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how to yell

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I like to go to a special place by some elk to express grief, rage, and any feelings that have been too long stuck in my body.  So glad I know how to yell. elk Last year I was upset about an emotional situation.  My suffering was tied in… Read More »

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trauma-informed physical therapy

Trauma-informed physical therapy could help many people.  I tried PT at a local place with great reviews and struggled to the point that I stopped going. It was easy to identify that the physical therapist touched me in ways that were supposed to reassure me, but just made me more anxious.  I worked up the… Read More »

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wound healing

Hello, reader.  How you doing?  There’s a sign that says “Wound Healing” near a local hospital in Springfield.  A place that specializes in healing wounds. Every time I see that sign, I imagine showing up to ask for help. “Please help me–I can’t heal these wounds on my own,” I say. So many times I’ve… Read More »

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death trauma

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  Do you have death trauma? I notice three main paths. We can ignore death, like fools! We can get deep into it–we can become death dulas, plan out how we want our bodies composted, and make peace with death through religion and/or preparation. Or the choice of me and… Read More »

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slut feelings

I’ve been doing non-monogamy since I was a teenager.  It’s been 30 years.  Yes, circa 1992, I began doing it with multi-folks and falling in love left and right, with all genders of people.  So I’m familiar with slut feelings. Mostly slut feelings for me are about overwhelm and guilt.  Slut feelings are not relaxing. … Read More »

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trauma as excuse

Trauma as excuse is a problem I see all the time.  I do radical mental health and encounter many, many crazy people–I love crazy people such as myself.  Especially the brilliant, creative ones.  How we talk about our traumas and use them socially affects everything. trauma as excuse I notice some people have a horrific… Read More »

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favorite aftercare

Hello–how are you doing?  This is about my favorite aftercare.  I went to the dentist, which is traumatic at the best of times.  I’d cracked a tooth. How in the hell did I crack a tooth?  I blame pistachios.  Lately pistachios were my favorite food.  Yes, they are delicious. But hmm, you’re not supposed to… Read More »

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realistic

Being real and realistic about who I am and what I want is some of the hardest work I do every day. I like to take it another layer.  It’s fun to think I found the real truth, then find a deeper truth. how I get more realistic It’s mostly about getting more and more… Read More »

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Las Vegas as abuser

I loved Las Vegas so much.  But lately I’ve been thinking about Las Vegas as abuser. moving When Ming and I moved away from Las Vegas last month, we were leaving my home, a place I’d given seven years of my life, the beautiful land where I went on the Sacred Peace Walk and learned… Read More »

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things we’re not supposed to talk about

“Hey, dear.  My asshole feels burning, sort of like I ate a hot chile.  Is that ok?” I asked Ming. “Yeah,” he said. “Only I didn’t eat a hot chile.  Maybe it’s from when I had diarrhea, previous night.  Did that ever happen to you?” I asked “Yeah,” he said. “Oh, but you always eat… Read More »