“Fuck yeah!” my chosen family member said. “I hope your beard grows so long you can braid it. I hope you can put flowers and bones in it. And teeth.” I laughed. “Wow!” I said, imagining my beard tinged with gray. Imagining the flowers, bones, and teeth woven in. “Whose teeth?” “I don’t know!” my… Read More »
“I have too much energy in my head, most of the time,” I said. “When I make art, it helps get some of the energy out, and then I feel better.” It was circle time at the end of our free queer grief art therapy class. A transwoman seated to my left nodded like she… Read More »
Hello, reader. How’s tricks? I’ve been thinking about how to reduce conflict in relationships. My last two intimate relationships besides Ming were destroyed by conflict. Well, that’s one way of looking at things. (More about that later.) I was brainstorming ways to reduce conflict in relationships, because that’s the kind of Virgo I am. Problems… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I want to tell you what apology is for. I have strong feelings about apology and have used it in ways some people have found strange. I’m writing this post as a letter to my dear one. magic words An apology is magic words, like “I love you” is… Read More »
This post “magic salve” is a letter to my friend. Dear one, Thank you for letting me give you that magic salve. I hope it helps you re-vision anything I say that sounds critical in the best possible light. That late afternoon golden light makes me feel kinda drunk, like the bee must feel drunk… Read More »
Hello, reader. How are you doing? I prefer being lovers. Being friends, I have to leave so much of myself at the door. I have to keep my clothes on. Sexuality is not supposed to arrive–sex is mostly not welcome. I want to be all of me. I need places and people who let me… Read More »
Hey, reader. How are you doing? Ming’s been drawing these beautiful chalk things. I’ve been thinking about why I say I love you all the time. Yesterday I realized that some people might not understand. So allow me to explain. I say I love you all the time because I’m trying to be clear about… Read More »
“Some of the eggplant skin is tough,” I said to my chosen family member. We were eating dinner before our herbal medics class. “Or else I ate the bay leaf.” From our facial expressions, it seemed that eating the bay leaf is taboo or transgressive. truth Do you like how in our families we create… Read More »