Help is sacred. I like help as part of reciprocal relationship. We can build trust by asking for help, accepting help from others, and being there for each other reliably and creatively. Not unsafe trust based on wishes, but broad trust based on experiences. Trust is a way to feel safe and create meaning. needs… Read More »
Hi, reader. How are you doing? Last week I had a dentist appointment, the easiest I’ve ever had. I think I understand now, how to survive the dentist. Historically I’m upset the day before, freaked out the day of, then need two days to recover. Yes, four days blown! Only pre-care, appointment, and aftercare on… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? I saw a video about some displaced Mexican people embroidering maps. It’s beautiful and sad. The Spanish as spoken in the video is comprehensible to me. The video is short but made me think a lot. I’m thinking about home maps art vs craft memories history who we preserve history… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Did you know Ming is the social one, and I’m the hidden home art witch? Ming goes out all the time without me, so people are asking about me. My preference is to stay home and cook, write, draw and paint, and talk to my dear ones over txt… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Recently I asked for help with the dance. Today I’m asking for help with my writing. Not the writing itself, but helping it reach more people. Thank you for caring about the expression of my truth. Thank you for bringing my words into yourself and sifting them into your… Read More »
Dear playful friend, I was doing an interview with PUSO which is part of a book project. We were talking about community; I asked PUSO what community is. PUSO explained different ways of conceptualizing community; then siya turned the tables and asked me what community is. So I went off. We come to community for… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about more ways to say no. You know some people including autistic people struggle with social norms. And some people are anxious. My darling spouse Ming has a language-related learning disability. Sometimes word chunks and example sentences can help when we’re under stress. This is less of… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? Can I tell you what uncomfortable is like? For me, it’s like pain but a little bit less. Like pain that rumbles instead of stabbing. Uncomfortable is distressing. Uncomfortable is feeling wrong in my skin, or feeling like, “Hmm, I can do this for a short time. Then I gotta go.”… Read More »
Hey, reader. Are you radical? That word has bad connotation to some. But you know I do radical mental health, one of my main projects. Radical is a favorite concept and word. Likewise Ming is radical. We’re buddies on that. Luckily almost all of our values are shared: our relationship has such longevity partly for… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you how I married myself on New Year’s Day. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. It changed me. At first I didn’t want to blog about it because I felt protective. How I married myself felt too sacredly important to share widely.… Read More »