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Las Vegas as abuser

I loved Las Vegas so much.  But lately I’ve been thinking about Las Vegas as abuser. moving When Ming and I moved away from Las Vegas last month, we were leaving my home, a place I’d given seven years of my life, the beautiful land where I went on the Sacred Peace Walk and learned… Read More »

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things we’re not supposed to talk about

“Hey, dear.  My asshole feels burning, sort of like I ate a hot chile.  Is that ok?” I asked Ming. “Yeah,” he said. “Only I didn’t eat a hot chile.  Maybe it’s from when I had diarrhea, previous night.  Did that ever happen to you?” I asked “Yeah,” he said. “Oh, but you always eat… Read More »

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adoption is not the solution

This instagram post about how adoption is not the solution and the deep wounds adoption causes blew my mind.  Please take a look at what this adoptee has to say. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lisa Olivera (@_lisaolivera) Previously I’d believed adoption can be a beautiful, caring handoff with minimal pain. … Read More »

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chosen family

A friend read my post a few days ago refill my cup and asked me about chosen family.  I know this friend thinks a lot about support, friendship, community, relationships, family, and how to get their needs met, as a person with mental health diagnoses and a lot of love in their heart. This person… Read More »

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sexual trauma and dentistry

Content warning: mention of sexual trauma and dentistry Hello, how are you doing?  I want to speak of sexual trauma and dentistry because it’s a great example of how people need different things, and bodies differ.  Shame is not a good motivator for all people, and my outlier needs didn’t come about from choices I… Read More »

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tips for withdrawal

I want to share some tips for withdrawal, what helps me.  But first I need to say–some withdrawals are dangerous. warning Sadly, people can die from withdrawal, and also people can miscarry.  So tapering is a good thing–alcohol and opioids especially.  Please consider talking to someone with alcohol or opioids experience, if you need to… Read More »

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disability justice

A lot of people think they know what stuff means, but they don’t really know what it means.  Like blind–a lot of people think blind people see nothing, just darkness.  But there’s a range.  Sighted people can feel betrayed, to learn a blind person can see a lil tiny bit.  “But I thought you were… Read More »

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the suspense is killing me– I hope it lasts

Today we made a delivery of flowers to the halfway house nearby. It was something I’d thought up and planned out, collecting jars for the vases–a pasta sauce jar, an olive jar, and two little yogurt jars. It went very well. I kept a few flowers for myself. There’s a lily I think will bloom… Read More »