Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking about consent around love. I say I love you to strangers trees my own body parts the sky Parent Earth buildings vehicles friends gravity bodies of water… In romantic relationships, I like to ask for consent because “I love you” freaks some people out. They feel it… Read More »
Letting people go is a way I maintain happy relationships. Maybe it’s counter-intuitive. But letting people go is a way I emphasize someone’s freedom and release them from old contracts. I love consent. Consent is sacred. I want to respect everyone’s freedom. But sometimes I get confused and think someone owes me something. Sorry about… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’re you doing? I’m thinking about how needs work in relationships. Over the decades I’ve been close to many people. partners best friends beloved penpals close friends chosen family Often I get closer and closer to someone until we hit our big issue. Sometimes we can recover from that, and sometimes we never do.… Read More »
Hello, reader. You know how stuff is happening all around us constantly? I have some basic, obvious reactions. But the truth is, I have ten reactions, and some of them are quiet. If I have ten reactions, number nine and number ten might be tiny whispers. People say I have “delayed processing,” often the case… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I’m thinking how friends can nurture one another. I need support and help, but it’s hard to figure out what to ask for. Today when I asked Spirit what I most need, Spirit said I need to be nurtured. Yes, that’s true. I miss my mom. Ming is very… Read More »
Hello, reader. How you doing? Drugs used in therapeutic ways can be powerful, like in ritual and ceremony. Ketamine and shrooms can be useful. But there’s potential for abuse when roles blur. A friend of mine was sexually violated in a drug situation that was supposed to be safe and healing. Standards for harm reduction… Read More »
Hello, reader–how are you doing? How do you navigate age difference? I had a lot of older friends when I was young. Now that I’m middle aged, I have a lot of younger friends. You know me–I see people as people. I’m not scared off by difference. In fact I seek it out. Difference is… Read More »
“Is it ok with you, if your chakras are cleansed while we’re sleeping?” I asked Ming. Yes, I’m into consent. We were going to bed. Sometimes I like a white noise video like rainstorm, ocean waves, or singing bowls sound bath. That way we have a better chance of not waking the other up, as… Read More »
content warning: sexual harassment, stalking, mental health shaming Someone did a bad thing. He sexually harassed a young person and stalked her. So much bad behavior. Ming and I were hearing about it from a witness. “He’s just delusional,” the witness said. I was sad about the bad behavior, and I was curious about the… Read More »
Hello–how are you doing? I’ve been thinking about what I hate about myself. Normally I am very kind and caring to myself. I work hard to love myself unconditionally, as you know. But every once in a while, I get frustrated with things I do and find myself spouting angrily, “I hate that about me! … Read More »