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how friends can nurture

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I’m thinking how friends can nurture one another. I need support and help, but it’s hard to figure out what to ask for.  Today when I asked Spirit what I most need, Spirit said I need to be nurtured.  Yes, that’s true. I miss my mom.  Ming is very… Read More »

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standards

Hello, reader.  How you doing?  Drugs used in therapeutic ways can be powerful, like in ritual and ceremony.  Ketamine and shrooms can be useful.  But there’s potential for abuse when roles blur.  A friend of mine was sexually violated in a drug situation that was supposed to be safe and healing.  Standards for harm reduction… Read More »

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age difference

Hello, reader–how are you doing?  How do you navigate age difference?  I had a lot of older friends when I was young.  Now that I’m middle aged, I have a lot of younger friends. You know me–I see people as people.  I’m not scared off by difference.  In fact I seek it out.  Difference is… Read More »

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chakras

“Is it ok with you, if your chakras are cleansed while we’re sleeping?” I asked Ming.  Yes, I’m into consent. We were going to bed.  Sometimes I like a white noise video like rainstorm, ocean waves, or singing bowls sound bath.  That way we have a better chance of not waking the other up, as… Read More »

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delusional

content warning: sexual harassment, stalking, mental health shaming Someone did a bad thing.  He sexually harassed a young person and stalked her.  So much bad behavior.  Ming and I were hearing about it from a witness.  “He’s just delusional,” the witness said. I was sad about the bad behavior, and I was curious about the… Read More »

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what I hate about myself

Hello–how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about what I hate about myself.  Normally I am very kind and caring to myself.  I work hard to love myself unconditionally, as you know. But every once in a while, I get frustrated with things I do and find myself spouting angrily, “I hate that about me! … Read More »

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how I’m a slut

I was telling my friend how sluts are the best.  She did something she felt slutty about, and she thought that might be a bad thing.  My opinions started to sound like a blog post.  This is about how I’m a slut and what’s so great about us. Slut is what a woman is called… Read More »

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flower crown

Hello, I have been wearing this flower crown sometimes.  People seem nicer when I wear it.  Sometimes they smile at me or give me a thumbs up.  Maybe I will wear it more often? I was wearing it that day at a food giveaway when I was singing the Bob Dylan song.  We ate all… Read More »

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how old I was when I learned about bodily autonomy

Recently I was asked an important question during a healing circle led by a friend.  My friend asked how old I was when I learned about bodily autonomy. Hmm, what a question.  I remember when I was a kid, my dad had bodily autonomy.  People were allowed to touch him only in certain ways, at… Read More »

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how I learned to respect everyone

Hello, how are you doing?  I’ve been thinking about how I learned to respect everyone.  Ming and I had a cool conversation about it the other day in the car. why “Why are you so respectful?” I asked Ming.  It seems too rare.  “Did something happen, or has the respectfulness just always been inside of… Read More »