I wrote an open letter to fairies. It explains a boundary for my emotional-spiritual health. It’s about how I can’t share physical contact casually. Just to clarify– I’m talking about any faeries. Radical faeries in the woods who don’t wear much clothes and celebrate pagan holidays. Faeries who bite. Faeries who speak on the wind,… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? There’s a sign on my fridge–I made it to be kinder to Ming and for my own health and well-being. It says “That’s just language, please move on!” I made this sign to improve arguments with Ming. Often when we argue, it has to do with something Ming said… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? There’s a Bible verse I like–it’s in Proverbs. I remember it from when I was a kid. Recently I read it because a community member where Ming and I live has the Proverbs verse as her email sig file. “I really like this Bible verse,” I told Ming and… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? You know I’m able to be around people these days in a conventional manner. Well, I stim a lot and cry extra, and I laugh at the wrong times. I might say something inappropriate. But I’m disabled and have the autism. When I was young, there were years I… Read More »
Long ago when I was married to my ex-husband, he started making waves in his family of origin after decades of being controlled and abused. He was the youngest child and the only boy of all the cousins. As a child he had a remarkable speech delay and other developmental differences. As a young adult… Read More »
Hello, reader. Happy new year–how are you? Do you have experience talking with kids about racism? I was sad the other day, remembering when I worked on a reservation in the Eastern Sierras in California and I flubbed an opportunity. race Talking with kids about racism is confusing because I respect kids as bright people… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Sometimes I make a social mistake. Oops, happens to the best of us. I’m still testing out my mouth and how to be a person among people. Communication is important in community. How we talk about disability affects how we’re perceived and treated. what work is My community member… Read More »
Hello, reader. Do you know how to argue? My good friend broke up with their partner. Listening to how it went toward the end, I wondered about the communication skills. “Did you never learn how to argue?” I asked. “We never argued,” my friend quietly said. “Wow,” I said. “I see how that would be… Read More »
“Yeah, that guy is the ED,” Ming said. “The executive director.” “Oh,” I said. “I thought you meant the erectile dysfunction.” We laughed. Yes, powerful people who perform class in yuck ways, believe in business models, and think they deserve more money than other people destroy my erections, personally. I used to have to pass… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? Here are some funny conversations lately. needs “I want to go to the desert–I need the desert,” I told Ming. “But at the same time, I never want to be in the desert again.” We were driving near McKenzie River for some nature time, near the place we picked… Read More »