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story

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  My housemate was telling me a story in the kitchen.  We were cooking our last dinner together before they left our community. When someone’s telling me a story, I like to interrupt them.  I say–wait, wait.  Can I guess what’s going to happen? It’s a bad habit.  May be… Read More »

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dating a fat person

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  It’s important to know something about fat people if you’re dating a fat person.  Some background info will help you be respectful.  So I’m writing to speak my truth, but also as a public service announcement. dating a fat person is special We all get harmed in one way… Read More »

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regulating vs healing

Hello, reader.  How are you?  I’ve been thinking about regulating vs healing.  Do you make a distinction? Is “regulating” part of your vocabulary?  Maybe regulating is a therapy word or seems clinical.  It makes the think of machines.  I’m not a machine.  But sometimes I see myself as a system that can get out of… Read More »

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nipple check

“Is this clothes ok?” I asked Ming.  Yes, my syntax can be idiosyncratic.  It was a nipple check. He looked at me.  He was standing in the doorway of our bedroom, getting dressed himself. “Yeah, looks great,” he said. “Can you see my nipples?” I asked.  The shirt is sheer.  I might have worn it… Read More »

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learning about bees

Hello, reader.  What have you been learning about lately?  I’ve been changing a ton.  I hope you like this pic of my late spring altar.  My changes include learning about New Mexico, disability justice and accessible design, opossums, and giant kelp.  But also I’ve been  learning about bees. I’ve been investigating life in our wet… Read More »

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rice museum of rocks and minerals

Hello, reader.  How are you?  Do you like earth stuff?  Ming and I are traveling for fun in Oregon and looked online at cheap places to visit with an EBT card.  We considered the Portland Japanese gardens, the Chinese gardens I love with their amazing teahouse, maybe an art museum?  Then I saw the Rice… Read More »

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my gratitude for late April

Hello, reader.  How are you?  This is my gratitude for late April.  Please join me in celebrating the goodness that fills my life. eyes I’m so glad my eyes got better.  I had an illness which started as a cold, then a week of gastrointestinal distress, then my eyes got gunky / gummy and hurting… Read More »

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peanut butter

Hello, reader.  How are you today?  I’ve been using peanut butter in inappropriate ways lately.  Is that worth a blog post in itself?  Let’s figure that out–together.  High five seems appropriate here, in a cartoon way. thick What do you think of peanut butter?  I liked it from childhood, but found it a bit thick… Read More »

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my favorite plants

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  A housemate asked me what my favorite plants are.  They had mentioned the rhododendrons are blooming, and I admitted that I am not too keen on rhododendrons. “What plants do you like?” my housemate asked.  We were on a walk, nearing home.  I didn’t have much time to answer.… Read More »

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what I need friends for

I was thinking about what I need friends for.  I got close to a new housemate who seemed to have a different project socially than mine.  He’s charming, brilliant, and kind, with his fingers in many pies of activism and social change.  We live in community together and have a ton in common. But we… Read More »