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music my mom liked

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about music my mom liked.  I’ve had a playlist of music I associate with my dad and his death for a long time.  When I feel my grief for my dad stuck inside me, I can hear these tunes and cry.  It’s helpful. But I finally started… Read More »

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how to know it’s a no

Trying to get away from the last person I was in a dysfunctional relationship with–wow, that was hard work.  I’ve had many low-key dysfunctional relationships, but this was one of the more dangerous and expensive.  I want to write about how to know it’s a no.  Please learn from my errors! when you’re afraid to… Read More »

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what to mourn

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about what to mourn.  Here’s a list of ideas if you need some alternatives to mourning what others are mourning.  I imagine a flower falling into a hole in the ground for each of these items listed. what to mourn Mourn your own childhood.  The good parts,… Read More »

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walnut boxes

“Hey, dear.  I think we should make some walnut boxes.  It would be a great way to use less plastic…  Just put a hinge on the whole walnut shells.  Yeah!  Walnut boxes would be so cute!” I said. We were in Ojai.  Ming was driving us from the farm toward town.  He seemed open to… Read More »

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farm news

Hello, I wanted to share some farm news with you, as we are about to leave.  The big farm news is they bought a pretty green tractor. Isn’t it a cute little tractor?  I heard they paid $9000.  They used to rent one, sometimes.  But now it’s a functional toy, owned. Another farm news item… Read More »

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pea shoot

Hello, we were in Ojai and ate some sprout salad we’d bought at the farmers market.  I like eating the sunflower greens best.  But we also like pea shoot. “Pea shoot is just a nice word,” I told Ming.  “Feels good to say.  Pea shoot!  Pea shoot!”  I tried out different ways.  “What if we… Read More »

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art about my dad

Hello, I made some art about my dad.  I actually made it for my niece.  I was supposed to see her when Ming and I were in the area, and I was going to hand it to her. But then her coworker got covid, and she didn’t want to share a germ.  So she canceled. … Read More »

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your home

“Your home” is a letter to friends. thank you Thank you for letting us stay in your home as we regroup and figure out what to do.  Last night I slept eight hours after more than a week of serious sleep deprivation.  I’ve been so stressed and suffering, putting my body through hell.  It’s healing… Read More »

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burying the significant wax

Ming and I did a ritual burying the significant wax.  The wax was from a candle I called the friendship candle. birthday One year I was very sad and hopeless.  Then this penpal I adore in the Pacific Northwest sent me a box of presents for my birthday.  It included lavender scented soap, lavender scented… Read More »

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Laura-Marie and the case of the stolen pups

Oh hey.  How are you doing?  This is Laura-Marie and the case of the stolen pups.  I was freaking out the other day because I realized someone had stolen my pups.  The succulent that Ming and I rescued from the community garden’s junk pile–it got so beautiful and even flowered, in our garden.  And it… Read More »