“When is masculinity not toxic?” Ming asked. He’d just read a fake headstone that says RIP toxic masculinity. Good question, dear. We were taking a rain walk yesterday morning, passing by our house’s main garden. Housemates made pretend headstones, some years back? One says RIP hatred. One says RIP toxic masculinity. I think another says… Read More »
“What about jealousy?” I asked. “Does your partner do it with other people? How is that for you?” My good friend and I were at a park in Portland, visiting after some weeks apart. I felt curious about how their close nesting relationship is going. “I don’t have much jealousy–it’s more FOMO,” my friend answered. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Do you like to get high? Probably most people do, or have liked it in the past. I like to get high from ecstatic dance, touch with trusted dear ones, maybe a delicious meal. I don’t like drugs for getting high, but I love a lot of people who… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love you–thank you for stopping by. I’m writing about meal planning today. Here’s some lovely red beans I made the other day. Somebody asked about it on social media, so meal planning is on my mind. It’s one of my favorite survival strategies. I use meal planning as… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing these days? I made a new zine: how to make beautiful signs for demonstrations. It’s a mini-zine–one legal size page folded up. It has some cool ideas–I like it. How to make beautiful signs for demonstrations had been on my mind for some months. So I’m glad I finally… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s life? A good friend-housemate asked me about fashion. He’s learning more how to sew. He makes beautiful embroidery and quilts. But now he wants to make clothes too. Oh, but what about gender? He is a he/they trans enby person. He doesn’t wanna wear a dress these days. But maybe he wants… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? You know my darling Ming has narcolepsy, a sleep disorder. Everyone has been sleepy, but only some people have narcolepsy. I’m always thinking about being disabled in community, and how disabled people are understood and misunderstood, in our homes and out in the world. I want to help make… Read More »
Hello, reader–how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about how I developed faith. Not according to any particular religion. Just faith that I’m ok and I can trust the universe, Parent Earth, and my ancestors to hold me. Faith is the deep well-being that makes possible all the good I do for myself and others. … Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Ming and I visited the artesian well in Olympia, Washington during our recent trip north to Portland and Seattle. I love Olympia’s well and sent a picture to my friend. They asked to hear more, so I write this post for my friend and for everyone. I first visited… Read More »
“Letting go of body shame helped me lose art shame,” I told my friend. They were asking how I got my art practice. Yes, I think body shame is at the root of all the shame that has kept me from doing what I need to do. Healing my shame is a big deal–it frees… Read More »