“Stop worrying about what other people think,” is common advice I’ve been told many times. I want to write about my experience because the ideas are bigger than just you and me. disabled I’m a fat, disabled person who’s heard voices all my life, and I can’t do some commonplace things. But I can do… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Someone on a social media site said recently… she’s a 48 year old woman with a few skills for homesteading like sewing, gardening, foraging, and herbalism. But she wanted ideas of what more to learn. She mentioned she sews but doesn’t make her own patterns, as if she was… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Recently I asked for help with the dance. Today I’m asking for help with my writing. Not the writing itself, but helping it reach more people. Thank you for caring about the expression of my truth. Thank you for bringing my words into yourself and sifting them into your… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about more ways to say no. You know some people including autistic people struggle with social norms. And some people are anxious. My darling spouse Ming has a language-related learning disability. Sometimes word chunks and example sentences can help when we’re under stress. This is less of… Read More »
This post things I like about you today is a letter. Dear friend, Here are some things I like about you today. I like how you have values that are based on your own perceptions, preferences, and decisions. Culture hands us scripts, and you mostly threw them all out into the wild yellow yonder, where… Read More »
This list poem “poetry” is a love poem to my friend. Thank you for making me sing my own poem to the river. Thank you for helping see parts of my stodgy stuckness, my wrongness. Thank you for busting me up with poetry. Thank you for confusing me generatively. Thank you for giving me a… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I love how apology transforms energy. This is part two to a post from last month called “what apology is for.” I’ve been thinking about magic words, like “thank you” and “I’m sorry.” Magic words play with trust and power, social concepts that I think about all day. Love… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? I’ve been thinking about how to reduce conflict in relationships. My last two intimate relationships besides Ming were destroyed by conflict. Well, that’s one way of looking at things. (More about that later.) I was brainstorming ways to reduce conflict in relationships, because that’s the kind of Virgo I am. Problems… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I prefer being lovers. Being friends, I have to leave so much of myself at the door. I have to keep my clothes on. Sexuality is not supposed to arrive–sex is mostly not welcome. I want to be all of me. I need places and people who let me… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Someone I’ve loved for a long time asked me how to write more. He sees me as prolific, and it’s true. I make a lot of zines–it’s been 36 years– and I used to blog here every day. Now I have multiple websites, write a monthly column for a… Read More »