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basic needs for close relationship

  Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about my basic needs for close relationship. Ming and I have lived in Kalapuya land for almost a year now.  I’m getting to know this biome and this town, and we’re forming alliances.  I need to be close to people who treat me in ways… Read More »

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reasons to live

Hello, reader.  How are you today?  I want to show you some reasons to live. I create this list for a specific friend.  But maybe it could be useful to you also. reasons to live hugs dogs soaking in a hot tub stars tacos strange dreams pizza helping someone skiing music friendship the desert storytelling… Read More »

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friendship stress

Hello, reader.  How are you doing today?  I’m thinking about friendship stress after a valuable conversation I had with a housemate friend. how friendship feels How do you feel in friendship?  Are your connections feeling supportive helpful real trustworthy safe enough Do you have what you need with other people?  Are other people even worth… Read More »

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what communication is

Hello, how are you, reader?  So much, I’m thinking about community lately.  Ming and I are learning a lot in our home.  We had a zoom dinner with a prospective new housemate, and he asked about how conflict is handled in the house.  It brought up a lot of feelings for me, and I’ve been… Read More »

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you make me wish I wasn’t homeless

Hello, I wrote a new song.  First it was called You make me wish I wasn’t homeless.  Now I think it’s called Song for Danielle.  Wow, and it was her birthday yesterday. The song is heartfelt and has some funny parts, and I hope you like it.  Please hear it if you can and share with… Read More »

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do you sing

“Do you sing?” my friend asked me. We were on his porch in the morning, and he had just sung a few songs for me to dance to at my request.  Down By the River, something like Give Me Jesus, and a Gate Gate Parasamgate. He spoke to me of many things: pottery his mom… Read More »

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zine community

Zine community is important to me.  I have a friend who makes Echo Publishing, and she does a ton for the zine community.  I’m so grateful to her!  Echo Publishing has been going for 21 years. Recently my friend posted her zine reads from May of this year, and a couple zines by me are… Read More »

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refill my cup

I need a lot of self-care and do it all day, but community care is important too.  I’ve been thinking a lot about boundaries, reciprocal relationships, what I really need, and what being refilled looks like.  I’ve complained about feeling used in relationships and people not reciprocating, like in this post.  But how do I… Read More »

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riverbed buddies

Usually my good friend Ariel and I talk via technology.  We txt and polo often!  With some emails, shared googledocs, and social media for good measure.  When we get together, we usually just talk.  There may be food, embroidery, tarot.  But I thought it might be fun to go to my favorite riverbed with her… Read More »

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fat folks tarot

Oh hey, something exciting happened.  My good friend Ariel said I can use her name in my blog.  Wow!  Thank you, Ariel.  Another exciting thing is my Fat Folks Tarot deck arrived, a gift from two good friends who live elsewhere.  What a supportive, kind gift to nourish my well-being.  I was so happy.  I… Read More »