Dangerous Compassions

new needs list

Hello, reader.  How are you doing?  I made a new needs list.

needs list

what I want–in this house and generally
  • to show up as my whole self
  • give + receive respect
  • my skills & gifts used – recognized -appreciated
  • good investments emotionally spiritually – the amount that works for me
  • to be included
  • pleasure
  • to try out new ideas
  • no truth is forbidden to say

The whole thing is working up to that last one.  I’ve been in way too many situations where I couldn’t show up as my whole self–only part of me was welcome.  That related to truths that were forbidden to say.  I hope in this community and everywhere I go, I can say the thing that needs to be said which folx are avoiding saying.

Not like I want to be a gratuitously confrontative person.  I hate conflict.  But I’m solid in myself, which is more than I can say for most people.  I know who I am, and I’m safe in the world because I have my ancestors, Parent Earth loves me, I have a strong family with Ming, and many friends believe in me.

Also I know about pace, and I understand some things about tact.  I don’t need to loudly critique everyone’s clothing choices, but I should be able to yell that the emperor’s got no clothes, if need be.

Silence is too great a burden to carry.  I’m smart, notice things, and language is my pet.  Also I am brave, and I’m ready to speak now.  I understand that telling the truth is part of what I’m here on earth for.

I don’t want to make personal attacks or hurt people recklessly.  But when people in power are doing something wrong and don’t want to hear it, i doesn’t serve anyone to maintain the status quo at the expense of everyone else.

thank you

Thank you for looking at my new needs list.  I started it specific to this community that Ming and I live in.  It’s shorter than my usual needs lists for that reason.  But I like a short list.  Of course I need touch with people I trust, but that’s pleasure and comes with respect.  I love learning, but that’s a way of trying out new ideas.

It helps me to re-conceptualize my priorities and needs from time to time.  Surprising myself is my favorite.

By Laura-Marie

Good at listening to the noise until it makes sense.

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