Hello, reader. How are you doing? Self-preservation and safety are animal drives. Whether the bed was store bought, homemade, some leaves in the forest, a roadside sleeping bag, a doghouse, a warren, a coop, a hole you found, the den you dug with your own claws… When we lie down to sleep, many of us… Read More »
“Were you burned out when you left Lost Valley?” I asked Ming. “No, I don’t think so,” Ming said. Ming spent five years at Lost Valley in various roles, including caring for the chickens and Registered Nurse, but was unmedicated for narcolepsy at the time. So Ming was even sleepier and more disabled than they… Read More »
Help is sacred. I like help as part of reciprocal relationship. We can build trust by asking for help, accepting help from others, and being there for each other reliably and creatively. Not unsafe trust based on wishes, but broad trust based on experiences. Trust is a way to feel safe and create meaning. needs… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Often I ask Ming to pray for me. For many years, his prayers were silent. Then all of a sudden, he prayed for me with words. Wow–incredible! Where did that come from? I want to tell you about Ming’s blessing. Ming’s blessing It was something like this. May you… Read More »
Hello, how have you been? Lately Ming and I are getting used to our new home here in community in Oregon. Wow, it’s a lot of work! Trust is exhausting. weather Ming and I were taking a walk. There were wet leaves on the ground. I enjoyed moving through space in the cold. I asked… Read More »
Hello, I’ve been so anxious lately. But I’d like to take a moment to list what’s going right. I want to trust my body, and trust other people too. trust It’s hard to trust my body and my health. I have so many reasons to be afraid. My dad’s heart attack, strokes, and all his… Read More »
Hello, how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what’s the most scary thing about love. trust This came up for me because I was talking to my new housemate the other day. He was in the kitchen, and I was in the dining room. We were sorting some foods, and when he mentioned a… Read More »
Hello, I’ve been thinking about what is safe. Do you feel safe? What percentage of the time? In your home, outside your home? In your own body? Do you think you deserve to feel safe? How about other people–do we? Do you accept that what you need to feel safe might be different from what… Read More »
When I was a kid, sighing was a scary sound. It was a sound my dad made when he was upset, and it meant someone else needed to fix his feelings real quick, or we would all be in trouble. His sigh was a sign that we had a few seconds until things got violent.… Read More »
Imagine if the truth about our own bodies and needs was trusted. If we weren’t expected to hand over our power. If medical pathologizing wasn’t the only way to have our health needs seen as legitimate. I’ve been thinking about this for a long time, since a friend told me that people like me need… Read More »