s in my bag What do you think?  Does everyone carry around four lip balms?  I’m telling you, they have different purposes!  Well, I ditched two of them. The religious medal of… Read More »

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reasons to live

Hello, reader.  How are you today?  I want to show you some reasons to live. I create this list for a specific friend.  But maybe it could be useful to you also. reasons to live hugs dogs soaking in a hot tub stars tacos strange dreams pizza helping someone skiing music friendship the desert storytelling… Read More »

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what I imagine when I’m trying to sleep

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I want to tell you what I imagine when I’m trying to sleep. I have insomnia sometimes.  Ok–a lot!  Both my parents had it; I’m trying to accept this problem might be with me for a while.  Insomnia is part of life for many people. There’s adversity, and what we… Read More »

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how to initiate touch

Gmorning, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about how to initiate touch. Touch is a big deal.  We’re mammals– touch is central to our socializing.  Can I give you a hug? get weird But people get weird about touch because of sex, feelings, boundaries, poor communication about intentions.  Then it can feel complicated… Read More »