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bathrooms

Hello, how are you doing?  Ming and I are on a journey, searching for home.  I’m thinking about my needs lately, the true truth.  Not what I think I should need, but what I actually, for reaslsies need to feel safe in my home.  A big part of that is bathrooms. I was worried about… Read More »

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what is safe

Hello, I’ve been thinking about what is safe.  Do you feel safe?  What percentage of the time?  In your home, outside your home?  In your own body? Do you think you deserve to feel safe?  How about other people–do we?  Do you accept that what you need to feel safe might be different from what… Read More »

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needs

Ming and I were looking for a place to live that’s not in the desert.  That process helped me vision, long and hard.  I started thinking in a new way about what I need.  What are the basic needs, my minimum requirements? Long ago I made a list of what I would enjoy for my… Read More »

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what saved me

I was telling my good friend about an experience I had as a kid that was vital to my well-being.  It helped me understand there’s a bigger world than my home and the town I lived in.  At UC Santa Barbara I learned about queerness, race, freedom, music, writing, friendship.  It helped me understand that… Read More »

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surprise of spring

“Surprise of spring?” I asked Ming.  He looked at me–we were at the cabin in Arizona we like to retreat to. “That horseradish stuff, mixed with beets!  I love it!” I said.  Ming seemed curious as he listened to me. “I tried it at Passover.  It’s not too hot at all,” I continued.  Horseradish has… Read More »

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numbers

“First of all, he likes us.  Second of all, he needs us,” I told Ming.  “Fourth of all, why would he even want to do that?” In the bathroom, I realized I’d skipped item number three.  Oops.  In my dismay, I erred on my numbers. dreams Do you read in your dreams?  I often read… Read More »

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things I’ve learned lately

Would you like to know some things I’ve learned lately?  I would consider them conclusions.  I experience the world, have reactions, and sometimes it takes me a while to connect dots and decide meaning. These are things I’ve learned lately, the decisions. multiply worker time estimates times three When we were told the electrical work… Read More »

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tribe vs nation

Oh hey.  I am not Native American.  My dad was a white guy born in England.  My mom was a Mexican-American person born in United States.  New Mexico is where my peeps on that side are from. Yesterday I recorded my favorite Chencho song, Borders Crossed Us.  Please give it a listen, if you get… Read More »

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moon option

media difference If you know me, you know I don’t watch tv or movies.  I don’t care for them 99% of the time.  Writing and reading are pretty easy for me–watching a movie or show is hard work.  My mind just doesn’t want to do that. I get the characters mixed up–they usually all look… Read More »

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what stops change

Hey, there was a meme I was dissatisfied by, so I had some commentary, made a list of my own, of what stops change, in my life. I realized it would make a terrible meme because it was too much.  Then I realized there were factors inside me and outside me.  So I thought I… Read More »