Hello, reader. Do you think about what friendship is for? I’m showing up for friendship so I can engage a being mutually and learn a thing I could never otherwise learn.
Here are some various reasons to do friendship.
- activity partner
- comrade
- someone to bounce ideas off– for perspective
- build community
- networking
- see if this is someone to bring into my family
- mutual support
- share resources
- media recommendations
- back and forth art / game / writing responses
- conversation
- have a more diverse life
- learn about art, plants, gender, ritual, time, music, fashion, community, etc together
But my biggest reason for friendship is– this a sacred being, a nearby manifestation of God. I can encounter this being and learn something I never knew. This is a way to engage the Divine.
Yes! I’m curious. I want to listen, care, show up, and meet a person in a real way. Not everyone is ready for that vulnerability. Most people are casual.
I show up with a big heart ready to love, and a scientist’s mind ready to study. Also I have a memory problem– socially, I remember almost everything. So I store up a lot of information on accident, which gives me tons of data to work with.
unbalanced
I want my relationships to be balanced and collaborative. In the past I lived to support people who were destroying me. It was so much energy to stay in those situations and find a way to make it work, when the other person had low skills, and that was the main problem. That’s the reason they were drowning to begin with.
Very few people will grow a skill for you. If they could grow a skill, they would have done it for themselves, or they would have done it four lovers back.
That sounds harsh. I’ve seen people change, but it’s slow.
what I’m here for
So much bad I was trying to ignore. I’m glad to be a stronger person now, more grounded in the truth of who I am.
I was talking about this just the other day, last post: my goal these days is to be a fuckin’ bitch. Took a while, but here I am. Marrying myself helped.
Mother God put me here for specific work, not to throw my life away being sucked dry by one low-skills suffering person.
what friendship is for
I like friendships which are creative and honest. The more truth I can tell someone, the better. In fact, I like it best when someone helps me tell a new truth I never told before.
Thank you to everyone who helps make a safe little mini-culture with me where we can tell big truth.
I’ve talked about love and relationship in so many ways, on this blog and elsewhere. Thank you for enjoying the repetition. But probably you have never seen a picture of Ming with cilantro coming out of their mouth. So at least I give you that, if nothing more.
Yesterday at the pho shop. Dayenu.
