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codependency

Codependency is a concept to explain a relationship situation many lovers find ourselves in.  Loving men who are addicts–that’s the type of codependency I’m most familiar with, from seeing that in my family of origin and in my own life. I believe the whole concept of codependency exists to blame the victim, and I’ve seen… Read More »

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rest

Rest is sacred, one of the pillars of my wellness.  Is rest sacred to you?  Does is help you feel happy and able to continue?  That’s what it is for me.  Rest isn’t optional–being alone, sleep, just doing nothing. psychoactive substances I was at a Whole Foods, standing by the checkout.  I saw a display… Read More »

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narcan

Oh hey.  We have some narcan to share.  I made a graphic about it. Do you live with someone who uses opioids?  Narcan is something to have on hand before you need it.  Overdosing on opioids is easy–a person can take a double dose on accident and then be out of their mind and take… Read More »

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melatonin

I tried melatonin before, and it made me feel like a zombie.  Melatonin is a hormone that helps regulate sleep.  I couldn’t get the dose small enough.  Even 1mg tabs knocked me out in a bad way. Then I had that panic attack recently and lots of trouble getting to sleep.  I needed help.  I… Read More »

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help

Hey, I wanted to mention that I need things.  Lately a few people are coming to me for help, and I’m glad I can share info, ideas, support, my own experience. I’m learning how to ask for help too.  It’s way easier for me to give help, than to learn how to ask for help.… Read More »

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how to have a happy family

Been thinking how to have a happy family.  Ming and I are good at it.  Spring will be our ten year anniversary of being together.  I’d say that’s a win. shared values We met at a mutual friend’s birthday party in Sacramento.  Our first friend date, Ming invited me and my ex-husband to pick satsumas… Read More »

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time out

I like to give myself a time out when I’m overstimulated or overwhelmed.  In my bedroom, with the lights off, lying in bed in the half-dark–that’s a time out.  There’s nothing punishing about it.  In fact, it’s my joy.  It’s rest, and rest is everything to me. My circuits get overloaded sometimes.  Probably that could… Read More »

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tips for withdrawal

I want to share some tips for withdrawal, what helps me.  But first I need to say–some withdrawals are dangerous. warning Sadly, people can die from withdrawal, and also people can miscarry.  So tapering is a good thing–alcohol and opioids especially.  Please consider talking to someone with alcohol or opioids experience, if you need to… Read More »

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needle exchange

A friend did harm reduction needle exchange in the Central Valley of California.  I enjoyed seeing this video of his work there. I’d heard of needle exchange but didn’t know much about it.  This video helped me learn a little about the materials given and collected, that it could happen in a park, how police… Read More »

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my body is a very smart lady

Crazy fat liberation is important to me.  I want to live in a world where I’m respected unconditionally.  My body is a very smart lady.  But it shouldn’t need to be smart or pretty or healthy or anything in particular, to be respected. You could understand me or not understand me–doesn’t matter.  You could totally… Read More »