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beans

“I don’t want to upset him, like the white fragility thing.  But then I also don’t want to avoid upsetting him because he’s a white guy.” Ming was pondering a choice to make, about how to respond to a friend’s request that was racially inappropriate. “Yeah, I hear ya,” I said.  “But you don’t have… Read More »

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fairies

“Yeah, better than if you were leaning over the railing to see a sealion, and your glasses fell off, into the water.  Plop!  Then a sealion came up wearing your glasses.” I was giggling at this fantasy, as I told it.  “I’d be like–hey, cute sealion!  And then I would turn into a selkie, and… Read More »

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food photos

Here are some food photos, for your salivating pleasure. I cooked some amaranth for breakfast, but I used coconut milk instead of water.  And I used my crockpot on the white rice setting.  Wow, it carmelized a little on the bottom, and was sweet.  This was trader joe’s coconut milk.  It was supposed to be… Read More »

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apology, revolution, four pounds of beans in a tamale pot

The problem with telling people how I feel is they might believe they need to change their behavior. I want to be honest without being controlling. Is that possible? I apologize to people for when I did or said something I was afraid was hurtful, and some people have a big reaction to that. A… Read More »