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courage

I saw a red candle at a special store, in the witchy area, and I wanted it.  The candle was designated for courage. I need more courage in my life–the courage to stick with difficult situations through hard times, being myself steadfastly, staying honest always, even when I’m scared.  When I’m scared, that’s the only… Read More »

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fae food

Hello, reader–how are you doing?  What have you been thinking about lately?  I’ve been thinking about relationships, how touch functions in my life, and fae food. Do you have the relationships you need to feel strong and do your life’s work?  I am doing quite well on relationships.  I have Ming, who is almost always… Read More »

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divest

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about breaking up.  My good friend is about to break up with a partner.  It’s been a long time coming.  I did that divorce ritual with my housemate a couple weeks ago, when she quit her job.  Breaking up is a weird extreme thing to do.  I… Read More »

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suicide hotline

Hello–how are you doing?  Have you ever called a suicide hotline?  How was it? People I know and respect share suicide hotline number materials on social media.  I find the whole thing confusing.  Here are my questions. Have you ever called that number? How were you treated? What happened to you? Was the person at… Read More »

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active and passive safety

Hello.  I was talking to my elder housemate friend about safety.  He’d mentioned safety can contribute to laziness.  I disagreed, as I see safety as a vibrant, living thing if it’s going to be actually safe for anyone.  Sort of like nonviolence.  That sparked a fun conversation.  My friend suggested I write about active and… Read More »

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dear man

Hello–how are you?  My friend and I were talking about DBT, and they reminded me how DBT has some cool acronyms.  They like DEAR MAN.  Yes, me too! Here is a nice handout describing it. https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php dialectical behavioral therapy Have you done DBT?  Some people do it in the hospital.  I did it outpatient for… Read More »

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racism while traveling

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about racism while traveling.  Have you experienced it?  Were you scared? My mom was Mexican-American, and my dad was white.  I appear white.  We had a tense moment or two when I was in jr high and my family visited Missouri, where my dad’s side of the… Read More »

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how to be alone

Hello, how are you?  A stranger on a social media group for fat health said they need to spend some hours in public by themselves, in a city away from home, and they’re nervous about it.  They asked for advice for this situation–how to be alone in public, as a fat person. Yes, it can… Read More »