Hello, reader. How are you doing? I made a new needs list.
what I want–in this house and generally
- to show up as my whole self
- give + receive respect
- my skills & gifts used – recognized -appreciated
- good investments emotionally spiritually – the amount that works for me
- to be included
- to try out new ideas
- no truth is forbidden to say
The whole thing is working up to that last one. I’ve been in way too many situations where I couldn’t show up as my whole self–only part of me was welcome. That related to truths that were forbidden to say. I hope in this community and everywhere I go, I can say the thing that needs to be said which folx are avoiding saying.
Not like I want to be a gratuitously confrontative person. I hate conflict. But I’m solid in myself, which is more than I can say for most people. I know who I am, and I’m safe in the world because I have my ancestors, Parent Earth loves me, I have a strong family with Ming, and many friends believe in me.
Also I know about pace, and I understand some things about tact. I don’t need to loudly critique everyone’s clothing choices, but I should be able to yell that the emperor’s got no clothes, if need be.
Silence is too great a burden to carry. I’m smart, notice things, and language is my pet. Also I am brave, and I’m ready to speak now. I understand that telling the truth is part of what I’m here on earth for.
I don’t want to make personal attacks or hurt people recklessly. But when people in power are doing something wrong and don’t want to hear it, i doesn’t serve anyone to maintain the status quo at the expense of everyone else.
Thank you for looking at my new needs list. I started it specific to this community that Ming and I live in. It’s shorter than my usual needs lists for that reason. But I like a short list. Of course I need touch with people I trust, but that’s pleasure and comes with respect. I love learning, but that’s a way of trying out new ideas.
It helps me to re-conceptualize my priorities and needs from time to time. Surprising myself is my favorite.